2013 PSLE Discussions and Strategy
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weatherbee:
My son doesn't even know which school he wants to go. He's not taking any CCA now and not really keen on any CCA.
No good ideas from my end.... With the kids, we always talk about what they want to pursue for secondary school. Eg. if you want to continue with this cca, you better make it to this school so that you can continue your passion. That is our \"motivation\" talk all the time....MMM:
[quote=\"weatherbee\"]:?:
How to motivate our kids?
In any case, pls do not spend lots of $$$ and send them to those motivation programs now.... See how :moneyflies: for 2 of my nephews.
Do you mean he dropped his CCA this year or never have one.
My son has tuition. Whenever his tutor is here, he can sit down and do his work. When his tutor teaches him, he can listen. But he cannot sit down by himself and do his own work.
As I am a FTWM, I don't have much time to sit together with him while he does his work as sometimes I get home pretty late he needs to get ready to sleep. My daughter didn't have this problem before. She was able to complete the work that I've assigned her in the afternoon.
Getting friends/neighbour kids to work together with him doesn't help as they will end up talking and playing.[/quote] -
weatherbee:
Hi weatherbee,As I am a FTWM, I don't have much time to sit together with him while he does his work as sometimes I get home pretty late he needs to get ready to sleep. My daughter didn't have this problem before. She was able to complete the work that I've assigned her in the afternoon.
Getting friends/neighbour kids to work together with him doesn't help as they will end up talking and playing.
Maybe boys are naturally more challenging as compared to girls.
I am also a FTWM. Just sharing some ideas and not sure if it works in your case. I get my P5 and p6 to complete their school homework in the afternoon. This can be a challenge on days they have to stay back but they have to try to complete. Night time is reserved for revision/ top school papers, etc....
They used to watch tv shows in the afternoon. They stopped doing that this year.... after we \"imposed a fine\" for watching tv. They are \"rules\" abidding as I've spies (pils and maid) at home and I mean what I say when I impose a fine... so dun play play
No computer games either. They can use the computer for school work only. Phone games/ whatsapp are monitored. If they lack self-control, we will withdraw the benefits so the choice is theirs. Eg. my dd has so many whatsapp msgs/ spams.... think her friends spend time spamming each other.... They are supposed to hand over their hp to us at night. So I would \"check\" to observe their activity level.
We try to be home by latest 8pm so that we can spend the next 2 hours with them. Sometimes I've unfinished stuff or I've telecons at night (I usually request for calls to be made after 10pm). I would do my work together with them in the same room. On nights when I've calls, I get dh to sit in the room. Even if we are doing something else in the room (eg. playing with hp games), so long as our presence is felt, that is enough. This is like our commitment to be there. We started this 5 years ago and we had to be discipline to enforce it. That's why I love school hols.... as it's finally break time for us.
When we are not in the same room, the kids tend to chit chat with each other.... We do not have \"perfect\" or self-motivated kids who know what they want and work hard for it so through these actions, we hope that we are creating an environment to steer them to the right direction. -
ngl2010:
Thanks ngl2010
When doing practice papers, usually our children do not check their work. So, I think it is normal if you can see some carelessness there. I think it is also good if you can categorize her carelessness. JohnYeo categorize carelessness into several types. You can check his posting on that.MMM:
My P6 dd takes nap in the afternoon. I actually have concerns recently. During P5, dd did well for maths and science (80-90 range). She did not do so during CA1. She is below class average in recent CA1. Personally, I thought it was a good wake up call for her not to be complacent.
Her FT started a clinic lesson recently and she felt relieved that she was not invited as he probably felt that she was careless rather than weak in concept. On our end, we've been doing daily revision (including weekends) since the poor CA1 showing. Dh is alot more engaged this year and is there to guide her in her maths problem. Her enrichment class centre teacher is also available to take her questions via whatsapp. So the support is definitely there.
She speaks of trying to do well for SA1 but I personally feel that she is only putting in max 75% at this point when I am marking her paper as carelessness is still there.... I am starting to get worried and kept telling her that there is potentially a gap between her thoughts and the eventual results (the thought is that she will be able to do well again in her maths and science for SA1 as she has her \"problems ironed out\" which from my perspective - action speaks louder than words). I feel that there is so much more she can do on her own as she has been the self-managed type so far.
Maybe I should relax and trust her more.... :roll: Maybe I am more stressed than her???
Maybe it will be good too if you check what kind of mistake she made in the CA1 Maths and Science and go through the mistakes with her.
Is your daughter's school a top primary school? If it is, I think you don't have to worry so much as the standard should be higher than neighbourhood schools.
The post on groups of careless mistakes is at
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=979857#p979857 -
weatherbee:
Tutors, like teachers and even parents, wear different hats at different times. What hat they wear, it doesn't really matter.
My son doesn't even know which school he wants to go. He's not taking any CCA now and not really keen on any CCA.
My son has tuition. Whenever his tutor is here, he can sit down and do his work. When his tutor teaches him, he can listen. But he cannot sit down by himself and do his own work.
As I am a FTWM, I don't have much time to sit together with him while he does his work as sometimes I get home pretty late he needs to get ready to sleep. My daughter didn't have this problem before. She was able to complete the work that I've assigned her in the afternoon.
Getting friends/neighbour kids to work together with him doesn't help as they will end up talking and playing.
It is what hat your child perceives the tutor is wearing...
I supposed your child sees your tutor as a friend and tutor and being a non-family member, most children behave differently.
I have worked with hundreds of children before and the children wear different masks whenever the parents came to fetch them. And the time to change their masks is almost instantaneous.
So while your tutor may help your DS to a certain extent, do you know what hat your DS see you as wearing?
Whatever it is, as a parent, it would be good to have a sense...is it more of a friend, or just a parent or just another adult who checks on me once in a while...or sometimes, it can be a mixture....and even if it's a mixture, do we know exactly how much of which...
as to what motivates your child, you will need to find out what motivates him and leverage off from there...
And I agree with MMM, making your presence felt is very important and the next step is to spend time with them so you can really see their world through their eyes. -
Side tracked a little. DS voice is now deep and coarse, no more the young voice. He just returned home from school and now playing on his own, running around the house with his nerf guns and making all combat sounds!!! Haiyoo...so big already still play like that..lol! he looks so happy playing and I cannot bring myself to tell him..\" go and bathe and start on your homework\". Am I too soft? :roll: :roll:
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happyheart:
Side tracked a little. DS voice is now deep and coarse, no more the young voice. He just returned home from school and now playing on his own, running around the house with his nerf guns and making all combat sounds!!! Haiyoo...so big already still play like that..lol! he looks so happy playing and I cannot bring myself to tell him..\" go and bathe and start on your homework\". Am I too soft? :roll: :roll:
I am bad with that.
Pls do not misunderstand me for the following remarks. I am not insinuating anything but I always tell my kids ζ ζ―ε€θ΄₯εΏ so I am not going to be their ζ ζ― and don't expect me to be one. Well... they say I am their tiger mum.... -
MMM:
I also agree more with ζ ζ―ε€θ΄₯εΏhappyheart:
Side tracked a little. DS voice is now deep and coarse, no more the young voice. He just returned home from school and now playing on his own, running around the house with his nerf guns and making all combat sounds!!! Haiyoo...so big already still play like that..lol! he looks so happy playing and I cannot bring myself to tell him..\" go and bathe and start on your homework\". Am I too soft? :roll: :roll:
I am bad with that.
Pls do not misunderstand me for the following remarks. I am not insinuating anything but I always tell my kids ζ ζ―ε€θ΄₯εΏ so I am not going to be their ζ ζ― and don't expect me to be one. Well... they say I am their tiger mum....
When I have the mood, I'll join DS for 5-10mins of play & then I'll declare 'war over'. Start work!! :rotflmao: -
happyheart:
Side tracked a little. DS voice is now deep and coarse, no more the young voice. He just returned home from school and now playing on his own, running around the house with his nerf guns and making all combat sounds!!! Haiyoo...so big already still play like that..lol! he looks so happy playing and I cannot bring myself to tell him..\" go and bathe and start on your homework\". Am I too soft? :roll: :roll:
Hmmmm...soft or not? I feel just be consistent? -
My children have finished PSLE a few years ago. Like everyone else, P6 was a difficult year with a lot of revision and drilling. But they coped fine without feeling too stressed or burnt out.
Just to share here how I helped my kids to cope with exam stress and careless mistakes since they were in lower primary.
I told them to look at exam as harvest time. Farmers work hard throughout the year and harvesting is a happy occasion. As students, they should also work hard consistently throughout the year, there is nothing to fear or be stressed come exam time. If they had done their study and revision well, they are very likely to get good exam results and they will be happy and can enjoy the holiday which follows.
Many young kids tend to be careless, and so are my children. I told them that during exam, they should think of it as they are given a limited amount of time to pluck the fruits on their fruit tree. Imagine through their own hard work, they have a fruit tree full of fruits, but due to carelessness, they overlooked and didnβt pluck all the fruits during this "harvest time". Isnβt it a pity?
The above analogy was more to help them build a correct mindset. Of course, come upper primary like P5/P6, they learned the various study and exam techniques to do well without over-working.
The coming months are important months for all PSLE students. Take this opportunity to strengthen your bonding with your DC by showing them lots of love and support. -
wonderm:
:goodpost: This is one of the effective ways children learn too...in fact, everything can be related to what children already know and learning become easier and more effectiveMy children have finished PSLE a few years ago. Like everyone else, P6 was a difficult year with a lot of revision and drilling. But they coped fine without feeling too stressed or burnt out.
Just to share here how I helped my kids to cope with exam stress and careless mistakes since they were in lower primary.
I told them to look at exam as harvest time. Farmers work hard throughout the year and harvesting is a happy occasion. As students, they should also work hard consistently throughout the year, there is nothing to fear or be stressed come exam time. If they had done their study and revision well, they are very likely to get good exam results and they will be happy and can enjoy the holiday which follows.
Many young kids tend to be careless, and so are my children. I told them that during exam, they should think of it as they are given a limited amount of time to pluck the fruits on their fruit tree. Imagine through their own hard work, they have a fruit tree full of fruits, but due to carelessness, they overlooked and didn't pluck all the fruits during this \"harvest time\". Isn't it a pity?
The above analogy was more to help them build a correct mindset. Of course, come upper primary like P5/P6, they learned the various study and exam techniques to do well without over-working.
The coming months are important months for all PSLE students. Take this opportunity to strengthen your bonding with your DC by showing them lots of love and support.
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