In-law problems?

[autumnbronze]

kiasume,


:hugs: to you.

I can relate to you in some of the examples you cited.

Some weeks back, my DS was persuading my mom to come over to our place, he wanted to play with her (I had just brought her to the doctor for her routine check-up and my DS was with me). My mom flatly said no - not \"no dear, next time as I am tired\" etc .... just plain \"no, I want to go home.\"

I wondered why.

Later on, I found out that she needed to get home to prepare for some friends coming over the next day ie prepare snacks etc ...

She also favours my sis over me.

My take - best to let go, be at peace with yourself and move on. They can never change and we should stop hoping. You have your MIL so you are really fortunate. For me, I am just doing my duty to keep my conscience clear and set a positive example for my DS.



:hugs: :hugs:

[duriz]

kiasume:

This is the type of \"mother\" I have. :x

Aww Mummy kiasume :hugs:

[autumnbronze]

Jennifer:

U r fortunate in a way that there is a mother figure in your life all this while. Mine? No recollection of how she looked like until I was in my teens. By then, she was a total stranger. I did not even attend her funeral. I hv only 1 piece of vivid memory of her- canning me.

:hugs: :hugs: Jennifer

[duriz]

autumnbronze:

My take - best to let go, be at peace with yourself and move on. They can never change and we should stop hoping. You have your MIL so you are really fortunate. For me, I am just doing my duty to keep my conscience clear and set a positive example for my DS.

:hugs: for you AB

[buds]

kiasume:

I will learn from her mistake and will not do it to my children. I will control my children not to be hurtful to one another. I will teach my children never to get jealous with one another.

I understand how you feel. :snuggles:

kiasume:

Instead tap on each other strength to create a unity for a family.

I love this!

I totally agree with you on it.. :love:

Family should be about harmony and not enmity or jealousy at all.
Hence, it is hard to respect those who go out of their way to make
problems for siblings just cos they feel like it. My MIL's tale bearing
is currently doing this to us. Frankly i tell you... Nobody wins..

[duriz]

Jennifer:

U r fortunate in a way that there is a mother figure in your life all this while. Mine? No recollection of how she looked like until I was in my teens. By then, she was a total stranger. I did not even attend her funeral. I hv only 1 piece of vivid memory of her- canning me.

It's now in the past.
:hugs: Mummy Jennifer

[buds]

autumnbronze:

My take - best to let go, be at peace with yourself and move on. They can never change and we should stop hoping. You have your MIL so you are really fortunate. For me, I am just doing my duty to keep my conscience clear and set a positive example for my DS.

This is true.. those who don't try to change won't change and don't plan
to change. Crystal clear conscience it is... :snuggles: autumnbronze wif
own mom OR with husband's mom... regardless...

[autumnbronze]

buds:

Me three dear... until i had my #1... then things started to get better. :love:

I've also always been the one at her beck and call and yet still
her punching budsnana. :lol: Aniwaes, daddie and mumsie have
been my pillar of support & strength throughout the turbulences in
my marriage and also IL woes... they help keep my sanity in place
and constantly offering to share my emotional baggage so that i can
move on with life with a less burdening outlook. Things are indeed way
better now... and i am enjoying every minute of it.

Sayang you also buds :hugs: :hugs:

So happy that mumsie and you are kam cheng ho now :celebrate:

[schweppes]

autumnbronze:

My take - best to let go, be at peace with yourself and move on. They can never change and we should stop hoping. You have your MIL so you are really fortunate. For me, I am just doing my duty to keep my conscience clear and set a positive example for my DS.

:hugs: :hugs: Autumnbronze

[kiasume]

:snuggles: Buds :snuggles: Duriz :snuggles: Autumnbronze :snuggles: Jennifer


Thank you for hearing me out.

I take this funny \"relationship with mum\" as a learning for me. I thank GOD for making me such a strong person with the bitter experience I had.

After all these years, I have no choice being weary of my mum's action. Everything that she asked for, I will think thrice. Refuse to be \"used\" by her.

Like what autumnbronze mentioned, I will do whatever I can for her just to keep my conscience clear.