All About Teaching Values
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jedamum:
Smart kid!
:lol: i know someone will ask this.chamonix:
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?
'His' handphone is just an 'illusion'. Actually as me, my husband and my ILs all own a hp each, the landline (home phone) is underutilised and we calculated that it is cheaper to use prepaid card than pay for the landline. Then as he is the only one in the house (my 21 mth old not included) without a hp, we said that its his. He is allowed to sms us anytime he wants. However the hp is not to be brought out of the house, unless he sleepsover at his cousin's house.
He used to give his classmates the number and one did called up to chat, but we had told him to avoid giving out to anymore friends incase his friends did not know the appropriate time to call (ie call during mealtimes).
He switches off 'his' hp when everyone is in the house, and he loves to sms his grandparents when they were out. -
chamonix:
my girl just turn 6
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?jedamum:
Again at money matters....
1. when i was not able to talk to him long over the handphone, he complainted that waste [color=orange]his hp[/color] 'money' (aka talktime).
i dont intend to give her any hp yet
but i do allow her to call grandparents by our house home and sms to me ,my wife and one of her kingder friend with our hp
i guess another 3 years she can start to own 1 if everything goes on well -
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Personal opinion from a teacher. I am happy that parents are putting in alot of effort.
However, parents must also be realistic. Tecahing a young child adv concepts will only make him very bored in class. He will tend to pay less attention and not put in some much effort in his daily work.
A true test of the child's intelligence will only be evident when the child is in P5/P6. Getting full marks in P1 - P3 is truly no big deal...
A note to all parents, pls do not neglect character development. I am in my thirties with 2 kids myself. I must say most modern parents truly lack holistic parenting skills. Their offspring are equiped with little respect for others and environment. Do give your child some room to love life and others.
It is alright to shot me with neg remarks. That's a frank opinon of a teacher. -
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Can parents share about character development ?
Recently when my MIL visited, my girl told me, before she arrived, that she wanted to wear a dress bought by her grandmother. I was very happy to hear that. I have taught her once, quite long ago, that her grandmother would be happy to see my girl wearing something she bought. I am glad that my girl makes an effort to be sensitive to other people's feelings. -
applelemon:
Hi applelemon, thanks for your candid views. I moved your comment into this thread as I thought it is more suited for this ongoing discussion.Personal opinion from a teacher. I am happy that parents are putting in alot of effort.
However, parents must also be realistic. Tecahing a young child adv concepts will only make him very bored in class. He will tend to pay less attention and not put in some much effort in his daily work.
A true test of the child's intelligence will only be evident when the child is in P5/P6. Getting full marks in P1 - P3 is truly no big deal...
A note to all parents, pls do not neglect character development. I am in my thirties with 2 kids myself. I must say most modern parents truly lack holistic parenting skills. Their offspring are equiped with little respect for others and environment. Do give your child some room to love life and others.
It is alright to shot me with neg remarks. That's a frank opinon of a teacher.
I would like to think that most parents today are putting effort in educating their preschool children just so that their children would have an easier time in school. That is in response to the schools themselves telling parents to support our children if they are scoring below Band 1 in Primary schools. All things being equal, I imagine most parents would rather relax and have fun with their children at home and leave academic education to the schools.
It's kind of a damn-if-we-do-damn-if-we-don't scenario. If we do it we get accused of training our children so much that they get bored in class. If we don't we get stressed when our children underperform in school. The trick is to find the right balance, and that is why we have this forum so that we can learn from each other how to do that.
And if you have time to scan through the threads here, you would realize that parents are really not stupid. While it is true that the weightage Singaporeans place on academic performance is very high due to our society, I wouldn't generalize that most parents ignore the need to instill in our children humility and compassion, or the \"character-building\" aspects of our growing children.
It is also true that \"character-building\" can only be assimilated from examples and experiences, and not taught through books or instruction. So if you find that our children are generally rude and have little respect for others and the environment, that would imply that we as the parents are doing the same. Do you think that is so? -
tamarind:
er...can shift to discuss http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=100&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0 anot?Can parents share about character development ?
i scared of this thread's title leh... -
jedamum,
Chief Kiasu moved my post alreadyapplelemon:
A note to all parents, pls do not neglect character development. I am in my thirties with 2 kids myself. I must say most modern parents truly lack holistic parenting skills. Their offspring are equiped with little respect for others and environment. Do give your child some room to love life and others.
It is alright to shot me with neg remarks. That's a frank opinon of a teacher.
Recently I did 2 hours of volunteer work at West Grove Primary School, invigilating a class test for P5 students. That class I assigned to was one of the academically weak class. I cannot control the students at all. They threw small pieces of paper at my back, shoot staplers at me, ignore me when I told them to keep quiet. These students simply have no respect for teachers ! So I undertand why you think that children nowadays have little respect for others.
But I would not generalize and say that all children are like this. I am sure there are many children who well taught by their parents to have good behaviour and respect for others. -
Hi, one of the values my family places great importance is GRATITUDE.
From young, the children were taught to write ‘thank-you’ cards to show appreciation to their relatives who shower them with gifts on special occasions. Now, they SMS.
On Teachers’ Day and the last day of school, I will remind them to write a card to appreciate what the teachers have done for the year.
Another value is GRACIOUSNESS. They have to learn to be gracious in victory or defeat. Even when they are appointed as prefects or monitors of the class, I remind them constantly that they have to be responsible and be accountable for the positions they are given. They need to learn to serve even as a leader.
Their school has done a great job in inculating this value by getting those pupils who are good academically to be peer tutors to those academically weak students. These children have to be in school by 7 am each morning to help those who are weak in Maths. My son (who has just completed his PSLE) has to report back to school during the 4 PSLE Marking days to help tutor those P5 children who did not pass their Maths.
I also teach them the importance of VALUING FRIENDSHIPS. I tell my children to be a good friend to their classmates and to value the friendships they have formed in the schools. They must learn to care for their friends, show concern and appreciate one another. -
My emphasis recently is on honesty, and I do share experiences with my boy. I asked him, what if the cashier miscalculated and didn’t charge him for certain items that he bought. He said that have to tell her. Why, I asked. His answer is…
“Because she didn’t scan it, so if I exit the place, the alarm will go off.”
That reveals that he may be those type of people who are likely to commit ‘crimes’ when others are not looking (ie exit the place if there is no security system, break rules when parents/teachers not looking etc). I find that teaching kids at this age, consistency is very important. Eg, it is unconvincing to emphasize on road safety if the parents themselves jaywalk. I have to explained to him that regardless of what scenerio, we must make sure that we pay for what we purchase. Else, if the accounts does not tally, the poor cashier will have to fork out from their own pocket and their daily wages are not a lot. I shared my personal experience as a cashier who had been through such incident, as well as a buyer’s experience. -
I totally agree with you on that kids mirror their parents. As a teacher, I dont see pupils in class. I see their parents in class. They bring their parents' behaviour into the class - good, very good, polite, aggressive, rude, ill-behaved.
Got an encounter recently. There was an open house in my school. A parent left a USED tissue paper on the chair and walked out of the room. A second parent came. She brushed it to the FLOOR. There is a dustbin in the classroom. What can I say about these parents? When parents quarrel in front of their kids, their kids picked up the exact same language and behaviour and bring it into the class. Imagine, we do have 40 sets of behavioual patterns everyday. I hope all the parents out there be extra mindful of the behaviour they exhibit in front of their kids. Like it or not, the kids are their parents mirror