In-law problems?

[singmathstutor]

janet_lee88:

Augmum,

Mine here married angmoh, got green card and can sponsor parents to US. But don't know why the 2 old folks don't want to go leh.
Daughter got a big house to stay and they have a chance to visit places. SF has many Chinese who migrated there.

I believe the old folks just prefers to be in a place where they are most comfortable to \"yang lao\". Imagine they have lived here for donkey years and have already accustomed themselves to the neighbourhood and lifestyle. I believe the catchword is \"changes\". They have very high resistance to do that.

[auntieM]

janet_lee88:

Strange. I was told there was intention for whole family to move to SG for good...don't want to give up US citizenship but enjoy SG education benefits. Selfish mentality.


Hubby mentioned something about sending the boy here for education...then I asked who look after ? OMG, these people are so weird.

At least they are moving here as a family.. ...My SIL intend to leave her DS here alone and she will stay in China.. :shock:

[janet88]

auntieM,

I was told the couple wanted to leave the angmoh son with her parents while the couple stay in US leh. Anyway, I couldn’t be bothered.

Actually I heard from hubby his father doesn’t want to go to US, but the wife wants to but dare not fly to US by herself. Not only that, if they really go there again, the wife wants to sell off the flat. They just got S’pore citizenship.

[shine_fs]

janet_lee88:

Augmum,

Mine here married angmoh, got green card and can sponsor parents to US. But don't know why the 2 old folks don't want to go leh.
Daughter got a big house to stay and they have a chance to visit places. SF has many Chinese who migrated there.

I think all their relatives are in Singapore and scare they will not used to ANG MO style.....Singapore is their home town mah.... :lol:

National day coming soon....we are singaporean.... :siam:

[hapydino]

finally finished reading the entire thread..


some stories really sound like 粤语残片 scenes and i salute the fellow DILs whom can take it and remain strong..

yes, i appreciate that my MIL is not too bad after reading fellow *horror stories* but doesn't mean i am ready to forgive and forget what she has done..

i envy some ladies here whom have nice mums vs evil mils but i am sad to say my mum is quite bor chup too, so i can rely on neither side..

and when it comes to the issue of getting played out when it comes to babysitting our DD, both mums pulled the same stunt.. :stupid:

[janet88]

hapydino,

Exactly like those TVB dramas of olden days hor…those fierce, overbearing, unreasonable MIL in the show bullying the new daughter-in-law.

I envy those ladies who have great MILs whom they can rely on, help look after kids and don’t side the sons all the time.

[Mrs Ang]

hapydino:

and when it comes to the issue of getting played out when it comes to babysitting our DD, both mums pulled the same stunt.. :stupid:

My mil also played me out not once but twice :stupid: . My ger has been having fever, running nose and cough at least once a month since she is in infant care. Therefore mil has offered her help again last week and my hubby still have 70% faith in her :!: I have decided to remain in infant care. I cannot imagine what will I do if mil do it the 3rd time! :x

[hapydino]

janet_lee88:

hapydino,

Exactly like those TVB dramas of olden days hor...those fierce, overbearing, unreasonable MIL in the show bullying the new daughter-in-law.

I envy those ladies who have great MILs whom they can rely on, help look after kids and don't side the sons all the time.

janet,

ya lor, i guess good in laws are 可遇不可求..

:celebrate:

[hapydino]

Mrs Ang:

hapydino:

and when it comes to the issue of getting played out when it comes to babysitting our DD, both mums pulled the same stunt.. :stupid:

My mil also played me out not once but twice :stupid: . My ger has been having fever, running nose and cough at least once a month since she is in infant care. Therefore mil has offered her help again last week and my hubby still have 70% faith in her :!: I have decided to remain in infant care. I cannot imagine what will I do if mil do it the 3rd time! :x

Mrs Ang,

for my case, when we were deciding where to stay / where to buy our flat, mil say she wouldn't be able to help.. so we chose a place near my parents (5 bus stops away) when my mum say she can help..

mil stay in the west while my parents stay in the NE..

move in liao, mil keep bugging us to have a baby.. her version 'u all stay so far, i wanna help oso cannot help'..

den move in liao my mum's turn to flip roti prata and say she prefer to continue working so cannot help too!! :stupid:

[Mrs Ang]

hapydino:

Mrs Ang,

for my case, when we were deciding where to stay / where to buy our flat, mil say she wouldn't be able to help.. so we chose a place near my parents (5 bus stops away) when my mum say she can help..

mil stay in the west while my parents stay in the NE..

move in liao, mil keep bugging us to have a baby.. her version 'u all stay so far, i wanna help oso cannot help'..

den move in liao my mum's turn to flip roti prata and say she prefer to continue working so cannot help too!! :stupid:

Aiyo...my case is we buy near our mil flat as mil said will help. I'm working in Tuas and mil stay in East. My parent stay in NW. My mum has agreed to help as my ger has been falling sick constantly. I'm now trying to appeal for early selling of my house. Hope it will be approved asap. Then I will need to look for a resale flat in NW.

How old is your child and who is helping you to look after?