All About Bullying
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rakutenten:
Presby:
Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it's unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.
Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.
Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won't get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.
This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can't educate other people's children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today's world. The point is what can we do.
I beg to differ
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.
My niece has been a victim since Sec 1.
We confronted the school involving the principal, vice principal and form teacher.
Ended up now she become the one ostracized in school.
This is so sad. It seems like a pretty serious case for the parents to take it up to the principal. The school should be objective in dealing with the case and help the victim overcome it. Would it be helpful if the case is taken up with MOE? The worst case may be to transfer the student to another class or even another school. If the same happens to my daughter, I will probably press on. -
Sigh… bullying can be a big part of academic and life balance. Sometimes, espcially having a more reserved child, you might not get a big picture about what is going on…
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My son (P2) was bullied by 3 kids in his primary school, they hit him and kicked him in gang (3 of them) without a valid reason, the teacher called me after the incident, but not sure if the school has warned the 3 kids. I tried to comfort my kid and asked him not to play around in school and there must be something they are not happy with my son. Sad to say there is nothing I can do with it. I told my son not to become a bully like them and he've learned the lesson too. I think parent play a big role in these kind of incidents, it is good that children can learn how cruel the outside world in the early stage, they need to learn how to deal with bully from young age. When they've grown up someday, they will also encounter bully in the workplace. What we can do as parent is to make them a better person.
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Sorry to learn of your son being a bully victim. Pls monitor the situation closely as there will always be a second time.
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Zbear is right. Will always be a 2nd time. My ds was bullied by a P6 boy when he was in p2 too. 1st time, my ds didn’t tell me. But when the boy saw my boy again, he did it again. Bullies won’t stop unless we, parents put a stop to it. The school even put the blame on my ds that my ds provoked the boy. I asked around & aft found out that the boy was the "naughty" type, I told the school I will call the police unless they do something about it. The school warned the p6 boy not to go near my boy in the future.
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I agree
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As a society I think bullying gets swept under the rug too many times. Perhaps it could be time for someone with time/resources on their hands to head up an initiative against bullying - on a nation wide scale? This kind of thing cannot go to MP for help...prob need some people to band together and start a non-profit to go around schools (endorsed by MOE of course) and talk about bullying etc etc...from what i found online there is these guys:
http://www.cabcy.org.sg/
But honestly, I haven't really heard of them....
Perhaps can liaise with your respective schools and see if cabcy can come down to speak in schools? -
Hey all,
You may want see this video about bully. The students are really getting out of hand.
https://www.facebook.com/christina.lin. ... nref=story -
rakutenten:
True. Real case here.
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.
A situation where a teacher jumped to conclusion after hearing one side of the story. The bully appeared to be angelic and twisted the incident to her advantage. Bully acting as the victim. The bully is more well articulated than the bullied who could not express well to explain grievances. The bully is also more popular among classmates. Teacher already passed judgement and even called the parents up to complain about that (bullied) child, refusing to listen to any explanation. In this case, teacher became an accessory, to the bully. -
sleepy:
My primary school kid had a few instances of victim of joke went overboard. Crying attracted attention but the peers said it was a joke and started laughing that he was a crybaby and a few others joined in too. The teacher stepped in to send the bully to reflection corner (I hope this is SOP and not because I had written in to complain after the first incident). No, parents will not informed as it is a small matter and no scars, and I knew of the incident because son wear his emotions on his sleeve. I know it is not correct but I told him to hit back if they did not stop after the first hit. He has this principle of giving people some chances, so so far quite ok. This was I think the third physical incident that happened in three years, twice were results of \"just playing\" and once he tried to stop two boys from quarrel and got punched. It could likely be character wise. Ds1 had no encounter of physical incident partly because he knows when to exit from danger zone, and his peers knows he has boundaries. However, Ds2 likes to mingle with whoever who plays with him and the playing sometimes get too far.
True. Real case here.rakutenten:
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.
A situation where a teacher jumped to conclusion after hearing one side of the story. The bully appeared to be angelic and twisted the incident to her advantage. Bully acting as the victim. The bully is more well articulated than the bullied who could not express well to explain grievances. The bully is also more popular among classmates. Teacher already passed judgement and even called the parents up to complain about that (bullied) child, refusing to listen to any explanation. In this case, teacher became an accessory, to the bully.
I showed DS2 the viral video and we discussed about what to do if he is a victim or victim's friend. He made the mistake of suggesting confrontation, which is very his nature. I suggested standing up to leave and report (if he is victim), or go get the victim (ask if he wants to leave)and leave and report. No use to confront to threaten to report teacher because incident already happened. It is as much a by standers role to play, I feel.
For the unfortunate viral video case, I read that an adjunct teacher was in class (correct me if I am wrong). No wonder the victims felt helpless.
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