Bad Teachers
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I think that the teacher is wrong to use such negative methods to discipline her class. However, apart from speaking to the parents of the other students, I think you should also check with your son if what the teacher claimed was true.
Did he really not do his work? Was he really late for class for 20 to 30 minutes? As a parent, I think you should find out from him why the teacher said that. I feel that even though it’s natural that you would empathise with your son and feel protective of him, if he has been behaving badly in class, he ought to be responsible for his actions.
Your son is very distressed by the punishment and harsh words from his teacher. The fastest way to improve matters is actually not to find "proof" of the teacher’s mishandling of her class, but to work on your son’s discipline, so that the teacher will have no excuse for punishing him.
After that, you can investigate at your own time and consider approaching the principal. -
I did the homework with him, completed it and put them all in the bag. I do so for this particular subject becos of past experiances with this teacher. My best guess is that the teacher did not get them some how, or, have lost it, knowingly, or unknowingly.
But it is the attitude : I am the teacher, and therefore I am always right, you are the student, I say you do.
For those who are in their high horses, and holier than thou, I firmly believe in discipline, I believe even that there is a time, and place for - I say you do and not question my authority .
But I also believe we shd teach the child to believes in himself, even if others do not share the same, provided what he believes in is right and appropriate, and to deliver that in a repectful and polite manner.
Often times it is not what we say, but the manner we say it.
And I also believe that we all have to pick our battles, not all battles are worth our attention. And there are times you dont have a choice becos the battles keep coming at you.
It was the teacher who is late for 20-30 mins, many times throughout the year. Not my son.
Every time my son is being disciplined in school and I know of it, my first response is to find out what and if he has done wrong. This is the typical thing to do isn’t it ?
If any parents have taken noticed, our kids now are no longer as we were, their age. They know what is right and what is wrong and they reason better at a much younger age. They know at a much younger age that there is injustice .
They know at a much younger age, what and who is respectable, and who is not.
If they have bee unjustly punished, and they do not know of it, or are not bordered, then it is a lot more easier to let it go. But, if they know so, and feel that there is not justice and fairness, and it is all one way, and are troubled by it., now this is somethng we shd address.
Do you not accord your child dignity that they deserve?
There are some back ground to this which make me suspect that she is taking it out on my son becos I had gone to the HOD to clarify some questions, and I have to do so becos, she refused to answer questions, time and again, especialy questions by some students, whom she dislike for various reasons, rightly so or not.
Doesn’t the action of the teacher say something ?
An adult and a child, a person put in authority and a student in a school environment. When does it cross the line when discipline becomes bullying. When does it become personal. -
GoopPwr:
True, it may explain why your son is feeling so bothered by it. If you are very sure that the teacher has been lying and punishing him unfairly, you should ask the HOD or principal to speak with her.
If they have bee unjustly punished, and they do not know of it, or are not bordered, then it is a lot more easier to let it go. But, if they know so, and feel that there is not justice and fairness, and it is all one way, now this is somethng we shd address. -
Sometime back i read a chinese book on child upbringing and one of the golden rule is do not criticise your child’s teacher in front of them. As you are encouraging them to challenge authority and lose interest in their studies. I think the first point is debatable as challenging authority might not be a bad thing, but the latter is definately worrying.
If the teacher truly did something wrong it would be best to speak with the teacher personally instead of criticising them and siding with your child.
After reading this article I tend to relate to my own personal experience. I have a younger brother who has dyslexia and my mom was late in discovering it. Probably because of guilt my mom is very protective of my younger brother. When he was in primary school he had a very demanding form teacher who always scold my brother for being slow. My mom did have a talk with the teahcer but she also criticise the teacher in front of my brother, saying things like "With a teacher like that no wonder why your grades are not improving and dont want to go to school" etc etc
My brother ended up to be a very resentful person and always finding excuses for himself. He blames that form teacher of his for his current situation, he blames the singapore education system for P4 streaming blames everyone but himself.
Probably cos when he was young my mom taught him how to find excuses for himself.
Hence i would advise parents out there to pls do not criticise the teachers in front of the kid. Do have a good talk with the teacher and principal if necessary. -
My son has good teachers
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How do u guys deal with teachers who cant teach properly ,an instance , six plus one equals eight, n teacher will teach only simple things…how…
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How do u guys deal with teachers who cant teach properly ,an instance , six plus one equals eight, n teacher will teach only simple things…how…
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I don’t complain Ts infront of my son. Now his E T very strict. She scolded the whole class. If hand writing not clear she put wrong and correction twenty times. My son told me. He feel very stress cos t always scolding in the class.I told him the t said nicely some kids never listen so T should be like that. T do for ur good.I advised him if T scold the whole class and u didn’t do anything wrong then don’t take to heart. If u did wrong then take scolding to heart and put effort to improve.
His favorite subject E now he hate cos he hate T. it’s make me to think, may be t avoid unnecessary scoldings. One boy late for submit and t got late for meeting then the whole class got punishment, stay back in the class no recess. It is not fair to all. One boy didn’t submit on time, that’s the boy’s fault, other pupils can’t help on this. -
No matter how strict, unreasonable or ridiculous the teacher(s) is/are, never criticize them in front of the kids…personally I feel that kids have to learn what authority is.
When my son came home after meeting his Eng teacher this year, he complained how fierce, unreasonable blah blah blah she is. I ignored him because his school teachers are ALL strict since his P1 days. Usually I will ask him why he find them unreasonable.
I emailed his Eng teacher bcos she kept asking the class to bring a title (Listening Comprehension) which wasn’t avail for sale in school bookshop. She called me…after that 15 min chat, I was convinced her actions was for the good of the class…son is in P6 this year. -
Being a teacher is really not a easy job. Eg. Work does not end when the school bell goes off. They have to mark papers, etc… after work. Do have a couple of teacher friends around me and their FB status always seem really stressed. Heard the pay is pretty miserable too.
So only with a passion can one be a good teacher. Was talking to my teacher cousin that some join the profession for the wrong reason. Eg. job security? Nothing else to do… Though they usually resign but it is bad if our offsprings come across such teachers.
My Sec school niece was recently punished to copy some 20+ pages of some novel over the weekends as she forgot to write annotations. She said some are given only 1 day and in her case, over the weekends. Given that it is CNY holidays, I wonder if the teacher’s action is too harsh. We had family gathering everyday and she was always seen busy copying word for word.
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