Club SAHM

[sssdarlings]

My children are bigger (youngest is 6yo). When any of them start quarelling, I just go lock myself in my room or enjoy my coffee scrub (my no1 effective destresser! ;)). Oh, i observed this the other day- when I ignored their squibbling and whining, and walked away, the tone changed and the annoying behaviour was immediately aborted!


i read this on my reader-

http://raisinghomemakers.com/2011/why-every-moment-matters-when-youre-a-mom-dont-let-them-slip-away/

I dont meant to romanticise SAHM as its far from ideal and takes alot to keep our sanity intact and the day going (laundry/ dishes/ homework/ housework etc etc- we all know the grind ;o) ...For me, I just keep reminding myself that all too soon, they will have their own lives and the flat will be too quiet. I already get preview of empty nest every afternoon when all are in school. Nobody needs a crisis to remind us to appreciate what we have...

[janet88]

smartmummy:

Angelight:

But then again, having a maid also brings its own set of problems...

My DH always said hire a maid.I only don't like maid.headache.coming sep his studies finish.then he can help a bit like bring kids to the playground,shopping together,going out together,mopping the floor.
thanks for ur suggestion!

It's true that a maid can help with the household chores....provided she doesn't have an attitude problem. Otherwise you not only have problems with kids fighting, housework as well as the maid.
I can't stand it when kids are fighting and hubby doesn't do anything...it would be great if I have high threshold for noise like him. Sometimes I'm so tired of talking (nagging) that I just want to rest my mouth at night.

[smartmummy]

Hi janet and all!


Whenever I seek my DH help.He said hire a maid then u can study and go gym.I don’t want maid in my life.If I go to work also I don’t want maid.I had a bad experience with maid.I am happy with my work if my DH give a hand.If he free also he just lazy to do chores.

[terry]

jedamum:

i love being a SAHM as long as i don't have to crack my brain on what to eat/cook for meals every single day! :imdrowning:

me 2!
im used to settling my meals outside. i think itz convenient and inexpensive..dun hv to do marketing, cook, wash.

nw my maid will cook cos if she doesnt, then she wun hv anythg to do. at 1st will tell her wat to cook, but nw, i juz pass her $ and she will take initiative to do marketing and cook. i juz eat watever she cooks.

[MummyThreeStreams]

I love to cook! I used to whip up lovely meals for the family. But now my mum or my MIL will cook for us during the week. We find their food so boring! But cannot criticize, after all they are helping us. During the weekends, DH prefers to eat out, coz we can go shopping at the same time.

[jedamum]

i dun like cooking.

after cooking lunch, have to face a sinkful of dishes.
then 1-2hrs later, have to prepare dinner then face a sinkful of dishes used for preparing dinner.
then 1-2hrs later, have to eat dinner then face a sinkful of dishes.
:imdrowning:

[ectanz]

For my case, no choice but hv to cook dinner for my hb n dd1. Although my culinary skills r not as gd as my mum n MIL but edible.


My hb n dd1 prefer home cooked food. Even though it is quite a hassle to think wat to cook n facing pile of dirty dishes daily but at least it is healthier n more nutritious compared to outside foods. Moreover, both my hb n dd1 r qite fussy abt food.

However I am in better situation now as SAHM than Previously FTWM. I hv more time to prepare food. Previously, I needed to rush back hm fr wk to cook after fetching my dd1 n 2.

[LOLMum]

smartmummy:

Whenever I seek my DH help.He said hire a maid then u can study and go gym.I don't want maid in my life.If I go to work also I don't want maid.I had a bad experience with maid.I am happy with my work if my DH give a hand.If he free also he just lazy to do chores.

likewise, dh has been asking me to get a maid. but kids and i are against it cos it feels so good not to have an outsider at home.

but cooking is a major problem................ :sad:

[Angelight]

Consider tingkat delivery, eat out, buy back, eat at in-laws or parents' places. Just a few suggestions.

[LOLMum]

tried tingkat - none of us like it.


no parents or pils’ to go to but dine once a week at sis’s place. the rest of the time will have to depend on myself.

so dont like also got to cook, cant cook well also got to cook. just have to spend a bit more time in kitchen thats all.