In-law problems?

[Chenonceau]

Janet… I dun quite know why she would rather spend her time bossing me, my kids and my helper around than with her husband. Maybe it gives her satisfaction to boss us around and my FIL won’t let her boss him? Or maybe she loves us all too much to let go.


I really dunno.

[janet88]

Chenonceau:

Janet... I dun quite know why she would rather spend her time bossing me, my kids and my helper around than with her husband. Maybe it gives her satisfaction to boss us around and my FIL won't let her boss him? Or maybe she loves us all too much to let go.


I really dunno.

Could it be becos you have a helper...so she finds it thrilling to be around your place. When I had a helper then, she tried to get near to her to find out more info about me.

[racoon12]

Chenonceau and other mummies,

Thank you very much for your advises… look like i need to tame down my own temper, plan my strategy and build up my courage to fight the ‘devil’ myself.

Once again, thank you very much…

[kittybank]

do yr parents and yr in-laws visit each other? if so, is there any rule or practice that it must be the husband’s side to initiate a visit to the wife’s parents?

[ectanz]

wormy:

do yr parents and yr in-laws visit each other? if so, is there any rule or practice that it must be the husband's side to initiate a visit to the wife's parents?

Not at all. My MIL not even visit my parents during my wedding preparation, not to mention other occasions.

By right, my MIL should initiate a call to my mum to ask her for any particular request in order to include these things during 提亲. Instead she asked my hb to check with my parents. In the end, my dad had to get these things done on my MIL's behalf. :stompfeet:

[Flowermonaster]

wormy:

do yr parents and yr in-laws visit each other? if so, is there any rule or practice that it must be the husband's side to initiate a visit to the wife's parents?

My IL only visited my parents twice in my 14 years of marriage. One when they come to discuss our marriage, the other was the first CNY after we married. They also seldom called my parents to talk. Whenever my mum knows that my MIL comes to Spore, she will try to call our place & talk to her but never vice versa. So in the end my mum also never bother Liao. There was once my mum wanted to visit my IL from Malaysia, knowing my IL are not a very good host, I quickly persuade her not to go. My ILs are good people just that they are not use or may be don't like to entertain guest. Seldom see guest/neighbours in their house other than their children, grandchildren. They are polite to guest but can see very cold loh.

[BeContented]

Hmmm…think my parents tried initially during CNY & during kids’ birthday celebration, they would make the first move to strike a conversation with my ILs. But somehow, unable to chat (totally different types of people) and worse was FIL would kept quiet - almost to the point of ignoring. Think my parents gave up after a few tries…so nowadays, my parents would just make very polite greetings and that’s it.

[coolit]

My father-in-law would just keep quiet and my dad has also given up after a long time.

The 2 mothers would just smile but keep their distance. I wish they can get along a bit
better but since they only see each other about 1-2 a year, it is a tolerable situation.

[kittybank]

My mil asked why my parents nvr go and hv meal with her. So i said they r old and weak. She said can take taxi. :stompfeet:


She thinks she is dowager but i was nvr treated like a empress

[janet88]

wormy:

My mil asked why my parents nvr go and hv meal with her. So i said they r old and weak. She said can take taxi. :stompfeet:


She thinks she is dowager but i was nvr treated like a empress

I don't see any reason why my parents should entertain her. She can dream on if she wants my parents to lick her boots.