Favouritism
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Angelight:
Favoritism...hmmm...I know exactly how it's like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell...it's sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
high 5 Angelight, i got the same kind of mil, other than that she is okk, dotes my kids cos the other son no kids yet. I really hate that kind of sight when she so 'scared' the other son and DIL... how do u handle such situation? -
You mean how do I handle her favoritism?
Initially I was very hurt that me and DH was the less favored ones in the family. She (MIL) would cook her darling son and DIL their fav foods when they came to eat; but when me and DH came for dinner, it's the usual fare. She even sent her own maid to clean up their house and wash/iron their laundry even though they have their own maid. But when I was in-between maids, got to do housework, cook and take care of baby, she didn't ask her maid to help me. She would also always ask my hubby to run errands but not her fav son. The favoritism was very obvious and it was hurting - back then.
Now I've developed an immunity to such blatant favoritism and I bochap anymore. I just focus on loving my family, that is my DH and DD. I don't yearn for her love or acceptance anymore so it hurts abit less. It's sad, I know...especially when the favoritism has extended to my child's generation. Even 4 yo DD knows her nai nai loves her cousins more than her. :sad:mama_g:
Angelight:
Favoritism...hmmm...I know exactly how it's like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell...it's sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
high 5 Angelight, i got the same kind of mil, other than that she is okk, dotes my kids cos the other son no kids yet. I really hate that kind of sight when she so 'scared' the other son and DIL... how do u handle such situation? -
[quote=\"Angelight\"]You mean how do I handle her favoritism?
Initially I was very hurt that me and DH was the less favored ones in the family. She (MIL) would cook her darling son and DIL their fav foods when they came to eat; but when me and DH came for dinner, it's the usual fare. She even sent her own maid to clean up their house and wash/iron their laundry even though they have their own maid. But when I was in-between maids, got to do housework, cook and take care of baby, she didn't ask her maid to help me. She would also always ask my hubby to run errands but not her fav son. The favoritism was very obvious and it was hurting - back then.
Now I've developed an immunity to such blatant favoritism and I bochap anymore. I just focus on loving my family, that is my DH and DD. I don't yearn for her love or acceptance anymore so it hurts abit less. It's sad, I know...especially when the favoritism has extended to my child's generation. Even 4 yo DD knows her nai nai loves her cousins more than her. :sad:
What ur DH take on this? Does he accknowledge his mum's favoritism? My DH insist his mum is not :pokeeye: -
Yes, DH knows his mum is bias but it doesn’t bother him one bit. He has never been a "mummy’s boy" so I guess it doesn’t affect him.
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Do you and your DH really have any favourites?
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More favour is shown to the prodigal son/daughter.
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concern2:
Do you and your DH really have any favourites?
it is in this order for dh,
1) dd & ds
2) dw
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Angelight:
[/quote]same here :grphug: positive thinking - at least IL will not choose to stay with u when they r old. Normally IL will prefer to stay with son n DIL who they dote on the most.You mean how do I handle her favoritism?
Initially I was very hurt that me and DH was the less favored ones in the family. She (MIL) would cook her darling son and DIL their fav foods when they came to eat; but when me and DH came for dinner, it's the usual fare. She even sent her own maid to clean up their house and wash/iron their laundry even though they have their own maid. But when I was in-between maids, got to do housework, cook and take care of baby, she didn't ask her maid to help me. She would also always ask my hubby to run errands but not her fav son. The favoritism was very obvious and it was hurting - back then.
Now I've developed an immunity to such blatant favoritism and I bochap anymore. I just focus on loving my family, that is my DH and DD. I don't yearn for her love or acceptance anymore so it hurts abit less. It's sad, I know...especially when the favoritism has extended to my child's generation. Even 4 yo DD knows her nai nai loves her cousins more than her. :sad:mama_g:
[quote=\"Angelight\"]Favoritism...hmmm...I know exactly how it's like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell...it's sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
high 5 Angelight, i got the same kind of mil, other than that she is okk, dotes my kids cos the other son no kids yet. I really hate that kind of sight when she so 'scared' the other son and DIL... how do u handle such situation? -
Hmmmm.....MIL denied but action speaks louder than words.
When we buy food for MIL to try, she would claim so so, all taste similar.... the exact same food from her favorite son is marvelous and expensive one, different ok?!!.
When favorite son buys MIL food, she takes out the rest claiming can dispose cos' expiring and puts in fav son stuff.
When MIL needs people to run errands, all the rest kena left-right-center when they are not free but the fav son is always spared. Best is, the rest tho have kids and spare more time for MIL, the fav has hardly time for MIL cos gotta bathe and walk the dog. Whenever MIL criticize other people with dogs, I like to jab at her & she knew she has no case 人不如狗 :evil: -
Relevant article, book and video in light of this topic.
Playing Favorites: Why Mom Likes You (or One of Your Siblings) Best
http://sg.yahoo.matchmove.com/news/article/playing-favorites
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