All About Teaching Values
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ks2me:
Actually Han Xin is not 狐假虎威. He led the army to fight and took over all of China, and was never defeated. He is know as Alexander the Great of the East. He was too proud of his own achievements, and he plotted to raise a rebellion. According to historical records, it was Liu Bang's wife, the ruthless Empress Lu, who got him executed, while Liu Bang was away from the capital.
one become 狐假虎威 and the other knows the essence of 伴君如伴虎....so you see what a tiger the emperor was instead of a dignified dragon!!! :lol:tamarind:
Liu Bang eventually got rid of Han Xin, who became too arrogant. Zhang Liang, on the other hand, was smart enough to leave Liu bang to live a peaceful life, after helping him to become emperor.
I really learn a lot from this series.
As for Zhang Liang, you are right that he truly understands 伴君如伴虎. -
ChiefKS,
You are very right. Foul language, vulgarities and words like stupid and idiot are totally ban at home. -
BlueBells:
Absolutely agree.ChiefKS,
You are very right. Foul language, vulgarities and words like stupid and idiot are totally ban at home. -
Back to money matters…
What are your teachings to your kids about borrowing and lending money to classmates? -
I tell my girl not to borrow any money from anyone, although it still (and did) happen a couple of times. Good thing is, she is frank about the twice she borrowed from her friend, and we have reminded her it is definitely a no-no.
The General office will provide biscuits to kids who forget to bring pocket money to school upon request, and she is also has some emergency funds to cushion her if we forget to give her pocket money. So, really, I don’t see the need or the rationale behind her needing to borrow any money at all. -
I still remembered that horrible day when my brother's classmates called us and tell us that he borrowed $5 to buy a bookworm book!
I tell my boy not to borrow money, even if it means he has to go hungry during recess...he can always drink water..and no..he can't phone me to bring food for him.
As for friends borrowing from him, I told him that if they urgently need cash, it is best to approach the teachers for a loan. -
Hi
My daughter will be the one who’s money is being borrowed. At P1 her daily allowance can come up to at least $6 per day. It was unintentional as I gave her $2, then hubby gave her another $2 & my mum who occassionally drop by will give her more. So, it is either her friends borrowed from her or get her to buy tidbits or she buys stationeries & do a gift exchange.
Now that I know such things happen in school, her daily allowance drop to $1 but she is free to bring any tidbits or snacks from the house. Ever she has forgotten to bring her pocket money, she told me that she did not borrow from anyone but her best friend share some food with her. -
Again at money matters....
I think my overemphasis on being thrifty has somehow turn my boy into a miser or sorts....
1. when i was not able to talk to him long over the handphone, he complainted that waste his hp 'money' (aka talktime).
2. when his grandma used his hp to make a call (as his still have a lot of leftover talktime), he commented on why used his hp when she has hers.
3. when there are a lot of advertisement on tv, he remembered what i told him (only once), that its the way for 'them' to make money.
4. when he read the label 'collect them all' on the packaging, he told us that 'they' want to make money by telling us to buy.
5. when he saw something nice in 'neopet' that is out of his 'maximum price', he'll hint for me to get for him. when i got for him and need to do a 'trading', he want to trade 'junk' items with me. when i lamented if that is the way he treats me, ie by giving me junk, he reluctantly but still offered to give me nicer stuff instead of junk.
:roll:
Its my fault...its my fault....he is however magnanomous in other issues that does not concern $$, eg sharing of food, toys, knowledge etc. -
the number one value I teach to my kids is to take care of ME (filial piety)
no choice lor, since I’m a SAHM, not much savings, better try my best to make sure they feed me well when I’m old
my younger girl is quite stingy. I have been trying to psycho her since she was a baby. Taking care of mommy means giving me her favourite food. If I don’t want to eat, then she can eat. Even if it’s the last piece, she should offer to me
a few days ago, she refused to share a bun with her daddy. I go on & on about how she hasn’t learn how to take care of her daddy, should give her daddy the bun, blah blah blah
She had tears in her eyes because she was feeling VERY VERY guilty. But continue eating her bun anyway. haiz!
On another occasion, I asked for her last piece of nugget. She told me pitifully that she only ate one piece (meaning cannot give to me). I turned to my elder girl & immediately got a positive reply. So I declared loudly my elder girl loves me more & my number 2 was very offended. haha, gave me the opportunity to go on & on again about how to take care of mommy
Have to keep reinforcing the concept whenever the opportunity arise. I will keep trying. my number 1 already kanna brainwashed successfully. I always get the biggest piece (if not all) of her favourite food
now the concept of money doesn’t mean much to them yet so I have not use money as a measurement. Food is most dear to them -
sleepy:
yes, filial piety is important.the number 1 value I teach to my kids is take care of your mommy (filial piety)
my boy always complained that it is boring to go and visit his grandma. then i asked him how would he feel if next time his kids don't want to visit me. he told me that he'll visit me without the kids. then i asked him then who will take care of the kids and he promptly said their mum will! :roll: