The use of 'You' in Sentences

[Nebbermind]

ChiefKiasu:

Funz:

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Special delivery for Chief.

That looks more like a hollowed-out end of a banana

Poor hubby

[limlim]

buds:

Funz:

:rotflmao:

Think I have been speaking like that to kiddos for as long as they can remember they know what I am referring to when I use 'we'.

I must remember to try 'you'. Let me test it out. And see what kind of response I get from them.

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.

[Funz]

ChiefKiasu:

Funz:

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Special delivery for Chief.

That looks more like a hollowed-out end of a banana

:rotflmao:

Looks wise quite disastrous. Hahah. It rose so much and split open like huat kueh when baking and I went liao. Then when out of the oven, it deflated faster than a balloon.

[Funz]

limlim:

buds:

[quote=\"Funz\"]

:rotflmao:

Think I have been speaking like that to kiddos for as long as they can remember they know what I am referring to when I use 'we'.

I must remember to try 'you'. Let me test it out. And see what kind of response I get from them.

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.[/quote]Everyone have their own way of managing things and pattern of speech. . Communication is not just about the words spoken at that point in time. It invplves body language, tone, etc. In a family we may develop our own lingo that others may not fully understand nor able to effectively replicate as it is developed over time through spoken and unspoken words, conscious and sub-conscious actions.

I have a habit of using 'we' when following up on stuff with kiddos but that does not mean that I never use 'you' or 'yours'. 'We' is usually used as an opening. And if specifics need to be managed, it will be a different tone, different choice of words and different body language. Kiddos are well aware of what their responsibilities are. And so far no issues with them completing homework or chores. :xedfingers:

[limlim]

Funz:

limlim:

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.

Everyone have their own way of managing things and pattern of speech. . Communication is not just about the words spoken at that point in time. It invplves body language, tone, etc. In a family we may develop our own lingo that others may not fully understand nor able to effectively replicate as it is developed over time through spoken and unspoken words, conscious and sub-conscious actions.

I have a habit of using 'we' when following up on stuff with kiddos but that does not mean that I never use 'you' or 'yours'. 'We' is usually used as an opening. And if specifics need to be managed, it will be a different tone, different choice of words and different body language. Kiddos are well aware of what their responsibilities are. And so far no issues with them completing homework or chores. :xedfingers:

Our approach is just different.

I like to draw a clear line between on is their responsibility to instill a sense of ownership.

But different kids may need different approach.

As long as the parents are getting the desired behavior, any approach is good approach.

[Funz]

buds:

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

Like, \"What shall we do next?\" or \"What do you think \"we\" can make from this?\"

One of the best ones I can remember will be those that go like this... \"Think we should do something about this room?\" Then, the lil ones automatically sing... \"Clean up, clean up, everybody clean up..\" Even the biggest of rooms get cleaned up. Neatly and very quickly too i must add.

Errrr just to highlight that Sec 2 is too late to implement this, even for the smallest of rooms. If your child falls in this age range, YOU have missed the boat my friend.

:snuggles: Finally! Another oddball like me.



Whatever methods we use, most importantly, the person whom we are trying to get the message to, gets what we are trying to tell them.

[concern2]

Funz:

buds:

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

Like, \"What shall we do next?\" or \"What do you think \"we\" can make from this?\"

One of the best ones I can remember will be those that go like this... \"Think we should do something about this room?\" Then, the lil ones automatically sing... \"Clean up, clean up, everybody clean up..\" Even the biggest of rooms get cleaned up. Neatly and very quickly too i must add.

Errrr just to highlight that Sec 2 is too late to implement this, even for the smallest of rooms. If your child falls in this age range, YOU have missed the boat my friend.

:snuggles: Finally! Another oddball like me.



Whatever methods we use, most importantly, the person whom we are trying to get the message to, gets what we are trying to tell them.

Guess the good thing about using 'we' with children is the feeling that they aren't alone, that their mom is with them in whatever they do, and they do things together, feeling inclusive as opposed to the feeling of having to shoulder the growing pains / chores / work alone - even though they are ultimately doing it on their own.

I remember in my schooling years, teachers who used 'We' instead of 'You' or 'You all' were more popular with the students, and students enjoyed their lessons more, and find them more approachable. E.g.

\"So, have we done our homework?\"
\"Can we hand up our work yet?\"
\"Are we ready for our spelling now?\"
\"Are we prepared for our test next week?\"

Initially it sounded weird, but we got used to the teacher and knew exactly what she meant. Somehow, it narrowed the gap between teacher and student, and made schooling more relaxing and enjoyable - despite the stress.

Do we still have such teachers in our schools today?

[TheAnswer]

janet_lee88:

I can't possibly say 'are we expecting the cane?' :rotflmao:

With the kids, there is absolutely no need to be so tactful...if there is a need to use YOU, just use it.

They are the ones who have to sit for exams.
Homework belongs to them.
Caning is for them too.

I agree with you. If their exams belong to me, I will have to take 50-60 exams every few months :yikes:

Number of students x number of subjects :siao: :faint:

[TheAnswer]

Jennifer:

Few days ago I came across this:


A man: You smell good today.

The woman: :rant: I smelled bad all this while? Only today I smelled nice :spank:

:rotflmao:

How should we give a compliment when someone smelled nice???

To me, a sweaty hubby smells nice. But to him, I'm crazy. He always refuse to hug me when he is sweaty.

[buds]

limlim:

buds:

[quote=\"Funz\"]

:rotflmao:

Think I have been speaking like that to kiddos for as long as they can remember they know what I am referring to when I use 'we'.

I must remember to try 'you'. Let me test it out. And see what kind of response I get from them.

...... and I thought I was the oddball. :please: Funz, we use the \"we\" too.

Perhaps... :idea: ... it might be something to do with the line we are in? I realize I use \"we\" a lot to garner the positive energies of the lil' ones to get not just the small things done, but the biggest of tasks. Everything is a \"together\" thing. Regardless even if I was working with only one or two lil cuties at a time... and regardless if I was only singing the song with them instead of walking the talk.

I never use WE when it comes to homework, revision, keeping their desk clean etc..

I make it a point that it is THEIR responsibility.

Their test result, revision, homework, assignments, cleanup after a task etc.. It their own responsibility.

I am always there if they need me, but, as far as ownership is concerned, it is theirs, not mine. :evil:

And they have to answer for their own actions.

I make it very clear to them.

That's my approach. May not work for others, just to share only.[/quote]Never was it ever implied that ownership of the work was anyway ours at all. :evil: *See words in blue..*

Children especially the younger ones work great with simple motivators and we are not talking rewards here. Just a simple show of support as if we are doing things together but in actual fact they are doing it all on their own. This is a skill not everyone can master. :evil:

Like Funz, my kiddies can accomplish a few hrs stretch of quality work as well with quick breaks in between if they need a snack or stretch their legs and of course to look out the window to prevent myopia. On good days especially.

Once again, this may not work with older children.