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    In-law problems?

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    • M Offline
      mommylow
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      SAHM Chew, another way to deal with sil is to make her pay for other things instead. You can also squeeze DH to pay for more of you and your family's needs so he does not have extra spare cash to pay for In-laws's minor spendings and sil will have no choice but to take over.


      Sometimes, I suspect that when our DH has excessive money on hand, (not forgetting the wives help to scrimp and save) they tend to be overly generous towards their family side, acting like Santa Claus giving and paying for everything. :roll:

      Strangely, they don't give as much to wifey's parents and siblings.

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        SAHM Chew
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        Hmm, my DH always pay the restaurants bills using credit card, n at the end of the mth, the bill will come to me as i am issueing cheque to pay for the cc bills. N where to get the money to pay? It come fm my monthly hsehold $ :sad: n DH still gives MIL $1k per mth for spending $.... 🤷


        SIL always complain she do not have spare $ , but goes for hotel stay in sg 3-4 times a yr... :rant:

        mommylow:
        SAHM Chew, another way to deal with sil is to make her pay for other things instead. You can also squeeze DH to pay for more of you and your family's needs so he does not have extra spare cash to pay for In-laws's minor spendings and sil will have no choice but to take over.

        Sometimes, I suspect that when our DH has excessive money on hand, (not forgetting the wives help to scrimp and save) they tend to be overly generous towards their family side, acting like Santa Claus giving and paying for everything. :roll:

        Strangely, they don't give as much to wifey's parents and siblings.

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          janet88
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          Mine here is the youngest…the ultimate spoilt. She thinks my hubby is at her beck and call. Actually that hubby of mine has been bullied for long time…as long as it doesn’t involve ME, KIDS or anything I have a share in, I don’t care.

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            MMM
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            I wonder if we should start to educate all our kids (boys and girls) that they have equal responsibility during our old age :?

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              verykiasumummy
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              3Boys:
              mommylow:

              [quote=\"verykiasumummy\"]

              worse still, dh sides with them...!!

              Son will always side with his own parents. Filial piety. It will probably take a lifetime if we want to make DH change sides.

              Come to think if it, we also want our DCs to take sides with us rite?

              Ummm.....no. Married is married, loyalty is to the spouse. (In a fair way of course)[/quote]ya i also think loyalty is to the spouse... isnt that all that was sworn in the wedding vow?? since when mil was ever in the vow??

              \"i now pronounce u as my wife, together with my mother. we shall all be together living in harmony, in poor or rich, in health or sick.... blah blah blah..\"

              red words are added now...

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                verykiasumummy
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                MMM:
                I wonder if we should start to educate all our kids (boys and girls) that they have equal responsibility during our old age :?

                my parents nv taught me about that but i think its all about our own mindset... even to teach my dc now, they may forget when they are old...

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                  janet88
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                  If I am married to his mother, doesn't that mean HE is also married to my mother??? :rotflmao:

                  Do not wish to have my happy days ruined by them...hubby said his sister and the family may be coming back for a visit again...asked him what for? To remind mother to sell their flat and make sure she has a share? Shame on her...eyeing parents only asset. She and her angmoh husband are like vultures. When they came back last year and stayed at parents place...they didn't fork out a single cent. Instead, got a skin thick enough to ask hubby to buy them ALL (6 people) breakfast on weekends :mad:

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                    verykiasumummy
                    last edited by

                    many sils are just as beh zi dong as yours…


                    they either :
                    - act dumb or is really dumb
                    - act smart alec
                    - act poor
                    - act stupid
                    - act ignorant
                    - act filial
                    - or just be a bimbo!

                    who is a writer here??? we are offering new and sure-sell-better-than-hotcakes stories…

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                      verykiasumummy
                      last edited by

                      i realise i’m very 没仪态 in this thread…


                      will remind myself not to probe in here… i must return to my angel self…

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                        mommylow
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                        janet_lee88:
                        If I am married to his mother, doesn't that mean HE is also married to my mother??? :rotflmao:

                        Do not wish to have my happy days ruined by them...hubby said his sister and the family may be coming back for a visit again...asked him what for? To remind mother to sell their flat and make sure she has a share? Shame on her...eyeing parents only asset. She and her angmoh husband are like vultures. When they came back last year and stayed at parents place...they didn't fork out a single cent. Instead, got a skin thick enough to ask hubby to buy them ALL (6 people) breakfast on weekends :mad:
                        By no means you mil should ever sell her house, not when she is still alive. Dun let it happen. Where will she stay then? She will become your responsibility once she has no place to stay and your scheming sil will certainly not take her in. Seen a lot of such cases already.

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