Move in with MIL?
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Sometimes, there are some agreements among siblings especially the elderly parents stay in whose house.
Let’s say there are 3 siblings. Elderly parents stay with 1st sibling, 2nd and 3rd siblings have to contribute. There are expenses such as maid to take care of elderly, medical billls/ injections, transport to and fro dialysis centre or hospital, special diet, etc. All these have to be agreed upon. Definitely 1st sibling will get tax rebate under ‘staying with parents’ amount $3000 or $2000?
Must think of how our parents sacrifice for us when we were young. Why so calculative? -
Not everyone think the same way, thats why we have issue like mentioned above . If everyone think the same, there would be no arguments anymore.
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own siblings can talk. It is the other side of siblings that are problems…
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octoberbaby:
own siblings can talk. It is the other side of siblings that are problems.....
And sometimes we don wan to put our own husband in a difficult position too. My SIL will complain and make a huge hoohaa in front of everyone saying that my PIL are biased because my DH and I have 2 boys and theirs is a girl. my PIL are very fair people and I dont understand why my SIL wants to do that, whatever my PIL buy for my 2 boys, they will buy for her daughter too and honestly, I love her daughter very much because I dont have a daughter myself and have always been hoping for one. So I will also buy things for her whenever I am out shopping. And she can say that because I feel guilty. OMG.... -
Hubby's youngest bro said hubby spent most money :? I think that fella is worst..bcos he is last to get married, then divorced and moved back to parents' place. No need to buy undergarments...just used brothers'. Then the mother never teach...just allows him to do as he wishes.
Hubby had to serve him like a lord. So yaya-papaya bcos he has MBA. -
AdonciaTang:
private banker somemore lol[/quote]No, no... not house phone bill. Personal mobile phone bill. Refused to decouple from my husband's main line. Wanna remain tagged and connected forever and ever. Btw, it is not my MIL staying with her hor... She is staying with MIL in a fully paid up property, and then SIL split the bills with my MIL to the cents! :siao: :siao: My husband does give the mom allowance but my MIL is richer than us.phtthp:
[quote=\"straffan23\"]Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill.... because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it's a way to repay her \"hardship\". She is a private banker.
your SIL just want to make use of her brother (yr husb) to pay the house phone bills. a bit too much !
is it just phone bills ?
how about water, electricity, PUB bills, grocery bills, etc ?
My SIL supposed to take turns to mop the floor and wash the bathrooms with MIL. So, it's A, B, A, B.... Say, my MIL not feeling well. So, become MIL, SIL, SIL,... if it is my mother I would say it continues with MIL, SIL, MIL, SIL.... but no... my SIL will say, thus it become \"A, B, B, A, A\" (twice repeat also to be fair)..... :siao: :siao:
I'm thinking, Thank goodness I do not stay with them! -
straffan23:
Sometimes when behaviours are a little odd, it perhaps masks an underlying dissatisfaction unrelated to the expressed behaviour. Is this SIL married, she got her own kids? My experience (through friends and colleagues, not my own) with unmarried adults staying as 'minders' with parents, is that they tend to be quite resentful of their lot in life, particularly if they have siblings with a more 'normal' family life.
No, no... not house phone bill. Personal mobile phone bill. Refused to decouple from my husband's main line. Wanna remain tagged and connected forever and ever. Btw, it is not my MIL staying with her hor... She is staying with MIL in a fully paid up property, and then SIL split the bills with my MIL to the cents! :siao: :siao: My husband does give the mom allowance but my MIL is richer than us.
My SIL supposed to take turns to mop the floor and wash the bathrooms with MIL. So, it's A, B, A, B.... Say, my MIL not feeling well. So, become MIL, SIL, SIL,... if it is my mother I would say it continues with MIL, SIL, MIL, SIL.... but no... my SIL will say, thus it become \"A, B, B, A, A\" (twice repeat also to be fair)..... :siao: :siao:
I'm thinking, Thank goodness I do not stay with them! -
I will not want to move in with her…bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it’s her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it’s her son’s house. -
janet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here -
AdonciaTang:
same here, never want to stay with MIL or FILjanet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here
best to stay on your own.
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