Catholic High (Primary)

[syshi]

phankao:

Actually, we may never know the truth. What could happen is that (1)the boys could have asked to be taken out of GEP, or .. (2) the school *encouraged* them to request to be taken out of GEP. Then become \"zero\" dropout rate, right?

yup... Those 'common' trick to make the statistic looks good... Those few 'kicked' out from GEP were from FA or GO?

Just like if we were asked by company to *resign* instead of being *sacked*.

[pecalis]

syshi:

previously the form teacher punished the whole class due to those few 'noisy' children by not giving them recess or shorten the time. Or going back slightly late... My DS was so mad as he felt that he got punished for no mistake of his... But he didn't dare to confront form teacher... Just before the school GEP briefing, all was restored... Else I think my DS will hate the GEP program...

I always encourage my son to speak up if he thinks that it is not a fair punishment. However, if he chooses to keep quiet, then I tell him that he has to suffer the consequence together with the rest (in his previous class, boys always get punished and he could name me girls that misbehave too and felt that he did not contribute to the noise level) Being fair is very impt to DS. However, I challenge him to look out for those not treated fairly and speak up for them. However, if it's for his own rights, always tell him it's ok and learn to let go, since life is never fair to begin with, better accept that. My main struggle with DS is: how to put him in difficult situation to train his EQ.

[syshi]

pecalis:

syshi:

previously the form teacher punished the whole class due to those few 'noisy' children by not giving them recess or shorten the time. Or going back slightly late... My DS was so mad as he felt that he got punished for no mistake of his... But he didn't dare to confront form teacher... Just before the school GEP briefing, all was restored... Else I think my DS will hate the GEP program...

I always encourage my son to speak up if he thinks that it is not a fair punishment. However, if he chooses to keep quiet, then I tell him that he has to suffer the consequence together with the rest (in his previous class, boys always get punished and he could name me girls that misbehave too and felt that he did not contribute to the noise level) Being fair is very impt to DS. However, I challenge him to look out for those not treated fairly and speak up for them. However, if it's for his own rights, always tell him it's ok and learn to let go, since life is never fair to begin with, better accept that. My main struggle with DS is: how to put him in difficult situation to train his EQ.

Agree on that... tried talking to DS on this too to train his EQ...
Seems like a 'common trait' shown across some of the GEP children I met that they are a bit 'Straight' not enough EQ. Similar to my DS
For other kids, my DS dare to speak up.. but not for himself... :stupid:

[pecalis]

Ha ha, we call our DS robot - tit tit one, cannot bend at all. When he gets upset or cry over little things, we’ll tease him that his low EQ is at work. Always emphasize to him that IQ can only bring him that far but EQ is more impt in life. Of course, high EQ but no moral values is also not what we desire.

[syshi]

pecalis:

Ha ha, we call our DS robot - tit tit one, cannot bend at all. When he gets upset or cry over little things, we'll tease him that his low EQ is at work. Always emphasize to him that IQ can only bring him that far but EQ is more impt in life. Of course, high EQ but no moral values is also not what we desire.

Yup... slight problem my DS will get very very upset... sometimes I'll ask him what he can achieve by getting upset or crying? He'll need to think of the solution himself...

Any method to improve the EQ parts aside from 'nagging' at them often? Tried 'talking' to him... whenever the 'Logic' part of the brain working, he will agree... but whenever the 'feeling' part of the brain working, he won't listen...

[pecalis]

Last yr, we requested tt DS be put in the same group as a difficult/annoying boy. Form teacher was surprised but gladly obliged


When he gets upset with sisters, hubby made them sit on the bench of settlement to talk things out, share what is it that cause frustrations (without getting emotional or raising voice), learn to listen to the other party without interrupting, apologise for the wrong done, forgive the other party and make up. I find this method very useful but can be rather tedious. We will be somewhere nearby and listening to them. We'll step in to help settle if they are stuck and couldn't move on.

I also quarrel with DS, so sometimes also got to be on the bench of settlement, hee hee.

[morriselma]

my P1 son came home today to tell his mother he was punched in the chest and had his hair pulled after he picked up a ball in the parade square during his recess break. we taught him that if ever he got into such things, to tell them to stop. according to him, he did say stop, but he had to make a run for it just for it to end.


i’m trying to stay calm, but I need to ask what do you suggest I do? I tried calling the form teacher’s hp today, but no answer. Can I just go to school and ask about it? please advice

[syshi]

pecalis:

When he gets upset with sisters, hubby made them sit on the bench of settlement to talk things out, share what is it that cause frustrations (without getting emotional or raising voice), learn to listen to the other party without interrupting, apologise for the wrong done, forgive the other party and make up. I find this method very useful but can be rather tedious. We will be somewhere nearby and listening to them. We'll step in to help settle if they are stuck and couldn't move on.


I also quarrel with DS, so sometimes also got to be on the bench of settlement, hee hee.

not sure whether mine will work... Might end up physical fight cause once emotional high, all logic gone already... Normally will pull them aside till both cool down before letting them to talk to each other. By that time, both will feel sorry to each other...

[dreammom]

morriselma:

my P1 son came home today to tell his mother he was punched in the chest and had his hair pulled after he picked up a ball in the parade square during his recess break. we taught him that if ever he got into such things, to tell them to stop. according to him, he did say stop, but he had to make a run for it just for it to end.


i'm trying to stay calm, but I need to ask what do you suggest I do? I tried calling the form teacher's hp today, but no answer. Can I just go to school and ask about it? please advice

oh dear! Hope yr DS is okay. Is the upper primary boys? cos usually those upper primary boys will play with balls before assembly & during recess time. U can inform the tçher but i dun think they can do anything unless yr boy can recongnise the culprit. U may also tell yr DS to remember the name on the name tag & inform his form tçher immediately after the incident happen. For me, I told my DS to go down for assembly only after the bell rings..& stay in group during recess time to avoid bullies.

[syshi]

morriselma:

my P1 son came home today to tell his mother he was punched in the chest and had his hair pulled after he picked up a ball in the parade square during his recess break. we taught him that if ever he got into such things, to tell them to stop. according to him, he did say stop, but he had to make a run for it just for it to end.


i'm trying to stay calm, but I need to ask what do you suggest I do? I tried calling the form teacher's hp today, but no answer. Can I just go to school and ask about it? please advice

any culprit he can point to? If yes, can go all the way to the principal...

If not, you can only feedback to the form teacher for info... Need to tell him if such thing happened look for any teacher to run to... Else can run to the teacher room for help...