All About Bullying

[foodie4stuff]

rosemaryherb:

kitty2:

[quote=\"XK\"]Kids are very good at verbal bully nowadays. Harmless name callings can escalate to personal attack. So parents do not take it lightly cos it is an attack of the child's confidence.

I totally agreed with you.This happened to my friend's 15 years old DD!!! It was so serious that she got into depression and dropped out of school!!!

that's quite sad. back when we were kids there weren't such things like depression or being socially outcasted. nowadays, kids are bigger politicians that we adults ever be. recently saw my kids being told to keep a distance in the playground by other kids. luckily it's my FIL's place. so it's ok. but this trend of young bullies is getting serious![/quote]ya now when talking to DS hor, I must think about his feelings :S maybe I should be caning instead of talking, just like the good old days

[iceywind88]

Lavender_land:

Hi,


I need parents (who have teenagers) to do survey something related bullying. Who able to help for this?
Please email to [email protected]

Thank you

yup emailed

[JS rolling]

Bullying is not something that should be brushed off. However, kids should not handle the issue themselves. Parents and/or teachers should step in once bullying of any type starts. There should be warning signs that everyone should be aware of. Sadly, bullying is an ongoing epidemic that has yet to be addressed.

[teenmom]

JS rolling:

Bullying is not something that should be brushed off. However, kids should not handle the issue themselves. Parents and/or teachers should step in once bullying of any type starts. There should be warning signs that everyone should be aware of. Sadly, bullying is an ongoing epidemic that has yet to be addressed.

Agree! I pity those kids who feel the need to isolate themselves just to hide from these bullies. Teachers and principals should keep their eyes open...

[lee_yl]

According to a survey, Singapore ranked 3rd in the world, for school bullying.


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/republic-has-third-highest-rate-of-bullying-globally

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/bullying-in-schools-being-monitored-closely-moe

[iceywind88]

lee_yl:

According to a survey, Singapore ranked 3rd in the world, for school bullying.


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/republic-has-third-highest-rate-of-bullying-globally

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/bullying-in-schools-being-monitored-closely-moe

i wonder how do they conduct these surveys. interview the students?

[jedamum]

Bullying cases will only reduce when we teach our kids to not only speak up for themselves but also to speak up for others. How many of us only sit up when our kids get bullied? In normal circumstances, do we tell our kids to mind their own business or speak up for the weaker kids? In bullying incidents, the bully is not the only one at fault - the bystanders who do nothing are too.

[andee]

JS rolling:

Bullying is not something that should be brushed off. However, kids should not handle the issue themselves. Parents and/or teachers should step in once bullying of any type starts. There should be warning signs that everyone should be aware of. Sadly, bullying is an ongoing epidemic that has yet to be addressed.

Great point. But while I believe that \"bullying\" or whatever you want to call it (teasing, fighting, etc) will always be a part of a kids life...being kids, we should not let it go to the point where physical and emotional pain is inflicted. Even taunting is unacceptable. I feel for those kids who suffer from it. Parents and teachers should always be on the lookout for warning signs in order to prevent this from happening.

[realtalk]

lee_yl:

According to a survey, Singapore ranked 3rd in the world, for school bullying.


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/republic-has-third-highest-rate-of-bullying-globally

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/bullying-in-schools-being-monitored-closely-moe

I wonder how valid this survey is. If it's legit, it's not something Singapore, or any nation for that matter, should brag about.

[swortionery]

jedamum:

Bullying cases will only reduce when we teach our kids to not only speak up for themselves but also to speak up for others. How many of us only sit up when our kids get bullied? In normal circumstances, do we tell our kids to mind their own business or speak up for the weaker kids? In bullying incidents, the bully is not the only one at fault - the bystanders who do nothing are too.

Agreed. Part of my https://swordsandstationery.com/about/ is to teach kids the necessary skills to not only stand up for themselves, but to also do the right thing for those in their learning environments. The instructional process that we engage in typically spans months, but it can be condensed to a few points:

- Be aware of your own actions and their effect on yourself and others
- Be aware of an intangible attribute called the 'mental muscle' that can be trained over time
- Be aware that, while others can help you, you hold a good share of the responsibility necessary to build a positive environment
- As such, be aware that retaliation, in any form whatsoever, although possibly being a means of escape, is not the ultimate long-term solution for both parties -- and by 'retaliation', I mean anything that forcibly stops the bully from acting out, whether from the bullied or from an authority figure

I don't condone bullying, but it's too idealistic to expect it not to happen. Rather, I treat them as teachable moments to guide my students' emotions and behaviour, steering them towards a more positive way of thinking. The best outcome of this would be for bullied kids to stand up for themselves and change the hearts of 'naughty' kids too. Parents (and educators), remember, our role in our kids' lives is to be that of a mediator, not judge, jury and executioner.

(and yes, I know that that too is very much an idealistic expectation, but every inch of awareness helps)