In-law problems?

[znzyzyzx]

northernstar:

znzyzyzx:

My husband is also super filial, always tell me to 忍，said the old folks 没有多少年left , let them have their way.

my DH keeps asking me to 将心比心... so i guess we are in the same boat... dun u feel upset?

I do. But then my husband is a super good husband, and my in laws are nice folks too. But then no matter how nice, also cannot stay together , otherwise i will be very unhappy. So luckily they are in Malaysia, and my fil dont like to leave his house.

[northernstar]

znzyzyzx:

I do. But then my husband is a super good husband, and my in laws are nice folks too. But then no matter how nice, also cannot stay together , otherwise i will be very unhappy. So luckily they are in Malaysia, and my fil dont like to leave his house.

your in-laws make u unhappy, why do u still say they are nice??

[northernstar]

LOLMum:

me too....but sometimes also :nunchuk: by others but never mind lah.

from your 1st post, i tot it might be they want to ease the separation anxiety and i didnt know your kid is only a few months old until you said so in the next post..... . just a few months younger than my favourite baby in my condo......so fun to play with.

i can tell you if your kid is one of those who will cry till vomit when you leave, it is :yikes: . can be heartbreaking when you hear her cries and you know you cant go to her. :sad:

i also love to buy things...not just because i love my nieces, nephwews, my kids. my friends' kids....but also because the things are too cute to not buy them kekekek :stompfeet: from my dh....so stop this itch already.

i can feel u like children so much :imanangel: :imanangel:

although i haven encountered that b4, but when i see my DD sick, i will also heartpain cos she will cry more times and wan me carry her more...

[znzyzyzx]

northernstar:

znzyzyzx:

I do. But then my husband is a super good husband, and my in laws are nice folks too. But then no matter how nice, also cannot stay together , otherwise i will be very unhappy. So luckily they are in Malaysia, and my fil dont like to leave his house.

your in-laws make u unhappy, why do u still say they are nice??

But they are really nice. Is just that 相见好同住难。

I wont be happy staying with them because I dont like to have people bother about my family affairs, and you know old folds like to 管头管尾, they think they eat salt more than we eat rice , so they are just being nice, trying to teach you, give you advice, but my character is very iron tooth type, I dont like to be bothered, I like to do things my way lah, dont like to have a 管家婆。

[Chenonceau]

znzyzyzx:

northernstar:

[quote=\"znzyzyzx\"]
I do. But then my husband is a super good husband, and my in laws are nice folks too. But then no matter how nice, also cannot stay together , otherwise i will be very unhappy. So luckily they are in Malaysia, and my fil dont like to leave his house.

your in-laws make u unhappy, why do u still say they are nice??

But they are really nice. Is just that 相见好同住难。

I wont be happy staying with them because I dont like to have people bother about my family affairs, and you know old folds like to 管头管尾, they think they eat salt more than we eat rice , so they are just being nice, trying to teach you, give you advice, but my character is very iron tooth type, I dont like to be bothered, I like to do things my way lah, dont like to have a 管家婆。[/quote]Me too

[northernstar]

Chenonceau:

znzyzyzx:

But they are really nice. Is just that 相见好同住难。

I wont be happy staying with them because I dont like to have people bother about my family affairs, and you know old folds like to 管头管尾, they think they eat salt more than we eat rice , so they are just being nice, trying to teach you, give you advice, but my character is very iron tooth type, I dont like to be bothered, I like to do things my way lah, dont like to have a 管家婆。

Me too

yeah mi 3~! :rahrah: :hi5:

[cherrygal]

northernstar:

i do not understand why i can stop my own parents when they interfere too much and he cannot do it. is it cos he is too filial? :stupid:

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I also asked this question to my DH. The only answer is, the family dynamics are different. My family likes to be open whereas his family likes to sweep everything under the carpet. Not happy also just smile. DH has been taught from young to keep quiet.

[rotund]

Hi all,

This is the first time I’ve posted in this thread. just quarrelled with dh over his father.currently staying with my fil. He has the habit of cleaning himself after passing motion, splashing faeces on the toilet wall, floor and toilet bowl. Been telling him for 2 yrs n today i brought up to dh and commented that i can’t stand it anymore n will move out. Dh screamed that i threatened him n made 难做人。dh spoke to his dad n fil screaming that passing motion is now a sin. Now fil said i can go back to my mum’s pl n to stop using the bathroom n use the other toilet with only a smallstanding pl. Really dun wan to make things difficult for dh but hate to stay with fil

[janet88]

cherrygal:

northernstar:

i do not understand why i can stop my own parents when they interfere too much and he cannot do it. is it cos he is too filial? :stupid:

I also asked this question to my DH. The only answer is, the family dynamics are different. My family likes to be open whereas his family likes to sweep everything under the carpet. Not happy also just smile. DH has been taught from young to keep quiet.

Same here...my hubby was brought up to be one who bottles up. He wasn't used to my family at first...with my aunts/uncles, we can talk about everything and he found it disrespectful. But this is my family, and we have been like this from young. My mum's siblings saw my brother and I grow up from young. To me, I find that if I am unhappy with something, I will speak up. But his mother brought them up to be the 'clamshell' type.

[aurorin]

northernstar:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"znzyzyzx\"]
But they are really nice. Is just that 相见好同住难。

I wont be happy staying with them because I dont like to have people bother about my family affairs, and you know old folds like to 管头管尾, they think they eat salt more than we eat rice , so they are just being nice, trying to teach you, give you advice, but my character is very iron tooth type, I dont like to be bothered, I like to do things my way lah, dont like to have a 管家婆。

Me too

yeah mi 3~! :rahrah: :hi5:[/quote]me 4!! :rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah:

I think in a way what your DH is right also.. they dont have many years and i do try to think from their point of view.. Just that on many issues we dont see eye to eye, doesnt mean they are always wrong. Just different strokes for different folks.. plus generation gap. I also dont like pple come and tell me do this do that (even out of concern)... guess i am the iron-tooth type too.. :rotflmao: