The use of 'You' in Sentences

[pirate]

buds:

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.


Like, \"What shall we do next?\" or \"What do you think \"we\" can make from this?\"

One of the best ones I can remember will be those that go like this... \"Think we should do something about this room?\" Then, the lil ones automatically sing... \"Clean up, clean up, everybody clean up..\" Even the biggest of rooms get cleaned up. Neatly and very quickly too i must add.

The problem I encountered with this is a lil one that expects other people to help clean up the mess she created, because it is a \"we\" thing. And on top of that, she thinks she should be able to get away with just putting in a token effort while the person 'helping' do most of the actual work. :please:

Alas! My lil one already mastered the art of not walking the talk long before we even mastered the art of using \"we\". This one har, must watch carefully, lest she succumb to the dark side of the force.

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

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Errrr just to highlight that Sec 2 is too late to implement this, even for the smallest of rooms. If your child falls in this age range, YOU have missed the boat my friend.

Nah... anything/anyone can change anytime... it is the belief that we can't that makes it impossible.

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

Seriously Chiefy... :skeptical: ... If I hadn't already read all the replies to your post, I would have guessed either the lady may have some wee dyslexia thingies going on there...


Either that, or you actually made that up.

I doubt she's the one that got my name wrong in the first place (she doesn't seem too conversant with a computer). And as an engineer, I'm too rigid and unimaginative to be creative :).

[ChiefKiasu]

Funz:

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Special delivery for Chief.

That looks more like a hollowed-out end of a banana

[Nebbermind]

ChiefKiasu:

Funz:

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Special delivery for Chief.

That looks more like a hollowed-out end of a banana

Poor hubby

[limlim]

buds:

Funz:

:rotflmao:

Think I have been speaking like that to kiddos for as long as they can remember they know what I am referring to when I use 'we'.

I must remember to try 'you'. Let me test it out. And see what kind of response I get from them.

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.

[Funz]

ChiefKiasu:

Funz:

http://i1131.photobucket.com/albums/m560/cylsfun/9a0fcf62-573b-48e8-a9b5-7ce6b2d70eb6_zpsa8653072.jpg?t=1367482113\">


Special delivery for Chief.

That looks more like a hollowed-out end of a banana

:rotflmao:

Looks wise quite disastrous. Hahah. It rose so much and split open like huat kueh when baking and I went liao. Then when out of the oven, it deflated faster than a balloon.

[Funz]

limlim:

buds:

[quote=\"Funz\"]

:rotflmao:

Think I have been speaking like that to kiddos for as long as they can remember they know what I am referring to when I use 'we'.

I must remember to try 'you'. Let me test it out. And see what kind of response I get from them.

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.[/quote]Everyone have their own way of managing things and pattern of speech. . Communication is not just about the words spoken at that point in time. It invplves body language, tone, etc. In a family we may develop our own lingo that others may not fully understand nor able to effectively replicate as it is developed over time through spoken and unspoken words, conscious and sub-conscious actions.

I have a habit of using 'we' when following up on stuff with kiddos but that does not mean that I never use 'you' or 'yours'. 'We' is usually used as an opening. And if specifics need to be managed, it will be a different tone, different choice of words and different body language. Kiddos are well aware of what their responsibilities are. And so far no issues with them completing homework or chores. :xedfingers:

[limlim]

Funz:

limlim:

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.

Everyone have their own way of managing things and pattern of speech. . Communication is not just about the words spoken at that point in time. It invplves body language, tone, etc. In a family we may develop our own lingo that others may not fully understand nor able to effectively replicate as it is developed over time through spoken and unspoken words, conscious and sub-conscious actions.

I have a habit of using 'we' when following up on stuff with kiddos but that does not mean that I never use 'you' or 'yours'. 'We' is usually used as an opening. And if specifics need to be managed, it will be a different tone, different choice of words and different body language. Kiddos are well aware of what their responsibilities are. And so far no issues with them completing homework or chores. :xedfingers:

Our approach is just different.

I like to draw a clear line between on is their responsibility to instill a sense of ownership.

But different kids may need different approach.

As long as the parents are getting the desired behavior, any approach is good approach.

[Funz]

buds:

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

Like, \"What shall we do next?\" or \"What do you think \"we\" can make from this?\"

One of the best ones I can remember will be those that go like this... \"Think we should do something about this room?\" Then, the lil ones automatically sing... \"Clean up, clean up, everybody clean up..\" Even the biggest of rooms get cleaned up. Neatly and very quickly too i must add.

Errrr just to highlight that Sec 2 is too late to implement this, even for the smallest of rooms. If your child falls in this age range, YOU have missed the boat my friend.

:snuggles: Finally! Another oddball like me.



Whatever methods we use, most importantly, the person whom we are trying to get the message to, gets what we are trying to tell them.