In-law problems?
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AdonciaTang:
I have 3 boys and if anyone starts asking me to try for a girl, I will tell them it's too late as I have officially closed my factory and it is very expensive to reopen it.... :heresmyfish:
LOL. They have nth better to do. I have 2 sons as most of you know and yet I was targeted as not having a daughter. I felt so sad whenever they ask me why dont try for the third one to have a girl. And now that I wan to adopt, I can hear them talking and saying that I cant conceive and so onjanet_lee88:
Actually, most people do not understand it is the MAN who provides the Y chromosome to have that precious son. I have 2 (a girl and a boy...no offence to anyone) and yet get bothered with 'what about a 3rd one?'
These people really have nothing to talk about...so pathetic. -
I have a girl and a boy. Whenever pple ask me why not have another or another girl and another boy. I tell them I want but both DH and my parts not working properly, what to do. It will usually end with them saying aiyah, ok lah, 2 oredi summore 1 of each gender very good oredi.
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Funz:
I have a girl and a boy. Whenever pple ask me why not have another or another girl and another boy. I tell them I want but both DH and my parts not working properly, what to do. It will usually end with them saying aiyah, ok lah, 2 oredi summore 1 of each gender very good oredi.
I have a girl going to be 9, and a boy who just turned 13. Another one??? :dowan: factory certified closed. My SIL just gave birth...the idea of sleepless nights, jabs and fever, teething pain, baby refusing to sleep and the growing up pains all over again is scary. Sorry, no to $8000. -
My DC are 9 and 13 too. No $ can tempt me to have another child. I had been lucky to have employers with very progressive benefits (over and above the current legislation) and very understanding managers who allow me to utilise them. But age had caught up, absence of trusted help and coupled with job insecurity, thanks but no.
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Coolkidsrock2:
My DC are 9 and 13 too. No $ can tempt me to have another child. I had been lucky to have employers with very progressive benefits (over and above the current legislation) and very understanding managers who allow me to utilise them. But age had caught up, absence of trusted help and coupled with job insecurity, thanks but no.
My mornings are quiet and definitely my personal time although i can't go out as I need to cook lunch. Having another child means my life will go haywire. It was so wonderful to go maid less...but with another kid, I don't think I can do without a maid...but a maid is so expensive and not necessary reliable. Education has become so demanding now...I will be 50 lugging a 9 year old kid...I must be nuts to reopen the factory. No thank you. $8000 is not worth all these again. -
That $8000 is not to get pple like you to change your minds. It is to help those who want kids. It is not to pay for your kids but to help ease some of the financial burden. And the total amount is more than $8000.
We get it, those who already have kids and do not want anymore will not be swayed by any amount given. Those who want the DINK lifestyle will not be swayed by this either. But there are those who want kids and this will help ease some financial burden.
Anyway :offtopic:
Back to tackling those irksome relatives who ask and ask. Me thinks no need to get upset or think up excuses. Just straight in their faces, our family, our decision, you plan and manage your own family, I plan and manage mine, ok.
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Back to main topic.
Having reunion dinner today… So sian…SIL ordered dinner. Also bought disposable plates/cutlery bcos nobody willing to wash. 根本就不团, eating this dinner defeats the real purpose…youngest BIL doesn’t want to see eldest bro and his wife dislikes my hubby for dumbest reason…long long story…purpose so fake. -
janet_lee88:
Back to main topic.
Having reunion dinner today... So sian...SIL ordered dinner. Also bought disposable plates/cutlery bcos nobody willing to wash. 根本就不团, eating this dinner defeats the real purpose...youngest BIL doesn't want to see eldest bro and his wife dislikes my hubby for dumbest reason....long long story...purpose so fake.
After days of spring cleaning, I am usually dead tired by the day/time we have our reunion dinner on the last night -- I'll welcome any form of method that will relieve me of one more chore. Dun forget, after everyone leaves, I still gonna clean, sweep & mop the house, so one chore less can only make me happier. :oops:
So honestly, I see nothing wrong in using disposables, we have been doing that for last 2 years. But if you are willing to wash ........
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Disposables are great !!!
The plates and cutlery in their place have not been used for long time…disposable ones are better. So sian having to put up with drama and cringe hearing the old one …can’t wait to eat and come home ASAP. -
Haiz, "arranging" for the dinner already caused much stress and discontent. In the past, MIL refused to compromise even when we have valid reasons. Thus, none of the DILs ever can go back to Mothers’ place for dinner on eve. These few years, one of the younger BIL came up with an ingenious method to appease his PIL (wife’s parents) by bringing BOTH his parents (my PIL) and his PIL (wife’s parents) for dinner at expensive restaurants every CNY eve.
Now, becos have expensive dinner, she will slot her own family’s reunion with her other sons at watever time slots she preferred. 3 sub-families have to accomodate to one BIL & wife.
This year, she suggested all the dates which we cannot (either other commitments or working). Ding dong ding dong, she even suggested weekday lunch (where everyone is working -_-"). Finally settled on one of the weekday evening for dinner, but its gonna be super rushed for everyone (working or studying).
Wun be surprised after that will hear her complain that no one help her blah blah blah. But we all working, can’t expect us to take leave jus for "reunion" dinner when she is the one that "reserved" the eve for own selfish reasons…
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