In-law problems?
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vinegar:
seriously,he always asks me not to bother abt it.I reali try hard not to....but.....not when esp... i've to reheat n reheat the dishes again,coz he nid to go to his mum's pl last minute or to answer her calls
:grphug: honestly, he needs to put his foot down n stop pampering her as and when she wants. Otherwise really can't do anything about it. -
Vinegar, u have got yourself a good hubby. 百行孝为首。a man who is a filial son won't be too bad. If it will make u feel better, don't reheat food anymore :evil:
What/how is your relationship with your mil? -
TheAnswer:
Thanks:)All i hv to continue to endure. DH admits that he doesn't handle his mum well.But he also can't change anything coz this is her character.When she wants something,she wanna it now.When she wanna talk now,she wanna talk now,even my DH is in the meeting or i am busy cooking.vinegar:
seriously,he always asks me not to bother abt it.I reali try hard not to....but.....not when esp... i've to reheat n reheat the dishes again,coz he nid to go to his mum's pl last minute or to answer her calls
:grphug: honestly, he needs to put his foot down n stop pampering her as and when she wants. Otherwise really can't do anything about it.
During my confinement,she n her relatives went inside my room without knocking the door,and i was in the middle of breastfeeding...When i turned away(coz tried to cover myself),she told my DH i showed her face.
DH says she is sensitive,he advised me to avoid her,coz he sicks of explaining to her whenever misunderstanding occurs.So now we seldom talks.DH also worries she keeps calling n put my life in danger(coz i am driving most of the times to ferry my kids or run errands). -
MIL fav words:"if u don’t see us now,next time no chance liao,coz we oredi so old,will go anytime."
ever suggested to my DH,asked him to go bk there everyday fr dinner.He didn’t wanna coz firstly,he has no time to travel there.Secondly,after dinner will stuck there very long time,cannot come hme n rest.Thirdly,the food is suck.Lastly,he dislikes his SIL. -
vinegar:
My hb likes to say this too...\"PIL are so old now... Never know how long more to stay with them\"MIL fav words:\"if u don't see us now,next time no chance liao,coz we oredi so old,will go anytime.\"
ever suggested to my DH,asked him to go bk there everyday fr dinner.He didn't wanna coz firstly,he has no time to travel there.Secondly,after dinner will stuck there very long time,cannot come hme n rest.Thirdly,the food is suck.Lastly,he dislikes his SIL.
And for that reason, hb refused to move out, therefore, I am not able to get my own house. My FIL is 75, MIL is 70, and I always told him, they are still young, maybe they will outlived me.... -
My hb likes to say this too…"PIL are so old now… Never know how long more to stay with them"
And for that reason, hb refused to move out, therefore, I am not able to get my own house. My FIL is 75, MIL is 70, and I always told him, they are still young, maybe they will outlived me…[/quote]
"maybe they will outlived me"…i think so too… -
Vinegar, you are a good wife and mother lah... learn to do and care less. MIL became wary of offending me when I started to literally clam up and do less...
On the brighter side, at least your DH is just calling his mom and not talking to other women! :evil:
Get MIL to join some senior citizen activities to make new friends... think she's plain lonely. -
Before we got married, he had a curfew of 11pm :faint:
Overheard his mother telling him and brother during their private conference that she is very old...visit her often. -
cherrygal:
learning..still learning...to do n care less.Vinegar, you are a good wife and mother lah... learn to do and care less. MIL became wary of offending me when I started to literally clam up and do less...
On the brighter side, at least your DH is just calling his mom and not talking to other women! :evil:
Get MIL to join some senior citizen activities to make new friends... think she's plain lonely.
MIL is a control freak.She wanna know everything.In the past,I used to get very agitated coz my DH shares every single things wf her mum.Whereas,he got angry when i share wf my gf,but not wf him.To be frank,i would rather he has close guy frds n talk to them,than wf his mum.Reason,his mum will \"boardcast\" what was told by my DH.MIL stays wf his SIL n brother.His SIL is well known for her channelnewsasia boardcasting talent.
Yes,it is true that i shld look at bright side.At least,he is talking to his mum not other woman.
My MIL also another channelnewsasia reporter,she likes to call n \"drill\" u until u cannot stand it but to tell her,despite u really don't feel like telling her(it is our personal lives anyway).I can't stand up my rights,coz if i do,DH will say she is also part of family so got the rights to know. :scratchhead:
i recall few yrs ago,she kept calling to ask for my kid school balloting result.She kept saying it doesn't matter which school to go..then why kept calling.Reason was her relatives n SIL wanna noe.
Later go n google how to deal with family \"paparazzi\" :?: -
DH did suggested her to spend more time for herself,n for FIL. She got angry n asked DH if he wanna severe ties coz DH kept suggesting her to do other acitivities.MIL is those like to shop alone,do things alone…reason,she is loaded,scare ppl takes advantage on her.
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