All About Teaching Values

[ChiefKiasu]

RRMummy:

... One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people...

Wow... this is super chim. But I like! :love: Thanks for sharing, RRMummy!

[RRMummy]

good hor..glad u like it! I'll find chance to pass this story to my gals.. :love:

[Bowie]

Hi ALL,


Need some tips from u…

My gal is all what mi and my hubby wish for as a kid who is cheerful, outgoing and smart.

But she is rather strong headed (just like me) and do not admit mistake (not like mi) even though I know after my explaination, she know she is wrong.

The courage to admit mistake and moved on is a value I strongly hold. And knowing my gal soft approach is a better strategy to bring this idea across.

Any experience to share?

I am looking for story books which try to educate values to young kids. Any recommendation??

[Miracle Child]

RRMummy:

Haloo KSPs, a little story on values to share with all..


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, 'My son, the battle is between 'two wolves' inside us all.

'One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.'

'The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence,
empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, 'Which wolf wins?'

The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'

:celebrate:

Hi RRMummy,

Thanks for sharing this story with us. Told it to my son and his behaviour seems to have improved i.e. he is demonstrating higher EQ these two days. :celebrate: Hope this continues.... :xedfingers:

[sesame]

Bowie:

Hi ALL,


Need some tips from u....

My gal is all what mi and my hubby wish for as a kid who is cheerful, outgoing and smart.

But she is rather strong headed (just like me) and do not admit mistake (not like mi) even though I know after my explaination, she know she is wrong.

The courage to admit mistake and moved on is a value I strongly hold. And knowing my gal soft approach is a better strategy to bring this idea across.

Any experience to share?

I am looking for story books which try to educate values to young kids. Any recommendation??

Hi Bowie
My DD is like yours. She doesn't like to say sorry when it comes to behavioural mistakes. However, she readily says sorry when accidents happens like she spills the water, she knocks into us etc. I think her pride was stopping her. I got her books, Blue's Clues \"I am Sorry\" to shown that saying sorry is fine etc. No much effect.

I used to get really mad and really go on and on abt her refusing to say sorry. That would get everyone upset.

Now, I explain to her the situation, I asked her what she should do and ask her to \"think it out\". She reacts better to this.

[Bowie]

Thanx Sesame for sharing.


Think soft approach work better for my gal too. Sometimes after much \"counselling\" privately, she will admit its her fault.

Guess need a lot of patience + patience+ patience from us, the mommies and daddies.

Got to work harder!!

[RRMummy]

Miracle Child:

Hi RRMummy,


Thanks for sharing this story with us. Told it to my son and his behaviour seems to have improved i.e. he is demonstrating higher EQ these two days. :celebrate: Hope this continues.... :xedfingers:

Hi Miracle Child, Great to hear it made a difference!! Keep us updated.. :celebrate:

[Love_Sunshine]

I do appreciate my son's honesty, however, sometimes it doesn't seem to be on the right side as he would report a 'bad' deed done by his brothers instead. Should i praise him or should i reprimand him for carrying tales? However, I do appreciate what he did, as least i know what is going on btwn them. But at the same time, I don't want to give him d impression that its alright to carry tales. What should i do? Pls. advise. Thanks ya!

ChiefKiasu:

Thanks for the good advice. I do practice what you mentioned for honesty, but it hasn't been working lately. Also, not sure if the SG dramas are really good as examples - there's quite a bit of sexuality and violence themes in those lately. But I thought the Sunday morning/noon productions like \"I not stupid\" and kids-related productions are very good.

I still think real life interaction with actual people who are less fortunate than himself would be a better trigger to make him become more responsible for himself. I'm not thinking of a course or a module.

Also, he has been wanting to join the boys brigade or scouts. I have resisted because I thought that is really \"going through the motion\", but that may not be fair as I'm not too familiar with what actually goes on in those organizations. It's just that I've been skeptical (from young) that organisations that make kids pay big bucks for \"dressing up\" in spanking neat uniforms actually take doing charity seriously.

[146946]

Hi, something to share with all parents out there. My gal is in Primary 1 and they have their 1st spelling and dictation test yesterday. During the test, a boy sitting next to my gal copied the answers from a piece of paper he hid under the table and scored full mark and was given a star by the teacher. My girl wanted to tell the teacher that the boy cheated but another student who saw it too stopped her.


She came home, relates the incident to me and told me she wanted to cheat too as she wanted a star instead of doing corrections for wrong answers. Of course I told her she should not cheat but to try her best instead as cheating is wrong. So she asked whether she should inform the teacher of it. Sigh…though I know this is not the right way, I told her not to and instead, just learn to close one eye. I’m worry she might be targetted by her classmates for telling tales.

However, I do wonder how could a 6 year old boy, only his 3rd week in primary school sitting for his 1st spelling has learned how to cheat, and quite expertly too. Wonder what is his family background and upbringing that taught him to cheat at such young age and wonder what his future like if cheating is acceptable for him.

[3Boys]

146946:

Hi, something to share with all parents out there. My gal is in Primary 1 and they have their 1st spelling and dictation test yesterday. During the test, a boy sitting next to my gal copied the answers from a piece of paper he hid under the table and scored full mark and was given a star by the teacher. My girl wanted to tell the teacher that the boy cheated but another student who saw it too stopped her.


She came home, relates the incident to me and told me she wanted to cheat too as she wanted a star instead of doing corrections for wrong answers. Of course I told her she should not cheat but to try her best instead as cheating is wrong. So she asked whether she should inform the teacher of it. Sigh.....though I know this is not the right way, I told her not to and instead, just learn to close one eye. I'm worry she might be targetted by her classmates for telling tales.

However, I do wonder how could a 6 year old boy, only his 3rd week in primary school sitting for his 1st spelling has learned how to cheat, and quite expertly too. Wonder what is his family background and upbringing that taught him to cheat at such young age and wonder what his future like if cheating is acceptable for him.

My view is that it should be reported. I feel that we have a certain duty to 'defend' the right values, and to do so sometimes we need to do the hard thing by calling out those who break the rules. This is not so much to punish the rule-breaker, but to keep the environment safe and fair for those who in fact, do play by the rules.

These days, you can write e-mails in to the form teacher. In that way, you can take the heat off your DD but still demonstrate that right is right and wrong is wrong.