CNA Article - The Big Read: Fuelled partly by youths' anxiety, the internship rat race has unintended effects
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I guess we all have different views. Just to say that I don’t believe that all people can or should want to rise to the top in the most competitive careers as their first choice, then drop back to a 2nd, 3rd choice if they can’t take it. I give myself as an example, which perhaps will encourage some who think that it’s completely impossible.
I did OK up to university, was never the super-competitive type, and chose to aim for a job that I felt suited me - being a librarian. I was warned - dead-end, poor pay, poor prospects… My husband supported me - we felt that I could aim to do well within the librarian career instead of civil service/legal/finance (which was what my father wanted); we were prepared to live within our means. I was spared the trying hard at a job only to find it too hard, too competitive, something I disliked or failed at. I enjoyed the work itself. I can tell you that we are the only ones of our friends who has never moved out of HDB, and live and travel at a different level from all of them. It really doesn’t bother us, our friends have not shunned us, and our family has been happy and contented all these years. My motivation has always been to do a good job, whether or not it rewards the best in terms of pay or promotions. Of course I expect to paid fairly, but if it’s 50% less than I could be earning in some other job I like less, it doesn’t matter to me, and thankfully, to my husband. He has made similar choices in his own career, and it seems my daughters adopt the same thinking.
This probably shows, again, that my family is very much an outlier, but I put this out here to show that there is no need to follow the herd in every aspect of life. There are consequences of our choices - but we can choose to be satisfied with doing our jobs as best as we can and be happier with less, rather than being stressed by the need to compete and climb. -
Speaking from another person who is also not that competitive with outside people…actually I find it ok de. So long as they not at bottom, if can at average standing with the rest, will happy event to me already. Dd told me at start of holiday…at the end of our conversation on what her friends worked before, after considering some good and bad, she told me that she finds working at bubble tea shop should be quite interesting. I think it is ok for them to experience different thing.
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2135280\" time=\"1718846409\" user_id=\"43981:
Ha...ha.. she can enjoy free bubble tea everyday when working in bubble tea shop. :evil:
Speaking from another person who is also not that competitive with outside people..actually I find it ok de. So long as they not at bottom, if can at average standing with the rest, will happy event to me already. Dd told me at start of holiday..at the end of our conversation on what her friends worked before, after considering some good and bad, she told me that she finds working at bubble tea shop should be quite interesting. I think it is ok for them to experience different thing.
Last time, when DS worked as part time waiter in hotel cafe during holiday, he could enjoy free hotel buffet food -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2135281\" time=\"1718848166\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2135281 time=1718848166 user_id=195250]
Hmm.. next time I tell her Starbucks also good
Ha...ha.. she can enjoy free bubble tea everyday when working in bubble tea shop. :evil:
Last time, when DS worked as part time waiter in hotel cafe during holiday, he could enjoy free hotel buffet food[/quote]
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slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2135279\" time=\"1718845851\" user_id=\"28674:
I guess we all have different views. Just to say that I don't believe that all people can or should want to rise to the top in the most competitive careers as their first choice, then drop back to a 2nd, 3rd choice if they can't take it. I give myself as an example, which perhaps will encourage some who think that it's completely impossible.
I did OK up to university, was never the super-competitive type, and chose to aim for a job that I felt suited me - being a librarian. I was warned - dead-end, poor pay, poor prospects... My husband supported me - we felt that I could aim to do well within the librarian career instead of civil service/legal/finance (which was what my father wanted); we were prepared to live within our means. I was spared the trying hard at a job only to find it too hard, too competitive, something I disliked or failed at. I enjoyed the work itself. I can tell you that we are the only ones of our friends who has never moved out of HDB, and live and travel at a different level from all of them. It really doesn't bother us, our friends have not shunned us, and our family has been happy and contented all these years. My motivation has always been to do a good job, whether or not it rewards the best in terms of pay or promotions. Of course I expect to paid fairly, but if it's 50% less than I could be earning in some other job I like less, it doesn't matter to me, and thankfully, to my husband. He has made similar choices in his own career, and it seems my daughters adopt the same thinking.
This probably shows, again, that my family is very much an outlier, but I put this out here to show that there is no need to follow the herd in every aspect of life. There are consequences of our choices - but we can choose to be satisfied with doing our jobs as best as we can and be happier with less, rather than being stressed by the need to compete and climb.
Actually not wanting to compete and raise to the top of corporate career, instead work for a cause, is quite common. And it’s very prominent in Singapore. And these are the best of our people. Not people that lack ambition and don’t know any better. Your family is definitely not outlier.
All our heads of civil services and officer holders, could have gotten much more if they choose to maximise their earning potential by working in private sectors. Our office holders earn around the most around $2million per year? banks CEOs make much more than that. Our permanent secretaries were CEO caliber people. SIA was started by one of them, and many more GLCs in their early days. These permanent secretaries were affectionately call “fools” in a recent book about their hidden contributions. They prioritised -
I understand that the local uni scholars get first bite of the cherry - they've priority applying for internships. How does that work?
Since uni scholarships are largely based on A level results, does that mean competition for uni internships starts at JC level? Due to the integrated program where one's JC can be more or less settled by the time one completes primary sch education, does that imply that the internship rat race starts at PSLE?
OMG! What am I saying! :nailbite:
Jokes aside, as a parent, all I want is for my kid to be happy. He can choose to be an engineer, teacher, lawyer, entrepreneur, whatever. He's not a trophy who needs to be earning big bucks so that I can show off to relatives during CNY gatherings. That's just shallow. I believe most of us here feel the same way. -
I feel that our kids have been trained since young and that they might think it’s their way of life to build up their portfolio.
For those who have applied for DSA with their primary school kids would know that there is a lot of preparatory works on top of coping with the usual school curriculum. Like attending Math Olympiad training, enter MO competition (must try to get at least sliver somemore). Likewise for sports DSA. Come to Uni level, now need to prepare impressive portfolio for ABA and interviews, like volunteering work, relevant work experiences to the course one applied to, outstanding CCA (join student council etc.)
All these building up of nice portfolio started when the kids were in primary school! Maybe we think it is scary but to them, they have been brought up this way and probably this is just how life should be ?!?! -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2135245\" time=\"1718789755\" user_id=\"17023:
Yes, you are correct - have to 认命 because never able to strike a 8 millions TOTO. :sad:
I thought it is normal for most uni undergraduates to want to do well? Say, they will try to get at least 2nd upper (but whether they can or not, that is another matter lah).
And upon graduation, when one comes out to work as a fresh grad, most youngsters are ambitious, want to climb the corporate ladder and do well. Only when one gets stuck for many years without promotion, then the person will sort of 认命。So to me, it is natural that young people to want to aim high. -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2135308\" time=\"1718864170\" user_id=\"17023:
lee_yl,
I feel that our kids have been trained since young and that they might think it’s their way of life to build up their portfolio.
For those who have applied for DSA with their primary school kids would know that there is a lot of preparatory works on top of coping with the usual school curriculum. Like attending Math Olympiad training, enter MO competition (must try to get at least sliver somemore). Likewise for sports DSA. Come to Uni level, now need to prepare impressive portfolio for ABA and interviews, like volunteering work, relevant work experiences to the course one applied to, outstanding CCA (join student council etc.)
All these building up of nice portfolio started when the kids were in primary school! Maybe we think it is scary but to them, they have been brought up this way and probably this is just how life should be ?!?!
The rat race has actually started since kindergarten days, from as young as 4 years old.
Do u recall that parents have started sending their sons & daughters to several type of kindergarten enrichment(s)?
Example
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1)
Parents send their daughters at 4 or 5 years old, nursery age onwards to learn Rhythmic Gymnastics, to attend ballet dancing, etc. You can see so many young toddlers wearing their ballet costume, attending this or that ballet school, in the presence of their proud mothers.
Why ?
so that by the time they reach 7 years old, Primary 1, Cca Coaches like Rythmic Gym instructors can easily identify out these young girls , who have painstakingly been trained past 3 years ago, at the age of 4 years old to 7 years old, to represent their primary school at lower Primary 1 level, in \"Rhythmic gymnastics\" (RG) in inter-school competition, against some other primary schools?
One good example ?
Take a look at Raffles Girls primary school.
Take another look at CHIJ St Nicholas Girls' Primary school -
how they select Primary 1 candidates, to join their school team, for RG.
Also,
take a look at Nanyang primary school, how they select students to join their school team in AG.
NYPS do offer AG, instead of RG !
Also, take a look at SCGS.
See how they select their lower primary candidates (students), to join their school team, in dancing.
2) how about for young boys?
Well, the same thing happened too !
Parents send their young sons at 5 years old for Sports, like fencing, tennis, badminton, takewando, wushu, swimming in their condominum swimming pool, etc.
Take a look at ACS primary schools, in both ACS branches.
Take a look at MGS (Girls) school, at Blackmore drive.
What happen to these children, when they grow up into primary, secondary, into Junior Colleges ?
Because
From as young as 5 years old, as a kindergarten toddler, they have already been taught : one must always build up an active, impressive portfolio, must have a strong Cca on your plate to exhibit your talents, so that u stand a chance for DSA. Cannot just remain passive, just study only, and expect to be selected for DSA. No such thing. This won't happen. This already drilled into them, from as young as 5 years old.
Therefore,
is it any wonder then that they will continue practising this same old style of behavior pattern and thinking, even when they enter into universities, before they even start to graduate or start to apply for jobs ?
No !
It Is only a natural progression, for them to think & behave like this.
Why ?
Because
of the \" kiasu\" competitive rat race behavior mentality taught or they have been exposed to, since young, from as young as 4 or 5 years old, when they were merely kindergarten toddlers. -
phtthp\" post_id=\"2135319\" time=\"1718876221\" user_id=\"35251:
For some, it actually begins at foetal stage - 胎教
lee_yl,
The rat race has actually started since kindergarten days, from as young as 4 years old.
Do u recall that parents have started sending their sons & daughters to several type of kindergarten enrichment(s)?
Example
=======
1)
Parents send their daughters at 4 or 5 years old, nursery age onwards to learn Rhythmic Gymnastics, to attend ballet dancing, etc. You can see so many young toddlers wearing their baller costume, in this or that ballet school.
Why ?
so that by the time they reach 7 years old, Primary 1, Cca Coach like Rythmic Gym instructors can identify these young girls out easily, who have been trained 3 years ago, at the age of 4 years, to represent their primary school at lower Primary 1, in \"Rhythmic gymnastics\" in inter-school competition, against other primary schools?
One good example ?
Look at Raffles Girls primary school.
Look at CHIJ St Nicholas Girls' Primary school.
Look at Nanyang primary school.
NYPS do offer AG, instead of RG !
2) how about for young boys?
Well, the same thing happened too !
Parents send their young sons at 5 years old, for Sports like fencing, tennis, swimming in their condominum swimming pool, wushu, etc.
Look at ACS primary school.
Look at MGS (Girls) school.
What happen to these children, when they grow up into primary, secondary, into Junior Colleges ?
Because
From as young as 5 years old, as a kindergarten toddler, they have already been taught : must always build up an active, impressive portfolio, must have a strong Cca on your plate to exhibit your talents, so that u stand a chance for DSA. Cannot just remain passive, expect to be selected for DSA. This won't happen. This drills into them, from as young as 5 years old.
Therefore,
is it any wonder then that they will continue practising this same old style of behavior pattern and thinking, even when they enter into universities, before they even start to graduate or start to apply for jobs ?
No !
It Is only natural for them to think like this.
Why ?
Because
of the kiasu behavior taught or been exposed to, since young, from as young as 4 or 5 years old.
Some kids will be at about grade 8 standard for music by around 9-10 years old and start travelling overseas for competitions.