In-law problems?

[vinegar]

Funz:

MIL called DH a few times daily when we were first married. She kept getting DH to go back to her home using excuses like she packed a box of his stuff, or she cooked smthg for him, ask him to pick up on his way back from work. And when he was there, she would ask him to run some errands with her and since need to run errand, might as well have dinner since it is already dinner time. And DH kept getting sucked into this trap time and again cos if he were to tell her cannot make it, she would start laying the guilt trip on him.


All these really got to me especially after a bad wedding experience where relatives of his wanted to make sure that I know my 'place'.

Over the years, I 'opened my eyes' and kinda realise why MIL behaves the way she does. And when that happened, I was less agitated when stuff happen and DH was happier and eventually, MIL's 'eyes opened' too and she realised that I am not exactly the overbearing tyrannical DIL that she made me out to be.

Same le.My MIL also creates lots of funny excuses to get my DH goes home such as borrow screwdriver,ask my DH to buy ice cubes,etc....And she wanna it,my DH has to do it NOW. :imdrowning:

how u made ur MIL eyes opened? :lightrod:

[janet88]

Think the mothers refused to let go when sons get married.

My hubby was often asked to go back to drink 凉茶…when I gave birth to kids, she visited, bringing along a bottle of it for hubby.

[SaltySalt]

janet_lee88:

Think the mothers refused to let go when sons get married.

My hubby was often asked to go back to drink 凉茶...when I gave birth to kids, she visited, bringing along a bottle of it for hubby.

Haiz. Till now my kids are so big, my mil still call us at least twice a day and when never ans her call, she asked my hubby if i refrain him from answering. =(

[vinegar]

SaltySalt:

janet_lee88:

Think the mothers refused to let go when sons get married.

My hubby was often asked to go back to drink 凉茶...when I gave birth to kids, she visited, bringing along a bottle of it for hubby.

Haiz. Till now my kids are so big, my mil still call us at least twice a day and when never ans her call, she asked my hubby if i refrain him from answering. =(

when we don't hv time to ans MIL's calls(driving,cooking,etc)...She'll call \"until\" u pick up the call. :frustrated:

[vinegar]

one time nearly drove into the drain coz hv to keep answering her calls

[janet88]

I never stopped hubby from visiting them. But hubby will just buy breakfast on Sunday, ask his father to come downstairs and he passes to him. I cannot stop. My duty call done on CNY first day…with the unhappiness over the flat, I will not get involved. I never wanted to…but hubby kinda asked me to ‘support’ him by saying renting out master bedroom to supplement. That’s how the shit came.


Enough on my plate…don’t want to get myself upset by her.

[vinegar]

told myself hv to tak it easy…now, i jokingly told my DH that he beta put ONE hour coupon coz every time when we run errands,he has to allocate half an hour to talk to his mum.

[iFirefly]

janet_lee88:

Think the mothers refused to let go when sons get married.

My hubby was often asked to go back to drink 凉茶...when I gave birth to kids, she visited, bringing along a bottle of it for hubby.

Janet, I can imagine you doing that to your son next time.. :evil: :siam: :siam:

[janet88]

firefly38:

janet_lee88:

Think the mothers refused to let go when sons get married.

My hubby was often asked to go back to drink 凉茶...when I gave birth to kids, she visited, bringing along a bottle of it for hubby.

Janet, I can imagine you doing that to your son next time.. :evil: :siam: :siam:

I do not drink Liang teh. Maybe I will have problem letting go when daughter gets married.

[TheAnswer]

Funz:

janet_lee88:

Was informed by hub that his mother doesn't have any 'lai see'. Told him it is not the amount that matters...even if just $2...but if she doesn't have any 'lai see', then the suay one is her.

I learned long ago never to say such things to DH. No one likes their own family to be criticised no matter how bad they are. Even when MIL does something that appear to frustrate DH, I will assure him instead, that all is ok, no need to be so upset with the old folks. If I join in and rant against his mum, before I know it he will get defensive and I will be on the receiving end of his frustrations. Not worth it.

I also learnt that the hard way. When I see him frustrated, it's best I keep quiet n leave him alone! Saying more is just going to aggrevate situations.