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    Move in with MIL?

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    • R Offline
      Ruru
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      My problem is with my FIL. Yeah, it's the old man for my case. I have a very good MIL whom i dont mind staying with.


      My FIL is a super annoying and irritating person who likes to poke his nose into everything. Worse, he's an egoistic man who thinks very highly of himself - whatever he does or says is absolutely right. What others (including his wife & younger son(my hubby)) do or say is wrong, when actually he & we are doing the same thing. He only knows how to talk. Obviously i know how to change my girls' diapers & apply diaper cream for them right? He has never done that before for my girls and had the cheek to teach me how to do it a few days ago. \"Did you put cream for her? Did you put this way,that way etc etc?\" When he said that, i wanted to scream at him and say \"you so smart,you do it la\". But no,i kept quiet. And he has spoiled his 2 grandkids(my DD1 & DD2) rotten. All it takes is a mere whine from them and he will give them whatever they want. My 2 girls are 2+ & 1+ yr old only respectively. He is also teaching them the wrong things,like taking lots of serviettes from restaurants, drinking straws, etc etc just to let them play. Sigh. My hubby cannot tolerate him too but as the son, he will just talk back to his dad or ignore his nagging or simply turn a deaf ear. But as a DIL, it's quite rude of me to do the same. My hubby will just tell me to tolerate....im trying hard to....

      And the worst is, i'm still breastfeeding my DD2 and in the middle of the night, she will still latch on and guess what....my FIL has a habit of waking up in the middle of the night and coming over to our room to check on my girls. Sometimes i realised after latching on & off, my chest will be exposed and can you imagine my fil coming to our room & saw that? My mil has told him before not to come to our room as and when he likes but like what i said, he's egoistic & wont listen. I now lock the door before i sleep.

      Due to some complicated reasons,i cannot move out leh. 😞

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        janet88
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        Lol. Thats great. I cannot stand this kind of BIL. Even my own BIL, i seriously cannot stand his wife too. super love to bootlick my MIL and FIL. Thanks god, both parents can see she not a simple woman[/quote]


        The mother didn’t teach what…the only value she instilled in them is MONEY IS MOST IMPORTANT…so that’s why that sickening fella sponges on his brothers. He is really an idiot.

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        • Coolkidsrock2C Offline
          Coolkidsrock2
          last edited by

          My BIL still taking allowance from DH. He is my age. Not sure if it is the same from other siblings.

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          • J Offline
            janet88
            last edited by

            Coolkidsrock2:
            My BIL still taking allowance from DH. He is my age. Not sure if it is the same from other siblings.

            :faint:

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              straffan23
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              Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill… because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it’s a way to repay her "hardship". She is a private banker.

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                Joule
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                straffan23:
                Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill.... because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it's a way to repay her \"hardship\". She is a private banker.

                how come so odd one..... PHONE BILL?

                Private banker don't have time for themselves, let alone take care of elderly.

                you got to be kidding me

                I really like this forum, have all sorts of weird things going on

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                • phtthpP Offline
                  phtthp
                  last edited by

                  straffan23:
                  Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill.... because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it's a way to repay her \"hardship\". She is a private banker.

                  your SIL just want to make use of her brother (yr husb) to pay the house phone bills. a bit too much !

                  is it just phone bills ?
                  how about water, electricity, PUB bills, grocery bills, etc ?

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                    AdonciaTang
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                    phtthp:
                    straffan23:

                    Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill.... because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it's a way to repay her \"hardship\". She is a private banker.


                    your SIL just want to make use of her brother (yr husb) to pay the house phone bills. a bit too much !

                    is it just phone bills ?
                    how about water, electricity, PUB bills, grocery bills, etc ?

                    private banker somemore lol

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                    • O Offline
                      octoberbaby
                      last edited by

                      Sometimes, there are some agreements among siblings especially the elderly parents stay in whose house.


                      Let’s say there are 3 siblings. Elderly parents stay with 1st sibling, 2nd and 3rd siblings have to contribute. There are expenses such as maid to take care of elderly, medical billls/ injections, transport to and fro dialysis centre or hospital, special diet, etc. All these have to be agreed upon. Definitely 1st sibling will get tax rebate under ‘staying with parents’ amount $3000 or $2000?

                      Must think of how our parents sacrifice for us when we were young. Why so calculative?

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                        AdonciaTang
                        last edited by

                        Not everyone think the same way, thats why we have issue like mentioned above . If everyone think the same, there would be no arguments anymore.

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