In-law problems?
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Mommylow,
If DH does not even want to say, what else can i say :sad: ... SIL is older than DH...... But still behave like that :roll:mommylow:
My sil is not that bad, although she stay with me, but i do not see her everyday. She went to work early in the morning, my DH sent her to work, n fetch her back fm work every day (diff location) for the past 10 yrs.SAHM Chew:
[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]No worries, contentedSAHM.
I have an idiotic SIL too...so I understand completely where you are coming from. That sister of his literally climbs on top of his head.
The only thing is when we go out with PIL to restaurants, she will not offer to pay. So every restaurant trip per week, DH has to pay at least $150. n she will not share the cost too. I am a SAHM, n i find it so hard to manage the finance, squeezeing here n there :nailbite: n still hv to cater $600 per mth for PIL. Cant she share some of the cost? N for those bigger cost, eg, mosquito neting for the whole house, DH has to pay the cost of it too. When PIL go overseas, DH had to pay for their trip too....she did not contibute at all.
SIL can go oversea every yr... This yr, 2 weeks to china, last yr, 2 weeks to europe..... But DH n i cant afford to go on holiday... :mad: I am not trying to be difficult, but since she is working too, n not married, she can at least share the cost right?
How i envy those who dont live with their PIL, SIL.... I regret not buying my own hse 10 yrs ago, n can never buy another house until PIL are not around... :sad:
I am so streesful that PIL may outlived me :rotflmao:
Your SIL is clearly the 拌猪吃老虎 type. She just acts blur and shirk responsibilities. Tell her in the face to be mature. She has to do her part too so long she is earning her own keep. Parents belong to her too.[/quote] -
SAHM Chew, another way to deal with sil is to make her pay for other things instead. You can also squeeze DH to pay for more of you and your family's needs so he does not have extra spare cash to pay for In-laws's minor spendings and sil will have no choice but to take over.
Sometimes, I suspect that when our DH has excessive money on hand, (not forgetting the wives help to scrimp and save) they tend to be overly generous towards their family side, acting like Santa Claus giving and paying for everything. :roll:
Strangely, they don't give as much to wifey's parents and siblings. -
Hmm, my DH always pay the restaurants bills using credit card, n at the end of the mth, the bill will come to me as i am issueing cheque to pay for the cc bills. N where to get the money to pay? It come fm my monthly hsehold $ :sad: n DH still gives MIL $1k per mth for spending $....
SIL always complain she do not have spare $ , but goes for hotel stay in sg 3-4 times a yr... :rant:mommylow:
SAHM Chew, another way to deal with sil is to make her pay for other things instead. You can also squeeze DH to pay for more of you and your family's needs so he does not have extra spare cash to pay for In-laws's minor spendings and sil will have no choice but to take over.
Sometimes, I suspect that when our DH has excessive money on hand, (not forgetting the wives help to scrimp and save) they tend to be overly generous towards their family side, acting like Santa Claus giving and paying for everything. :roll:
Strangely, they don't give as much to wifey's parents and siblings. -
Mine here is the youngest…the ultimate spoilt. She thinks my hubby is at her beck and call. Actually that hubby of mine has been bullied for long time…as long as it doesn’t involve ME, KIDS or anything I have a share in, I don’t care.
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I wonder if we should start to educate all our kids (boys and girls) that they have equal responsibility during our old age :?
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3Boys:
Ummm.....no. Married is married, loyalty is to the spouse. (In a fair way of course)[/quote]ya i also think loyalty is to the spouse... isnt that all that was sworn in the wedding vow?? since when mil was ever in the vow??
Son will always side with his own parents. Filial piety. It will probably take a lifetime if we want to make DH change sides.mommylow:
[quote=\"verykiasumummy\"]
worse still, dh sides with them...!!
Come to think if it, we also want our DCs to take sides with us rite?
\"i now pronounce u as my wife, together with my mother. we shall all be together living in harmony, in poor or rich, in health or sick.... blah blah blah..\"
red words are added now... -
MMM:
I wonder if we should start to educate all our kids (boys and girls) that they have equal responsibility during our old age :?
my parents nv taught me about that but i think its all about our own mindset... even to teach my dc now, they may forget when they are old... -
If I am married to his mother, doesn't that mean HE is also married to my mother??? :rotflmao:
Do not wish to have my happy days ruined by them...hubby said his sister and the family may be coming back for a visit again...asked him what for? To remind mother to sell their flat and make sure she has a share? Shame on her...eyeing parents only asset. She and her angmoh husband are like vultures. When they came back last year and stayed at parents place...they didn't fork out a single cent. Instead, got a skin thick enough to ask hubby to buy them ALL (6 people) breakfast on weekends :mad: -
many sils are just as beh zi dong as yours…
they either :
- act dumb or is really dumb
- act smart alec
- act poor
- act stupid
- act ignorant
- act filial
- or just be a bimbo!
who is a writer here??? we are offering new and sure-sell-better-than-hotcakes stories… -
i realise i’m very 没仪态 in this thread…
will remind myself not to probe in here… i must return to my angel self…
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