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    In-law problems?

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      fifiyeo
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      Janet, I haven’t been celebrating with them for years already - since the year they decided to celebrate it at a hawker centre with no other siblings attending and with black faces!


      That’s why this year I say they something wrong. Ask me weeks ahead and want to go to some expensive restaurant or my pick and after I disappeared to go on a trip, they still give big angpow and all the wayang. You say got something wrong??!! I think super weird. Volcanoes should be going to erupt somewhere soon.

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        janet88
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        fifiyeo:

        That's why this year I say they something wrong. Ask me weeks ahead and want to go to some expensive restaurant or my pick and after I disappeared to go on a trip, they still give big angpow and all the wayang. You say got something wrong??!! I think super weird. Volcanoes should be going to erupt somewhere soon.
        Ignore them. Or else you will be driven :siao: by them.

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          LOLMum
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          fifiyeo:


          they still give big angpow

          quick, donate it to charity.

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            carrotz
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            My mil is at it again — showing off at the expense of others. Just doesn’t have any consideration for our financial constraints. Likes to boast and dangle the carrot in front of her offspring. When it comes to actual $ expense, she doesn’t bother while the rest just act blur. They share the same trait — boastful and super ‘ngeow’.

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              janet88
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              carrotz:
              My mil is at it again --- showing off at the expense of others. Just doesn't have any consideration for our financial constraints. Likes to boast and dangle the carrot in front of her offspring. When it comes to actual $ expense, she doesn't bother while the rest just act blur. They share the same trait --- boastful and super 'ngeow'.

              The last time she boasted when her son bought a penthouse. Then the old man made a comment that it was in Geylang district...price very cheap. HaHaHa. She was so mad that she wanted to murder him for saying it.

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                vicki
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                janet_lee88:
                carrotz:

                My mil is at it again --- showing off at the expense of others. Just doesn't have any consideration for our financial constraints. Likes to boast and dangle the carrot in front of her offspring. When it comes to actual $ expense, she doesn't bother while the rest just act blur. They share the same trait --- boastful and super 'ngeow'.


                The last time she boasted when her son bought a penthouse. Then the old man made a comment that it was in Geylang district...price very cheap. HaHaHa. She was so mad that she wanted to murder him for saying it.

                :rotflmao: 😉

                Can imagine her :stupid: :slapshead:

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                  janet88
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                  The first time she opened her mouth was when her eldest son bought a $500K 5 room flat in Bishan. Then she asked for house keys to show off to her Malaysian relatives. Naturally my SIL will not give her the keys.


                  My flat not $500K but she still wanted to show off. She asked for my house keys. I pretended not to hear.

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                    chloecube
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                    what will you do if you found that your MIL has been bad-mouthing you (or teaching the wrong stuff to your kids) in front of your kids?


                    such as " Daddy’s things cannot mess up, if you want, go mess mummy’s thing"

                    i didnt want to kick up a big fuss to put DH in a spot. yet, i do not wish my kids to pick up wrong values, they are too young to analyse right and wrong now.

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                      LOLMum
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                      Tell your hubby what his mum said. Tell him if this happen again, you will tell her off even if he thinks it is a small matter.


                      Value is more important than her twisted sense of opinion.

                      She not happy if you tell her off? Well, her feeling can :imconstipated: .

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                        chloecube
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                        DH knew abt this, he also knew i was upset over his mum.


                        to be honest, i had experienced too many times of my MIL’s "stunt"
                        she likes to sow discords in my family, used to be with my DH, now my kids.
                        initially, DH and i fought many times bcos of her, she enjoys seeing both of us quarrel and i knew she is secretly smiling when DH scolded me infront of her. to me, she is sick, even my late FIL couldnt stand her nonsense.

                        after few yrs, DH and i came to compromise that we shall not quarrel over his mother anymore, its just not worth it. but now she target my kids, i am really upset over this.
                        i do not understand why she is doing all these and yet pretend to be very nice to me. i hate her for being such a hypocrite. she dislike seeing DH being nice to me, she turn jealous and think she is losing her DS to me, why cant she see it as gaining another daughter (which is me as a DIL)?

                        anyway, back to the topic, DH told me he will go and talk to her which i doubt he will (this is not the first time he said he will "talk" to her). i didnt want to talk abt MIL to him anymore, he has enough stress from his work recently, didnt want to add on his burden.

                        i felt that no matter what happen between the adults, kids shld not be dragged into the saga, much as i dislike my MIL, i do not bad-mouth her in front of kids, its just not rite.

                        DH had a talk with my kids ytd and told them what grandma said is not right
                        DD came and asked me this ytd nite " why mama treat u so bad…"
                        i do not know what to say…

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