Move in with MIL?
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straffan23:
Sometimes when behaviours are a little odd, it perhaps masks an underlying dissatisfaction unrelated to the expressed behaviour. Is this SIL married, she got her own kids? My experience (through friends and colleagues, not my own) with unmarried adults staying as 'minders' with parents, is that they tend to be quite resentful of their lot in life, particularly if they have siblings with a more 'normal' family life.
No, no... not house phone bill. Personal mobile phone bill. Refused to decouple from my husband's main line. Wanna remain tagged and connected forever and ever. Btw, it is not my MIL staying with her hor... She is staying with MIL in a fully paid up property, and then SIL split the bills with my MIL to the cents! :siao: :siao: My husband does give the mom allowance but my MIL is richer than us.
My SIL supposed to take turns to mop the floor and wash the bathrooms with MIL. So, it's A, B, A, B.... Say, my MIL not feeling well. So, become MIL, SIL, SIL,... if it is my mother I would say it continues with MIL, SIL, MIL, SIL.... but no... my SIL will say, thus it become \"A, B, B, A, A\" (twice repeat also to be fair)..... :siao: :siao:
I'm thinking, Thank goodness I do not stay with them! -
I will not want to move in with her…bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it’s her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it’s her son’s house. -
janet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here -
AdonciaTang:
same here, never want to stay with MIL or FILjanet_lee88:
I will not want to move in with her...bcos I will go into depression.
She will want to be in control since it's her territory. Even if she moves into my place, I will lose ownership bcos she will say it's her son's house.
same here
best to stay on your own. -
My MIL stays with us. For a while there, both PIL stayed with us for a few days and went back to thier own hse at the weekends. Both PIL have dementia. Then the maid left, a new one came, and FIL decided to go for a walk one morning at 2am. He was finally found at TTSH at midnight. He’d fallen down and a friendly passerby called for an ambulance.
Now MIL is permanently installed at our hse. Our maid cares for her. For a while there, FIL stayed with dh’s older brother … but he now stays in his own home with a maid.
I think its common for IL’s to squabble. MIL sometimes says that our hse is hers,… then again she also talks to the TV, and even her reflection in the window. She is sometimes violent and beats anyone around her, including my dc, … but at other times its plain to see that she’s much more partial to my kid than her other grandchildren. Then again, its probably because she sees us everyday and the others only once a week.
SIL used to make snide, hurtful remarks about me and complain to MIL. Then again, perhaps as the first IL she got the brunt of the family’s resistance to an "outsider". I remember when the first "outsider" was introduced to my family and the snide remarks passed about her because her customs were different.
I would like to think that we mellow with age, and like water off a duck’s back, past hurts and insults between ILs are are allowed to slide. -
It’s never a good idea to stay with in-laws. Especially MILs and DILs staying together. I know I would never be able to live in harmony with my MIL…and I think she knows it too.
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highheels:
It's never a good idea to stay with in-laws. Especially MILs and DILs staying together. I know I would never be able to live in harmony with my MIL...and I think she knows it too.
相见容易, 同住难...for me, 相见都难。
The youngest son wanted them to sell their flat and stay with him and his wife...you know what will happen if there is any disagreement. -
janet_lee88:
Totally Agreehighheels:
It's never a good idea to stay with in-laws. Especially MILs and DILs staying together. I know I would never be able to live in harmony with my MIL...and I think she knows it too.
相见容易, 同住难...for me, 相见都难。
The youngest son wanted them to sell their flat and stay with him and his wife...you know what will happen if there is any disagreement. -
Me too. But DH not eldest son and PILs helped looked after kids of his eldest siblings (managing their households, maids, doing marketing, ferrying kids to/fro childcare and tution) so I will definitely go through the roof if anyone ever suggest them moving into my house. Anyways, my house is the smallest and being "most unfamiliar with the dynamics in my family, it will be more comfortable for them to move in with the other siblings". PILs helped them so much but none offered to lend maid to PILs to help in CNY springcleaning.
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The youngest one pays the most allowance...so he's eyeing parents' flat.
The bimbo sister married to angmoh also wants the flat...they are like vultures :slapshead:
It's really a shame and embarrassment to see those 2 suckers behaving like that. Told hubby NO WAY can the flat be sold and money given to youngest one...he is capable of throwing them out when things sour. At most, they can move into his flat (which was what he suggested) but rent out...after hearing this, that vulture shut up.
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