In-law problems?
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janet_lee88:
poor you...attend to a sick child in hospital and another one nursing.
Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SAHM Chew:
[quote=\"SBKS\"]
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
my hubby also grew up eating tidbits...he was fat bcos of all the junk and soft drinks...he never drank water. when we got married, i didn't buy canned drinks or tidbits. he had a habit of opening the fridge to look for pepsi then. now he drinks water and even tells son to drink water. :rahrah:[/quote]Oh, my hubby also grew up eating junk food n drinking soft drinks. He will never touch water. Until now, still the same. He does not drink any plain water. But i do not keep any soft drinks in my fridge, only green tea. But my MIL still buy tons n tons of soft drinks. I still do not understand how can a mother allow her kids to eat junk food all day. I will not do that. Dont understand my MIL.
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Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is…what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke…my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks. -
janet_lee88:
:sad: my MIL still stock up on soft drinks. Coke, sprite, root beer, all soft drink 1 dozen each. My SIL also drink soft drinks....Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is...what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke...my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks. -
SAHM Chew:
I told my kids the amount of sugar put into each can of coke...they were shocked...occasionally I indulge them. Hubby used to drink only Pepsi and was really fat from eating junk food, soft drinks and eating out. If the mother made soup, it would be so rich and salty like drinking gravy.
:sad: my MIL still stock up on soft drinks. Coke, sprite, root beer, all soft drink 1 dozen each. My SIL also drink soft drinks....janet_lee88:
Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is...what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke...my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks.
Eating healthy food is necessary bcos health is so impt as we age.
I have NO conversation with her bcos her thinking is hay wired...buying 1 box of economy rice everyday to share with the old man and then washing the styrofoam boxes. Hubby told me the mountain of styrofoam boxes is enough to start a zi char stall. :yikes: he has given up advising them. -
My PILs never restricted soft drinks, fried stuff on their kids. If fall sick just medicate lor. So DH told me they were always sick.
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SAHM Chew:
wow....that episode is enuff..if it happens to me as well. i will draw the line clearly...poor u.
My kids are 9,6 and 4. The incidents of PIL giving them tidits, chocolates, sweets, ice cream when my eldest is between 2-4. Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SBKS:
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation. -
SBKS:
wow....that episode is enuff..if it happens to me as well. i will draw the line clearly...poor u.[/quote]Too bad the PIL never get the msg and keep giving them secretly.
My kids are 9,6 and 4. The incidents of PIL giving them tidits, chocolates, sweets, ice cream when my eldest is between 2-4. Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SAHM Chew:
[quote=\"SBKS\"]
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation. -
SAHM Chew:
[/quote]I think one needs to be careful about drawing the wrong conclusions from pre-conceived biases. Although probably not the nest thing to do, one should not assume that feeding tid-bits, even large amount of it, leads to low immunity or illnesses.
Too bad the PIL never get the msg and keep giving them secretly.SBKS:
[quote=\"SAHM Chew\"]
wow....that episode is enuff..if it happens to me as well. i will draw the line clearly...poor u.
So perhaps your unhappiness with your PILs in the situation is misplaced. -
fifiyeo:
This sounded like the problem we had with my parents. We were overwritten as far as disciplining kids is concerned. In fact there was a recent melt down. We are now not on talking terms & I'm torn in the middle. Now labelled as an unfillal son, taking the side of DW. Really headache!!We had a rule with the kids that they will always have to call us if PILs, the maids or any other relatives were taking them out. But my PILs were not happy and refused to let them call us before going out (outings that we are unaware of). Even cover up when maids or other relatives take them out. I've caught the maids simply taking the keys and leaving my house with my kid without even telling me to go to the supermarket!!! When we express our unhappiness over this issue, PILs argued that they are the elders so why must they follow our \"rules\". They say can means can, no need to call means no need to call.
So my ex-maids used to answer us \"You go ask your PILs lah!\" -
As my husband always say... \"Don't talk (bad or complain) about my mom (because in his opinion, she can do no wrong). So, why bother, anyway? My two most recent encounters...
MIL decided to be karang guni and salvaged a tricycle from someone's trash from housemoving. The tricycle is in OK condition (although it is obvious that it has gone on the outside roads), but we already have 2 kids bike at home (and DH already complaining about lack of space for the 2nd bike).... But MIL decided to give it a good rinse and placed it in my flat - in the living room - for the children to ride. :siao: :siao: My children had suffered so many run-overs on their tiny feet because they are not used to it - front narrow, back wheels so wide apart, so when one is on it the second one always gets run over... or the maid, or the father (and of course, all our toys!)... I vowed that the day I see it run over anyone's feet again, it will go to the trash immediately.
Oh... don't even wanna get started on the second one... :slapshead: :slapshead:
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