All About Teaching Values
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applelemon:
applelemon,I totally agree with you on that kids mirror their parents. As a teacher, I dont see pupils in class. I see their parents in class. They bring their parents' behaviour into the class - good, very good, polite, aggressive, rude, ill-behaved.
i guess sometimes, what you see in class are not the 'parents', but the 'maids'. with many dual income family relying on domestic help to look after the kids, it is inevitable that these kids may pick up a habit or 2 from them.
hence it is very important for the parents with maids looking after their kids to educate the maids as well. -
I also feel EQ/智慧/ wisdom is much more important then academics . Lots of clever people commit crimes, cheat or live life irresponsibly and that lead to failure or generally unhappy life- 聪明反被聪明误. EQ is related to values too… things like honesty, treating people nicely and doing the right thing, learning responsibility and civic consciousness.
Instilling the values and developing the EQ is the difficult part. It is easier to just let the maid pick up after my notty 3 yr old make a mess of his toys, letting him off with just a reprimand when he tell a lie.
Just tried out a variation of the time out method today…
He make a mess of all his puzzles and when I question him, he look me in the eye and denies doing it repeatedly. (he knows I am going to make him keep them if he admit to it) So I make him say "I will not lie again" ten times as he stand in his naughty corner. Seems to have some effect. Hopefully, this will "cure" the lying phase quickly. -
thanks for the tip insider
Yes yes, read about that somewhere before but kind of hard when we come to application. -
Academic these days may be deem important, but I believed good character in one will make him/her go even further. It is important to let our children know what is good-manner, show care and concern, being responsible, etc.
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actually i thought you will go and buy the boxes from the ‘garang-guni’ old ladies rather than go Ikea to buy.
anyway, thanks for sharing! -
How do parents handle peer influence? My son is in K2, I’m quite concerned abt the friends he hangs around with. He has this classmate whom he’s quite close to…and he relates this recent incident to me.
During the arts enrichment class…
This little friend is pretty restless and moves around too much, thus the teacher commented "______, I’m tired at shouting at you to stay still, pls sit down!"
His response "Tired? Then go and sleep lor!"
When my son told me abt this, I couldn’t help but laughed with him also. But after the joke, realised that other than telling him respect for teacher is very important, you can be cheeky but respect for people is the most basic manner one should have.
So far, my son still quite well behave but with the little naughty stories everyday, I just can’t help worrying abt the influence…haha! -
insider:
(then I went to ask one of the shop owners and he gladly told me can take and don’t need to ask. I took two boxes and went to aside, brought out a key to slice the tape to flatten the boxes. BTW, women working in the childcare line are usually very versatile and 'creative' people who can work as good as men. Bud will agree.)
YES! Hear! Hear!
Thick skin not so nice leh...
Wuakakakakakah! :lol:
We are not shy to ask for help
and also assistance for the benefit
of others, in our case insider... its
usually to benefit our children in the
centre at least cost or NO COST lagi
best. Now... \"asking\" - is the best thing
in life which is free.
insider... i can hear inside your son's heart
screaming... karaaaang goooonnneeee!
Btw, i do what you did with my girls too... when
the teachable moments arise. Those moments
are priceless. You never know when it will come
about again... -
hugeclaw:
How do parents handle peer influence?
to start with, a lot of work to be done on honing self esteem and creating a trusting and warm family for the kid to turn to is a way to play down peer influence (ie family's opinion matters more than friends).
all the while i had emphasize in my upbringing about the need to tackle peer influence at its initial stage (buying into cartoon merchandising is a form of peer pressure akin to idol-chasing). however, recently i read somewhere (Today's papers) that certain degree of peer pressure is actually good. the disregard of peer pressure on the extreme side will turn the kid into a low performer.
the key is to try to get the kid to mix with the 'correct' peers. -
I agree.
My girls especially the younger one,
can say our slogan well, \"family first\". -
//Editor's note: Topic selected for http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/two-wolves-inside-us-all.
Haloo KSPs, a little story on values to share with all..
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, 'My son, the battle is between 'two wolves' inside us all.
'One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.'
'The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence,
empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, 'Which wolf wins?'
The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'
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