In-law problems?

[markfch]

tree nymph:

I was told (by my SIL) that since I'm living under their roof, even if it comes to my kids, they will also call the shots. :shock: :shock:

This is so wrong. When it comes to children, nobody should call the shots except their own parents. I'm sure even when my turn to become fil, I'll abide by that. Don't mean to be rude, but think your sil a bit :siao: to come up with such logic.

[janet88]

Since I have a SIL :siao: like that, I dare not invite her as well as EMPEROR and EMPRESS DOWAGER for any event.

[mummy of 2]

buds:

No, i'm not giving up. After

this long and this close, i wud give it one last pit with all i've got in me.

Hi sista

That's the way to go! Don't give up wothout a fight! You are this close to freedom. I hope you will eventually get your wish to be out of the line of fire, even though it's 10 yeears too late.

[janet88]

mummy of 2:

buds:

No, i'm not giving up. After

this long and this close, i wud give it one last pit with all i've got in me.

Hi sista

That's the way to go! Don't give up wothout a fight! You are this close to freedom. I hope you will eventually get your wish to be out of the line of fire, even though it's 10 yeears too late.

We wish you all the best. You have to get your own place and lead own life...after all you have served them for 10 years.

[Pen88n]

tree nymph:

buds:

HER? No way hosei!
She's empress dowager.
Command respect kind.
Dun care where.. the disadvantage
is i am a stay home parent so i've
to face her daily and once her day
is done, she faces hubs with her
other side.

mine is the Empress dowager in the house too. and she has the right - cos its their house!

that is why I chose to work and continue to work as long as I'm in the house.

And I chose not to dwell on the negative thoughts... else will go :siao:

Buds, really salute you :salute: for putting up for 10 years, and as a SAHM, to face this every day. I really hope you will find peace and happiness with your own little family soon.

Tree nymph, you are strong and very positive. It's not easy to go back after work to face such issues.

It's coincident that we all have Empress Dowagers around and there are so many in this world. My hubby always think that I am the only DIL who would call the MIL Empress Dowager :shock: but he dare not argue with the naming cos he knows she is really like one :politebleah:

[janet88]

I really salute women who are SAHMs staying with their Empress Dowagers. How do you tolerate and tahan ? 2 tigers under one roof is virtually impossible. I can’t even tahan for 1 hour before I have to make my escape to BREATHE.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

I really salute women who are SAHMs staying with their Empress Dowagers. How do you tolerate and tahan ? 2 tigers under one roof is virtually impossible. I can't even tahan for 1 hour before I have to make my escape to BREATHE.

janet_lee88, yes, we need space to BREATHE!

I salute you ladies, whether SAHM or FTWM who live with their MIL's. \"Hats off\"

[janet88]

Andaiz:

janet_lee88:

I really salute women who are SAHMs staying with their Empress Dowagers. How do you tolerate and tahan ? 2 tigers under one roof is virtually impossible. I can't even tahan for 1 hour before I have to make my escape to BREATHE.

janet_lee88, yes, we need space to BREATHE!

I salute you ladies, whether SAHM or FTWM who live with their MIL's. \"Hats off\"

I can hardly breathe during CNY...can't wait to make my escape every year. Simply awkward having to to face the TV all the time and avoiding conversations which will make me blow my top on 1st day of CNY.

[3Boys]

tree nymph:

3Boys:

\"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.\"


Time for your hubs to cut the apron strings. Harsh, but necessary. I don't know the rights or wrongs of your situation, but if this drives you nuts, it is your prerogative as the wife to say NO.

3Boys,
I still patiently waiting for this day to come... and in the mean time, i have to eat the humble pie. I'm living under FIL's roof and so they call the shots - even though I'm paying for the toilet paper to the meals put on the table to any new appliances when the old ones had stopped working... I was told (by my SIL) that since I'm living under their roof, even if it comes to my kids, they will also call the shots. :shock: :shock:

I wish you all the best. Its not an easy situation I know. Your kids are your own, you have accountability and its your right to raise them the way you see fit.

[Picolo]

janet_lee88:

mummy of 2:

[quote=\"buds\"] No, i'm not giving up. After

this long and this close, i wud give it one last pit with all i've got in me.

Hi sista

That's the way to go! Don't give up wothout a fight! You are this close to freedom. I hope you will eventually get your wish to be out of the line of fire, even though it's 10 yeears too late.

We wish you all the best. You have to get your own place and lead own life...after all you have served them for 10 years.[/quote]Hi Buds,

Yes! That's the way! :ugogirl: Keep your spirits up and hang in there. It's now or never. Really. If you give in now, you won't have another chance. Only another episode of you-know-what.

I am very thankful to have an understanding MIL and I don't have to live with her. She needs her space and freedom and I dearly need mine. If she lives with me, there will be 2 Empress Dowagers, can die... thanks to my MIL for her foresight.

About 10 years ago, I attended a Marriage Preparation Course with my HB, and the course instructor told all under his tutelage the danger of staying together with ILs. I think the course was insightful and I feel that all new couples should go through a course like this one.