Move in with MIL?
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octoberbaby:
own siblings can talk. It is the other side of siblings that are problems.....
And sometimes we don wan to put our own husband in a difficult position too. My SIL will complain and make a huge hoohaa in front of everyone saying that my PIL are biased because my DH and I have 2 boys and theirs is a girl. my PIL are very fair people and I dont understand why my SIL wants to do that, whatever my PIL buy for my 2 boys, they will buy for her daughter too and honestly, I love her daughter very much because I dont have a daughter myself and have always been hoping for one. So I will also buy things for her whenever I am out shopping. And she can say that because I feel guilty. OMG.... -
Hubby's youngest bro said hubby spent most money :? I think that fella is worst..bcos he is last to get married, then divorced and moved back to parents' place. No need to buy undergarments...just used brothers'. Then the mother never teach...just allows him to do as he wishes.
Hubby had to serve him like a lord. So yaya-papaya bcos he has MBA. -
AdonciaTang:
private banker somemore lol[/quote]No, no... not house phone bill. Personal mobile phone bill. Refused to decouple from my husband's main line. Wanna remain tagged and connected forever and ever. Btw, it is not my MIL staying with her hor... She is staying with MIL in a fully paid up property, and then SIL split the bills with my MIL to the cents! :siao: :siao: My husband does give the mom allowance but my MIL is richer than us.phtthp:
[quote=\"straffan23\"]Well, sometimes people are just strange, right? My SIL whom is 10 years OLDER than me, wants my hubby to pay her phone bill.... because she stays with my MIL in MIL house and take care of MIL, and it's a way to repay her \"hardship\". She is a private banker.
your SIL just want to make use of her brother (yr husb) to pay the house phone bills. a bit too much !
is it just phone bills ?
how about water, electricity, PUB bills, grocery bills, etc ?
My SIL supposed to take turns to mop the floor and wash the bathrooms with MIL. So, it's A, B, A, B.... Say, my MIL not feeling well. So, become MIL, SIL, SIL,... if it is my mother I would say it continues with MIL, SIL, MIL, SIL.... but no... my SIL will say, thus it become \"A, B, B, A, A\" (twice repeat also to be fair)..... :siao: :siao:
I'm thinking, Thank goodness I do not stay with them! -
straffan23:
Sometimes when behaviours are a little odd, it perhaps masks an underlying dissatisfaction unrelated to the expressed behaviour. Is this SIL married, she got her own kids? My experience (through friends and colleagues, not my own) with unmarried adults staying as 'minders' with parents, is that they tend to be quite resentful of their lot in life, particularly if they have siblings with a more 'normal' family life.
No, no... not house phone bill. Personal mobile phone bill. Refused to decouple from my husband's main line. Wanna remain tagged and connected forever and ever. Btw, it is not my MIL staying with her hor... She is staying with MIL in a fully paid up property, and then SIL split the bills with my MIL to the cents! :siao: :siao: My husband does give the mom allowance but my MIL is richer than us.
My SIL supposed to take turns to mop the floor and wash the bathrooms with MIL. So, it's A, B, A, B.... Say, my MIL not feeling well. So, become MIL, SIL, SIL,... if it is my mother I would say it continues with MIL, SIL, MIL, SIL.... but no... my SIL will say, thus it become \"A, B, B, A, A\" (twice repeat also to be fair)..... :siao: :siao:
I'm thinking, Thank goodness I do not stay with them! -
I will not want to move in with her…bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it’s her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it’s her son’s house. -
janet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here -
AdonciaTang:
same here, never want to stay with MIL or FILjanet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here
best to stay on your own. -
My MIL stays with us. For a while there, both PIL stayed with us for a few days and went back to thier own hse at the weekends. Both PIL have dementia. Then the maid left, a new one came, and FIL decided to go for a walk one morning at 2am. He was finally found at TTSH at midnight. He’d fallen down and a friendly passerby called for an ambulance.
Now MIL is permanently installed at our hse. Our maid cares for her. For a while there, FIL stayed with dh’s older brother … but he now stays in his own home with a maid.
I think its common for IL’s to squabble. MIL sometimes says that our hse is hers,… then again she also talks to the TV, and even her reflection in the window. She is sometimes violent and beats anyone around her, including my dc, … but at other times its plain to see that she’s much more partial to my kid than her other grandchildren. Then again, its probably because she sees us everyday and the others only once a week.
SIL used to make snide, hurtful remarks about me and complain to MIL. Then again, perhaps as the first IL she got the brunt of the family’s resistance to an "outsider". I remember when the first "outsider" was introduced to my family and the snide remarks passed about her because her customs were different.
I would like to think that we mellow with age, and like water off a duck’s back, past hurts and insults between ILs are are allowed to slide. -
It’s never a good idea to stay with in-laws. Especially MILs and DILs staying together. I know I would never be able to live in harmony with my MIL…and I think she knows it too.
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highheels:
It's never a good idea to stay with in-laws. Especially MILs and DILs staying together. I know I would never be able to live in harmony with my MIL...and I think she knows it too.
相见容易, 同住难...for me, 相见都难。
The youngest son wanted them to sell their flat and stay with him and his wife...you know what will happen if there is any disagreement.
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