In-law problems?
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kylene:
her soup is super rich...oily and unhealthy. I don't put salt in my soup...cut down on sugar, salt and oil too.
it's very annoying isn't it. here we are, trying our best to give our kids healthy food , trying to teach them good eating habits and someone sabotages it. Thing is, MIL is quite health conscious too, esp in the past 5 years when FIL discovered he has high cholesterol. She gives my kid junk food so that he would like her. and her defence? it's ok, he's still young. When I tell her about good eating habits starting from young, she accuses me of being over-protective.24hr-mum:
my case is like kylene's.
me n mil disagree over wat kids eat.
she likes to offer junk food, i m super health conscious.
crazy! -
speaking about salt, I don’t add salt to my son’s food when he was very young. When I tasted the stock she made, it was super salty. Got my DH to ask her not ot add salt, her reply was that it’s ok, salt is natural. nearly fainted.
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kylene:
speaking about salt, I don't add salt to my son's food when he was very young. When I tasted the stock she made, it was super salty. Got my DH to ask her not ot add salt, her reply was that it's ok, salt is natural. nearly fainted.
each time she sees her son, she will pass him a bottle of her 凉茶. i told hubby to finish it since his mother made it...he is not used to her cooking now...salty and oily...which is why I don't mind eating reunion lunches/dinners outside. -
This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!
In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:
1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people’s happiness especially if the ‘favorite’ son/daughter doesn’t have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless
My MIL happens to be all of the above, and I’m the husband of her least favorite daughter.
My mother occasionally finds fault with my wife, but my wife definitely prefers her to her own mother!
I have to protect my wife from her own mother. The irony is when I wed her, I gave her parents word I would take good care of her. But I guess that doesn’t include protection from her own family as part of my husbandry requirements.
Thanks for listening to my rant!
Merry Christmas! -
qizai:
No worries...we enjoy reading your story and it's definitely not rant.This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!
In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:
1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people's happiness especially if the 'favorite' son/daughter doesn't have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless
My MIL happens to be all of the above, and I'm the husband of her least favorite daughter.
My mother occasionally finds fault with my wife, but my wife definitely prefers her to her own mother!
I have to protect my wife from her own mother. The irony is when I wed her, I gave her parents word I would take good care of her. But I guess that doesn't include protection from her own family as part of my husbandry requirements.
Thanks for listening to my rant!
Merry Christmas!
It's refreshing to read this from a man's point.
1) Centre of universe...possible if she has been given the privilege through the years.
2/3) Practice favoritism...practices this and yet denies it, claiming to be fair to all the kids.
4) Gets happiness at the expense of children.
5) 2 faced or 2 headed snake...say something in front of one daughter-in-law and something else to another and creating misunderstanding.
6) Henpecked. -
qizai:
:goodpost: I see the big picture now....how true.This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!
In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:
1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people's happiness especially if the 'favorite' son/daughter doesn't have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless
Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas to all! -
wow, i agree all with qizai!
to add on:
1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing
2) even if she is stayg is her married son’s house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen
3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show -
oh yes, talking abt salt.
they not only add salt to the food, they also say they ‘eat salt more than we eat rice’. haha. how true! -
24hr-mum:
Yeah, she thinks the son is the SOLE owner...and she wants the keys to the house too. That will NEVER happen. She once asked and I pretended not to hear.to add on:
1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing
2) even if she is stayg is her married son's house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen
3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show
Caring or pretending to care for her DIL in front of her sons. Behind their backs, the HORNS appear. -
Had to speak to MIL and listen to those fake drama on Xmas eve..sian...only good thing is we are very far away from her, and spared the actual drama, and dinner bill too....
Merry Xmas to all! :celebrate:
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