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    Bad hunch after hiring my maid. Need suggestions please!

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    • P Offline
      popireis
      last edited by

      All my maids paid for their own shipments… the last had excess baggage at the airport and I co-paid the $60 for the excess.


      You can sugg u put aside a certain amount of her salary for her every month for the shipment.

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        nms1
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        They can send quite cheaply through the companies that specialise in shipping to the Philippines/Indonesia. They can buy a big box and fill it with as much as they like for a fixed price. My maid did that when she went back at Christmas. She stuffed it full of old childrens’ clothes I gave her, phones/cameras that her friends were sending back, 3in1 coffee etc.

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          twinkletoes
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          Thanks for the advice and ideas. She’s agreed to ship that box by end of this month, using her own money. Phew!


          We plan to tell her we have financial restraints so cannot keep a maid. But will only tell her when her loan is cleared. A part of me feels guilty but this bad feeling is hard to shake off. I never ever felt that with my previous maid. Week 2 and the hunch is still strong. So I can’t ignore it. Will give her a month’s notice so she can decide to transfer or not. Hopefully no repercussions. Or is this a bad idea?

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            popireis
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            Hmm, riding on this thread for some suggestions too.


            My ex-maid wanna come back work for me. I am not entirely happy with the current one as well so I agree. Now, my questions are:

            1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?

            2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?

            3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?

            4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?

            Reason I cannot tell her too early is I worry she "chu" pattern when still with me, and she is taking care of my DSs while I’m working.

            First time changing maids "in between" so abit lost… appreciate any suggestions/advices. Thanks!

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              JJ1111
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              popireis:


              1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?
              If she is not really very bad, I feel you should let her transfer, as they spend BOMB coming here to work.
              [quote]2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?[/quote]I prefer to tell my maid straight why I don't like her. Mostly what I do is to tell her her strength of what I like her first. Than I tell her why I dislike her and want to transfer her out. I tell her because I want her to change to better at her next employer place.
              [quote]3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?[/quote]I think she will lose her course fee if you send her home.
              [quote]4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?[/quote]Depend on your agency contract with you. Most of the agency charge $10 per day.


              I will tell my maid on the very day I transferred her out. As I don't want her anything hanky panky. 😛 She will pack infront of me and go. 😛

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                Dannyho
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                popireis:
                Hmm, riding on this thread for some suggestions too.


                My ex-maid wanna come back work for me. I am not entirely happy with the current one as well so I agree. Now, my questions are:

                1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?

                2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?

                3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?

                4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?

                Reason I cannot tell her too early is I worry she \"chu\" pattern when still with me, and she is taking care of my DSs while I'm working.

                First time changing maids \"in between\" so abit lost... appreciate any suggestions/advices. Thanks!
                Hi,

                I am letting go my helper end of May & if your helper is not too bad, maybe you can consider tranferring her to me.
                Thanks
                Dannyho

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                  popireis
                  last edited by

                  Hi Dannyho


                  sent you a PM. Thanks! 🙂

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                    twinkletoes
                    last edited by

                    Need some more advice from fellow employers:


                    My maid’s day off today. So I kaypoh a bit in her room and found a pair of keys in her wardrobe. One is a small luggage key + large key (looks like house key).

                    Also found:
                    1 pawnshop receipt
                    1 jewellery shop receipt for $130

                    I checked my jewellery and everything is accounted for. And we don’t leave much cash in the house.

                    I have every right to be paranoid right? I’m getting in touch with the agent later. I really want her to pay off her loan (we paid it for her 1st) so she has to repay us. But I have a feeling we may have to write it off!

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                      phtthp
                      last edited by

                      Looks like she stealing jewelry, pawn off, get $ buy new jewelery

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                        Harlequin
                        last edited by

                        twinkletoes:
                        Need some more advice from fellow employers:


                        My maid's day off today. So I kaypoh a bit in her room and found a pair of keys in her wardrobe. One is a small luggage key + large key (looks like house key).

                        Also found:
                        1 pawnshop receipt
                        1 jewellery shop receipt for $130

                        I checked my jewellery and everything is accounted for. And we don't leave much cash in the house.

                        I have every right to be paranoid right? I'm getting in touch with the agent later. I really want her to pay off her loan (we paid it for her 1st) so she has to repay us. But I have a feeling we may have to write it off!
                        Hi,

                        Do you keep a checklist of her jewelry when she starts work? I do, and I asked that she update the list whenever she buys a item.

                        I practise this after a friend's advice, is for the good of both parties, and I am glad that my maid fully understand that.

                        She did pawned away her necklace that my MIL gave to her last birthday present, and she made known to me that she did it to have extra cash as she has just bought a old house which she needs to do lots of repairs.

                        I hope you can talk to her to find out more before taking any action.

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