Bad hunch after hiring my maid. Need suggestions please!

[KSmom8]

nms1:

KSmom8:

[quote=\"vinegar\"]Another story....my colleague's didn't give her maid off day,n her maid happily accepted it.


She was puzzled why her maid looked tired recently. So she decided to chk her at night.Nothing happened. Then one morning,her MIL went to look the maid to help looking for her shoes(MIL brisk walking alternate days).She went into the maid,tried to wake her up,she didn't response.Curious,she flipped open the blanket n found............a long bolster.

The maid actually went out ard 5am to meet her bf almost everyday.She was oredi 4months pregnant.

Heard all these about maids inviting men / friends to employer's house.

I check the locks and keep the house keys in my room every night. I don't let my maid have a set of house keys on her days off. I also try not to keep to a routine, so sometimes, I come back home at a time when I'm usually out.

Please just make sure that if you lock up at night, you all have an easy escape route in the event of fire. Better an errant maid than a tragedy.[/quote]I absolutely agree.

For my place, the keys are nearer to where we all sleep and everyone knows where the keys are at night... Easier access ... plus we don't lock our bedroom door since kids are in another bedroom.

Might be a problem for 2 or 3 storey houses or those with alarms.... Wonder what precautions can be taken :scratchhead:

[Sweet Joy]

Chemistry in a relationship can make or break it. My previous maid seemed hardworking, but she has the habit of irritating me. She stubbornly sticks to her ways, despite teaching her and making my expectations known. It was like teaching a new maid every month. In the end, I let her leave, because the thought of her and by seeing her I naturally got angry. Sometimes our gut feeling or intuition, etc is something we should examine.


I tried to tell myself it’s alright as she is hardworking, but it just did not work. She constantly made me angry. On the day she left, she kept apologising for making me angry. I came to realise that she probably did it on purpose. Motive? Maybe she wants a one-way ticket home to see her bf. However, I let her transfer instead.

Anyway, I am glad that she is gone.But I am trying to manage without a maid to try out. No heartache, but my body aches. Haha.

[twinkletoes]

POA Teacher:

Why can't her cousin come to your place to collect the money?

I didn't bother to ask as I don't see her as a long term helper. So she came back from Lucky Plaza and I noticed she bought a few snacks. I have no problems with her buying snacks using her own money. She bought juice and a large multi-pack potato chips from the UK. I shouldn't judge but she really has expensive taste! This morning my child saw the juice (hers) in the fridge. Maid tells him he can't have it as \"mummy said no\". That really annoyed me because I'd already explained to her, on her 1st day, why I had to control my children's sugary drinks and snacks - according to the dentist's feedback. I showed her their dental bills. So now I'm the wicked mum of the east.

I want her to leave today but I can't. I've just started a new freelance job this week so I need her for now. My work days are flexible but long.

During our discussion, I told her the option is always open for either party to end the contract prematurely.

She said if she's terminated, she'd like to go home and not get transferred. Reason being, she's missing her family and has worked here for 6 years. And if I could let her work till end July so she she has time to pay her 1 month agency loan and to save a bit.

So based on that, I have a few questions for the experienced forummers here:

Obviously, I will pay for her flight home. But she arrived at my home with 2 large and heavy suitcases and a large box (filled to the brim already ) that she wants to ship when she has money. I think she is waiting for me to offer. I used to pay my ex-maid's shipments but this maid really annoys me. I would suggest firstly, that she stops buying her expensive Norwegian fish, expensive British brand snacks and then maybe she'd have money leftover!

So am I obligated to pay for the box to be shipped (approx $130) and for her excess baggage? We're talking very heavy suitcases here.

On hindsight, my very average, so-so cleaning, former part-time maid was heaven sent!

[popireis]

All my maids paid for their own shipments… the last had excess baggage at the airport and I co-paid the $60 for the excess.


You can sugg u put aside a certain amount of her salary for her every month for the shipment.

[nms1]

They can send quite cheaply through the companies that specialise in shipping to the Philippines/Indonesia. They can buy a big box and fill it with as much as they like for a fixed price. My maid did that when she went back at Christmas. She stuffed it full of old childrens’ clothes I gave her, phones/cameras that her friends were sending back, 3in1 coffee etc.

[twinkletoes]

Thanks for the advice and ideas. She’s agreed to ship that box by end of this month, using her own money. Phew!


We plan to tell her we have financial restraints so cannot keep a maid. But will only tell her when her loan is cleared. A part of me feels guilty but this bad feeling is hard to shake off. I never ever felt that with my previous maid. Week 2 and the hunch is still strong. So I can’t ignore it. Will give her a month’s notice so she can decide to transfer or not. Hopefully no repercussions. Or is this a bad idea?

[popireis]

Hmm, riding on this thread for some suggestions too.


My ex-maid wanna come back work for me. I am not entirely happy with the current one as well so I agree. Now, my questions are:

1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?

2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?

3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?

4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?

Reason I cannot tell her too early is I worry she "chu" pattern when still with me, and she is taking care of my DSs while I’m working.

First time changing maids "in between" so abit lost… appreciate any suggestions/advices. Thanks!

[JJ1111]

popireis:

1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?

If she is not really very bad, I feel you should let her transfer, as they spend BOMB coming here to work.
[quote]2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?[/quote]I prefer to tell my maid straight why I don't like her. Mostly what I do is to tell her her strength of what I like her first. Than I tell her why I dislike her and want to transfer her out. I tell her because I want her to change to better at her next employer place.
[quote]3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?[/quote]I think she will lose her course fee if you send her home.
[quote]4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?[/quote]Depend on your agency contract with you. Most of the agency charge $10 per day.


I will tell my maid on the very day I transferred her out. As I don't want her anything hanky panky. She will pack infront of me and go.

[Dannyho]

popireis:

Hmm, riding on this thread for some suggestions too.


My ex-maid wanna come back work for me. I am not entirely happy with the current one as well so I agree. Now, my questions are:

1. what should I do to my current maid, send her home or let her transfer?

2. What reasons should I give my current maid about terminating her service?

3. She claimed she is taking a course in town (2x/mth) and has paid for 2 terms course fees (2 terms should be 1 year). She is coming to 9 months with me. If I send her home, does it mean she will lose her course fees?

4. When should I tell her I am terminating her contract? If I am letting her transfer, can I just send her to agent the day before my maid comes and I have to then pay for her accomd/food/levy for 2 weeks?

Reason I cannot tell her too early is I worry she \"chu\" pattern when still with me, and she is taking care of my DSs while I'm working.

First time changing maids \"in between\" so abit lost... appreciate any suggestions/advices. Thanks!

Hi,

I am letting go my helper end of May & if your helper is not too bad, maybe you can consider tranferring her to me.
Thanks
Dannyho

[popireis]

Hi Dannyho


sent you a PM. Thanks!