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    In-law problems?

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    • J Offline
      janet88
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      ectanz:
      My friends used to ask me a question n till now no answer from me yet. Maybe I don't hv courage to face reality....


      Question - wat will u do if yr PIL is getting old n need u to take care of them?
      My SIL believes that ignorance is bliss...and I agree.
      Don't think the 3 sons will discuss this issue bcos they won't know what to do anyway...they can't even plan a reunion lunch.

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        peapot
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        I don’t have PIL but I heard alot from my friends. I also don’t quite understand why they want to meddle in the children’s affairs especially when they’re already grown up. This will make living with them difficult. I always tell my mom not to meddle in my brother’s life else everyone will suffer.


        Do you think maybe because the old people are concerned? Perhaps out of concern they unknowingly becomes annoying the hell out of everyone? Seriously clueless, must interview a couple of them.

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          sall
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          peapot:
          I don't have PIL but I heard alot from my friends. I also don't quite understand why they want to meddle in the children's affairs especially when they're already grown up. This will make living with them difficult. I always tell my mom not to meddle in my brother's life else everyone will suffer.


          Do you think maybe because the old people are concerned? Perhaps out of concern they unknowingly becomes annoying the hell out of everyone? Seriously clueless, must interview a couple of them.
          Maybe they think they know a lot, have a lot of experience in life, can do everything better than the younger generation, so they must have a say in everything. Some may feel insecure, so they still want to have control over the children's lives. If they can let go, then everybody will be happy.

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            ectanz
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            sall:
            peapot:

            I don't have PIL but I heard alot from my friends. I also don't quite understand why they want to meddle in the children's affairs especially when they're already grown up. This will make living with them difficult. I always tell my mom not to meddle in my brother's life else everyone will suffer.


            Do you think maybe because the old people are concerned? Perhaps out of concern they unknowingly becomes annoying the hell out of everyone? Seriously clueless, must interview a couple of them.

            Maybe they think they know a lot, have a lot of experience in life, can do everything better than the younger generation, so they must have a say in everything. Some may feel insecure, so they still want to have control over the children's lives. If they can let go, then everybody will be happy.

            Ya, agreed. My FIL is tat kind of taciturn person. Unless it is extremely serious matter otherwise he will not comment much; on the contrary, my MIL is the one who will make things look bad or she juz exaggerated it.

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              smartmummy
              last edited by

              Hi All!

              I don’t have father-in-law and mother-in-law.

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                kids_r_innocent
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                ectanz:


                Ya, agreed. My FIL is tat kind of taciturn person. Unless it is extremely serious matter otherwise he will not comment much; on the contrary, my MIL is the one who will make things look bad or she juz exaggerated it.
                :hi5: My PIL r the same... Dun feel like talking to my MIL sometimes as she is always pessimistic n tats make my mood bad too!!

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                  ectanz
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                  kids_r_innocent:
                  ectanz:



                  Ya, agreed. My FIL is tat kind of taciturn person. Unless it is extremely serious matter otherwise he will not comment much; on the contrary, my MIL is the one who will make things look bad or she juz exaggerated it.

                  :hi5: My PIL r the same... Dun feel like talking to my MIL sometimes as she is always pessimistic n tats make my mood bad too!!

                  I seldom talk to my MIL or rather dislike to hv conversation with her. The moment she started to open her mouth, she will begin to complain my hb's SIL or telling me to do this or tat. Usually, I will try to :siam: when she started her talking.

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                    coolit
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                    True true…the moment I go near my MIL, she will start complaining and will tell

                    bad stuff about my SILs but it makes me wonder what she says behind my back
                    because it cannot be that she finds so many things that are wrong with them and
                    not me. She is just a negative person in general.

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                      ectanz
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                      coolit:
                      True true..the moment I go near my MIL, she will start complaining and will tell

                      bad stuff about my SILs but it makes me wonder what she says behind my back
                      because it cannot be that she finds so many things that are wrong with them and
                      not me. She is just a negative person in general.
                      Do u stay with yr il?

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                        coolit
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                        I used to stay with them. We moved out 2 years ago. stayed with them for 3 years.

                        It was 3 years of frustration! Do you stay with yours?

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