Teachers' Violence

[markfch]

mrswongtuition:

When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he's still too short), she will yell at him to 'get lost'.

:shock: And she's still your friend? You are really magnanimous.

mrswongtuition:

Not all STs are patient and nurturing. Similarly, not all teachers are patient and nurturing too.

And not all teachers are of exemplary characters, this according to my uncle whose daughter is a teacher.

[mrswongtuition]

markfch:

mrswongtuition:

When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he's still too short), she will yell at him to 'get lost'.

:shock: And she's still your friend? You are really magnanimous.

Still friends, after she got a huge scolding from me. I told her that she can get out of my house if she can't treat my son with respect.

[DesertWind]

Hi Sun_2010,


Thanks! Recounted the incidence to my PIL & SIL today and all were horrified. All were unanimous in their advice - quit going to this ST! My maid also told me if we decide to bring my boy again, please exclude her as she is not going to sit in and look on the \"ill-treatment\" again.

Did try to prepare him by telling him where we are going but difficult to do since this is also first time for me and dunno what to expect too.
:celebrate:

Sun_2010:

Yes desertwind, surely there are more speech therapists around. So chill , relax and think about what happened after a couple of days. U r really in a very emotional frame of mind now. after a couple of days, if you still feel ST is not riht one , find a new one.

just an advice, maybe you could prepare him for his session by telling him what he will be doing, and go 15-30 mins b4 his session so that he can be a the strange envi is not threatenning. He seems like a sensitive one like my DS. Maybe you do this already.

End of the day - a mom's gotta do what she's gotta do.

[DesertWind]

LKVM:

Well I wont be taking my kid after this incident :shock:

Me neither.

[DesertWind]

autumnbronze:

Hi DesertWind, :hugs: to ya. Hope your DS has forgotten about the incident. Agree with you that the ST shouldn't have treated your DS so roughly to the point of shoving him. Agree with Sun_2010's sound suggestions. Also agree that at the end of the day, mummy knows best, so go with what your instincts tell you. :hugs: again.

Thanks autumnbronze,
DS seems non the worst but don't think any of us adults can take another bout of such treatment (which BTW the ST said will happen for another few more sessions! :!: )

My instincts are telling me to leave my boy alone. Let him develop naturally (& he is beginning to speak more) and surely it will come in a relaxed manner rather than trying to push it.

So no more private ST except the KKH one!
:hugs:

[DesertWind]

blueblue:

Shoving is certainly wrong. What if a child starts thinking that it is alright to shove at other ppl? The ST is from private? Think the ST is too immune already.

Hi blueblue,

The unbearable part is DS looking at me wondering why am I allowing a stranger to treat him in this way? Certainly not the right message for my boy!

Yes this ST is from private. She said she sees so many kids everyday and certainly sounds like she is immune!

[DesertWind]

Hi mrswongtuition!


Gee, thanks! Somehow your post gave me some comfort! I am certainly new to all these ST business and it has been a really horrible first experience. Some more when I converse with her over the phone, she sounded like a real nice, understanding and patient lady!

The shock is all the more as I expected such people who deal with kids to be patient and nurturing. Certainly not the case indeed, another eye-opening experience for this sotong mummy!
:lol:

mrswongtuition:

Just sharing about STs...

My friend is a ST and she has no patience with kids.
When she decided to study to become a ST, she did not think that she would be working with children - until it was too late to change course cos her parents had already paid alot for her to study overseas.

She totally does not like kids. When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he's still too short), she will yell at him to 'get lost'.

Not all STs are patient and nurturing. Similarly, not all teachers are patient and nurturing too.

[DesertWind]

verykiasu2010:

LOL ! now your turn to require a behavioural therapist ! solli, don't meant to rub salt into the wound :siam:

Bah!

[Brenda10]

During the chat, dd told me that her form teacher would punish anyone who do not do homework in time or submit incomplete. The pupil has to stand near the classroom door and complete the work before back to the seat. Heard it is very effective and after 1- 2 cases in the beginning of the years now everyone is very 乖。

[jasmineong]

hquek:

I think I also tough love. I would want to know what my kid did wrong and address it - teacher part can handle separately.


Of course, if teacher use kids as shooting target, it's not good. But then what I get out of the article is that the parents are condoning what the boy did. If he's sleepy becos he was nursing his sick grandparent (going very cantonese drama here) or doing homework becos there is way too much, then of course, can understand and condone (and find way out). If he's sleepy becos he play too much and refuse to go to bed on time, then parents should say you good boy and bad bad teacher?

There are both sides to the coin. While parents should support the child, I think it's more important to prepare them for society.

Hi hquek,

I did not read the rest of the threads..but what you said here got my attention. It is very true like what you said about needing to prepare the children for society..I have a cousin whose parents always fought his fights for him..if he got scolded too harshly, they would march to the school and talk to the teacher and even principal. Then later as he grew older, everywhere he went, there was always some prob- army life very tough, how can they talk like this to me...etc etc. Then graduated, when on to become jc teacher..then complain about school system and the students etc etc..parents told him he should do other things since he is so smart can do anything. In the end, he quit and for about half a year ..he is not doing anything..just living off parents and focusing on planning for a 2 month trip to europe!!! After tt, he wants to take up painting and still not get a job..aiyo already nearly 30!

I look at him and think he is actually really smart but he cannot tahan probs or stress and because his parents always take his side without trying to teach him resilience, he ends up bumming his life away.. :shock: