All About Autism
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Hmm, with so many examples of ASD kids being bullied in mainstream and eventually thrive in Pathlight, I really need to think through my options again. But when I speak to my son’s tutor, she kept saying that he can go mainstream. Academic wise, I think he can , is just the social part.
Nugget, your boy is going next year right? hope you can continue to be active in this forum to share your experience with us. -
Double E,
Sure I am also learning leaps from everyone here. I consider this thread as my support group. Else I will be having depression already.
I know my son will be happy and will be able to strive in Pathlight. But our thought is that if he can adapt to mainstream and strive in that environment, it will be more beneficial for him. Cos come to a point, he need to learn how to adapt to mainstream no matter how.
There is no "special" society for kids like him in adulthood. But then… if he really need more time and help and cannot adapt to mainstream… then I will put him into pathlight.
His therapist say putting him to pathlight will give him less pressure and slowly they can train him to adapt to mainstream environment too. So it depends on how each parent want to path it out for their child.
There is really no right and wrong way. I am also taking that leap of faith. -
regarding bullying…
I think we should teach our children how to deal with bullies rather than protecting them by putting them into safer places.
Bullies are everywhere. We cant protect our child (ASD or NT) from them forever. I am now teaching all my kids to fend themselves again bully instead.
Cos recently they got laugh at for doing some silly actions in public. My ASD kid wasnt bothered by it at all. But my NT boy was very offended and embarrassed and he doesn’t know how to react so he said "I am angry with you!" and pout and crossed his arms. …
So I think NT or ASD… they need to know how to handle bullies. -
dun mind if I ask a qn …
is there bullying inside Pathlight, or Totally no bullying at all ?
because if Pathlight really no bullying, then ok.
but if Pathlight also got bullying :-
then doesn’t matter anymore whether your child go Mainstream or Pathlight.
Or perhaps the right qn to ask is :-
if there is bullying inside Pathlight, then how do the teachers inside there rectify the problem ? -
Mummies beware …got child grabbing man in the lift around
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phtthp:
Bullying is an intent - to derive pleasure from seeing one's discomfort or misery.dun mind if I ask a qn ...
is there bullying inside Pathlight, or Totally no bullying at all ?
because if Pathlight really no bullying, then ok.
but if Pathlight also got bullying :-
then doesn't matter anymore whether your child go Mainstream or Pathlight.
Or perhaps the right qn to ask is :-
if there is bullying inside Pathlight, then how do the teachers inside there rectify the problem ?
Based on how ASD children are being wired, it seems unlikely that they can be bullies. One, they are literal individuals and do not have the convoluted thinking that is required when one bullies with intent. Second, they are more apathetic in nature, and seem unlikely to have the desire to derive pleasure from such actions.
I think one mummy said here that if there are any physical episodes in PL, it is likely due to children not being able to control their impulses due to certain sensory issues. Would that be considered bullying?
That is purely my speculation. -
Yah, I also don’t think ASD kids will purposely bully others to derive pleasure or plan / scheme a plan to bully others. But they may hit/bite/or snatch toys without knowing that this will hurt others. If you ask me, I won’t consider it bully. Having someone or a group of pple ganging up against you, spreading rumors or making fun of you is 10x more hurtful than them biting you physically.
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nugget:
regarding bullying...
I think we should teach our children how to deal with bullies rather than protecting them by putting them into safer places.
Bullies are everywhere. We cant protect our child (ASD or NT) from them forever. I am now teaching all my kids to fend themselves again bully instead.
Cos recently they got laugh at for doing some silly actions in public. My ASD kid wasnt bothered by it at all. But my NT boy was very offended and embarrassed and he doesn't know how to react so he said \"I am angry with you!\" and pout and crossed his arms. ...
So I think NT or ASD.. they need to know how to handle bullies.
agreed! -
Mummies ,does ur kids keep laughing n laughing n out of control…
Why n how shd I calm him down?
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