Over Sensitive Kid??

[Andaiz]

lovekidsverymuch:

Agreed you can always tell ur gal that there is one teacher and so many students cannot remember all of them

Hey, and if she's sensitive, her question would be \"then how come they remember for XXX or so-and-so?\"

I agree that girls are more sensitive in such ways. Also, sometimes the gals tend to feel victimised (they probably remember those who were asked, not those who were not!). Does she have friends in school? I mean good ones - and if they look out for one another, sometimes, it makes such \"ignoring\" easier to bear. Just my 2 cents worth

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

Just say that the teacher might be exceptionally busy on that day and forget to ask the questions.


But personally, is your child sensitive to an innocent remarks at home? Any physical discomfort due to sensitivities?

[barney]

Thanks to all for your replies.


lovekidsverymuch
She's in P2 this year and has the same form teacher as last year and as what Andaiz has mentioned, she said the teacher would ask her other classmates when they returned to school after reporting sick, so why did the teacher missed her out now?

Dd is reserved in class, (maybe this is hereditary as I was labelled shy in school during my time) and my grown up nieces have all told me she's matured for her age, in terms of her thinking and speech. I'm not sure if this is due to the fact that she's an only child but I do feel a tinge of sadness when she told me she felt like she's invisible to her teacher.

I did try to tell her not to worry about such stuff and hope she'll forget all about this quickly. She does enjoy primary school alot and is happy to go to school. Maybe I myself is being overly sensitive over this? :oops: It's not easy to be a teacher nowadays, need to ensure consistency, if not the comparison will go on and on.

[barney]

EN:

Just say that the teacher might be exceptionally busy on that day and forget to ask the questions.


But personally, is your child sensitive to an innocent remarks at home? Any physical discomfort due to sensitivities?

That's what I did and told her it's a small matter. She's generally a happy kid but mature for her age. I still remember 2 years back when she was in K2 and heard about the Mas Selamat escape news, she couldn't sleep in the night, fearing that he might come to our block and blow up the house, requested me to stay up with her the whole night in the living room with lights on. I had a hard time convincing her we are safe and both of us need to sleep to carry on with our activities the next day. So I don't know if she should be labelled as sensitive or \"worrisome\" kid.

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

Better not to label. Unless she cries almost daily over whatever insignificant issues.

[2ppaamm]

Hi Barney,


Is your child a HSP? Highly sensitive person? Normally very intelligent also, because they are sensitive. A HSC (Child) will grow up a HSP. 20% of our population will fit into this 'category'. May be good to check it out. Here's a link about such people. http://www.highlysensitivepeople.com/

More relevant to a child: http://www.hsperson.com/pages/child.htm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04gnoReKgD4

One key point is that you must give a HSC less activity, and the punishment must be gentler. Go check it out.

[912mum]

Hi Barney,


I wonder if you have tried to empathize with your child instead of writing off her worries/anxieties etc?

By telling her stuff like the teacher is busy etc, you might actually be invalidating her feelings. You might want to try to accept her feelings and ask her how or what does she think she would want to do about the situation? Talk about her role in it and also her teacher’s role… and maybe your role too. Brainstorm for ideas, no matter how silly. Try to work out a possible solution together with her. The idea is to get her to be proactive. While to many, the teacher not asking might be a small matter, it might be important to her. Get her to see that there might be a way out and she has a part in it too.

As to the Mas selemat issue, I remembered when my no 2 was in P2, she was afraid of being kidnapped (after watching a show on TV). I told her that it won’t happen, that we always locked the door, etc etc. Still, she’s scared. In the end, I worked it out with her with possible scenarios… like what she can do to prevent it from happening, what she would do if it happened etc etc. By working out solutions with her, she felt more in control and that she knew what the worst case scenarios were.

Hope this helps!

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

[quote]Hi Barney,


Is your child a HSP? Highly sensitive person? Normally very intelligent also, because they are sensitive. A HSC (Child) will grow up a HSP. 20% of our population will fit into this 'category'. May be good to check it out. Here's a link about such people. http://www.highlysensitivepeople.com/

More relevant to a child: http://www.hsperson.com/pages/child.htm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04gnoReKgD4

One key point is that you must give a HSC less activity, and the punishment must be gentler. Go check it out.


EN Posted: 25 Feb 2010 16:28 Post subject:

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Better not to label. Unless she cries almost daily over whatever insignificant issues. [/quote]
Hi 2ppaamm, thanks for the link.

Hi Barney,

The very reason I say not to label your child is because I have an overly sensitive kid. It's a real pain to have a child that is HSP. For mine, sensitivities ranges from skin (I think he feels by the thread count :lol: ) & will reject certain materials. Sensitive on smell - when he was much younger, he sniff his food before he tasted it. He doesn't like going to the zoo because it smells. A big no no for wet market because within a certain range, definitely he will vomit. Sensitive on hearing - while sitting for night safari show to start, he already heard the snake hissing, sure enough, the snake was placed below us. Brand new piano, he told me off that it is no good because it gives a buzzing sound. Turns out to be a metal pointer placed on the notes holder. Sensitive to other needs -recently he was terrified of his second language teacher who does physical punishment to kids including him. I know my child very well so had a talk to the teacher. His main concern, did I help to save his other classmates too? Sensitive to animal plight? - I have gotten a free abalone after shopping in Tangs recently. This boy of mine was making a scene asking me to let go of the queue. He hates that another shell fish die an unnecessary death besides being killed to make pearls for jewellery. There are more to share. But I think I shared enough for parents who are unsure if their child is highly sensitive or not.

Sometime, I need to check myself from even saying jokes. Otherwise, he will end up

[barney]

Thanks to all mummies here for your advices.


Thanks 2ppaamm for the links, I hope to find time to read them soon, and 912mum, EN and lovekidsverymuch for sharing. I was hoping my kid will be normal like others but I guess I need to pay more attention to her feelings/behaviour/needs.

Another worry for me is that both my side and hubby’s side have immediate family members (1 each - and so coincident both were educators) who were diagnosed with schizophrenia, although both of them were able to lead normal lives after that, I’ve constantly remind myself not to put too much stress on her and hope with our bonding, she’ll share everything she has in her mind so that at least we can teach her to get out of those anxieties like what 912mum has shared.

[daisyt]

hi barney, is she a single child ?


I just thought that being a single child tends to behave like that. My child is also very sensitive and mature in thinking at her age, since young. Things you mentioned, happened to her too, even till now, at Sec school. Teachers’ and friends’ attention / comments, Mas Selamat, prank Tsunami emails, 2012 end of world … I have to give her lots of explanations and advices.