The use of 'You' in Sentences

[Nebbermind]

buds:

A mom telling her child : You are in big trouble.
Same mom telling the same child : We are in big trouble.

1st stance the child is sure to bawl but in the second, the mom knows the kind of trouble but can mean that she understands that the child will need some assistance getting out of it even though if it means that the child will eventually have to get out of that trouble himself.

I thought that means that DAD IS THE BOSS. No? :scratchhead:

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

When it comes to language and the ways of communication, there is never just one sure-fire way... a perfect way... regardless if one speaks to a child or a teen or an adult.

I agree. It's really how we say it, and not what we say.

Here's Miss Hattie, the orphanage director who always use \"we\".
Watch from 33 secs onwards.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hP-NaOmXXUI][/youtube]

[Funz]

Just a little snippet of how the ‘I’, ‘you’ and ‘we’ was used with DD.


DD came home with a way below average result for one of her math tests.

Me: This wasn’t what we are expecting is it?
DD (very miserably): No
Me: So what do you think went wrong?
DD (in a small voice): I am not sure…
Me : Were a lot of marks lost due to carelessness?
DD (in an even smaller voice): some
Me : Were there questions that you were unable to solve?
DD (still hunched over) : yah, 2 of them.
(and she showed me the questions)
Me : Were you taught such sums in class?
DD (still not looking at me): Yes, but I did not really understand
Me : So what should we have done if we do not fully understand what was taught?
DD (peeking at me) : Ask teacher or ask you or daddy
Me : We have also spoken many times about your carelessness…
DD(sitting up more) : yes mummy, I was scribbling too much and could not read my own handwriting in this test so my answers were wrong though method was correct.
Me : so what should we do now?
DD(pulling her chair up to the table and grabbing a pencil): Can we go through those few sums? And after that, can we find more similar sums for me to try on my own?
Me : Ok. And what of your carelessness?
DD : It is work in progress mummy.
DD chanting : we shall not scribble, we shall not scribble, we will write neatly, we will write neatly…

A week later I got a watsapp from DD

DD : WE DID IT MUMMY!!!
me : Huh? What did we do?
DD : I got 90/100 for this mock exam!
me : Woo hooo!!! So all your hard work paid off!!!
DD : Yup! (series of happy bouncing emoticons)
DD : muacks! Love you
Me : Love you more. (this is our usual sign off)

[buds]

:please: It's amazing how your experience was almost exactly like mine Funz. Almost the same words in your conversation too. :love: Including the sign off. Only mine was when she came home from school just yesterday.


It's great to be a mom. :snuggles:

[wonderm]

Funz:

Just a little snippet of how the 'I', 'you' and 'we' was used with DD.


DD came home with a way below average result for one of her math tests.

Me: This wasn't what we are expecting is it?
DD (very miserably): No
Me: So what do you think went wrong?
DD (in a small voice): I am not sure.....
Me : Were a lot of marks lost due to carelessness?
DD (in an even smaller voice): some
Me : Were there questions that you were unable to solve?
DD (still hunched over) : yah, 2 of them.
(and she showed me the questions)
Me : Were you taught such sums in class?
DD (still not looking at me): Yes, but I did not really understand
Me : So what should we have done if we do not fully understand what was taught?
DD (peeking at me) : Ask teacher or ask you or daddy
Me : We have also spoken many times about your carelessness....
DD(sitting up more) : yes mummy, I was scribbling too much and could not read my own handwriting in this test so my answers were wrong though method was correct.
Me : so what should we do now?
DD(pulling her chair up to the table and grabbing a pencil): Can we go through those few sums? And after that, can we find more similar sums for me to try on my own?
Me : Ok. And what of your carelessness?
DD : It is work in progress mummy.
DD chanting : we shall not scribble, we shall not scribble, we will write neatly, we will write neatly......

A week later I got a watsapp from DD

DD : WE DID IT MUMMY!!!!
me : Huh? What did we do?
DD : I got 90/100 for this mock exam!
me : Woo hooo!!! So all your hard work paid off!!!
DD : Yup! (series of happy bouncing emoticons)
DD : muacks! Love you
Me : Love you more. (this is our usual sign off)

Thanks for sharing an example. I recall similar conversations with my boys. I didn't even realize the use of \"we\" and \"you\" in such conversations until I saw your illustration.

[SAHM_TAN]

Hi Funz,


Thanks for the latest post. I needed this post

[buds]

insider:

buds:

This is a skill not everyone can master. :evil:

buddy,

we are not being trained for nothing...:evil:

:evil:

U still the shifu. :love:
Learnt a lot from you. Thank you. :please:

Quality of life is most important to live happily.

[buds]

buds:

When it comes to language and the ways of communication, there is never just one sure-fire way... a perfect way... regardless if one speaks to a child or a teen or an adult.

ChiefKiasu:

I agree. It's really how we say it, and not what we say.

Here's Miss Hattie, the orphanage director who always use \"we\".
Watch from 33 secs onwards.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hP-NaOmXXUI][/youtube]

A very apt example.