All About Autism
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regarding bullying…
I think we should teach our children how to deal with bullies rather than protecting them by putting them into safer places.
Bullies are everywhere. We cant protect our child (ASD or NT) from them forever. I am now teaching all my kids to fend themselves again bully instead.
Cos recently they got laugh at for doing some silly actions in public. My ASD kid wasnt bothered by it at all. But my NT boy was very offended and embarrassed and he doesn’t know how to react so he said “I am angry with you!” and pout and crossed his arms. …
So I think NT or ASD… they need to know how to handle bullies. -
dun mind if I ask a qn …
is there bullying inside Pathlight, or Totally no bullying at all ?
because if Pathlight really no bullying, then ok.
but if Pathlight also got bullying :-
then doesn’t matter anymore whether your child go Mainstream or Pathlight.
Or perhaps the right qn to ask is :-
if there is bullying inside Pathlight, then how do the teachers inside there rectify the problem ? -
Mummies beware …got child grabbing man in the lift around
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phtthp:
Bullying is an intent - to derive pleasure from seeing one's discomfort or misery.dun mind if I ask a qn ...
is there bullying inside Pathlight, or Totally no bullying at all ?
because if Pathlight really no bullying, then ok.
but if Pathlight also got bullying :-
then doesn't matter anymore whether your child go Mainstream or Pathlight.
Or perhaps the right qn to ask is :-
if there is bullying inside Pathlight, then how do the teachers inside there rectify the problem ?
Based on how ASD children are being wired, it seems unlikely that they can be bullies. One, they are literal individuals and do not have the convoluted thinking that is required when one bullies with intent. Second, they are more apathetic in nature, and seem unlikely to have the desire to derive pleasure from such actions.
I think one mummy said here that if there are any physical episodes in PL, it is likely due to children not being able to control their impulses due to certain sensory issues. Would that be considered bullying?
That is purely my speculation. -
Yah, I also don’t think ASD kids will purposely bully others to derive pleasure or plan / scheme a plan to bully others. But they may hit/bite/or snatch toys without knowing that this will hurt others. If you ask me, I won’t consider it bully. Having someone or a group of pple ganging up against you, spreading rumors or making fun of you is 10x more hurtful than them biting you physically.
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regarding bullying...
I think we should teach our children how to deal with bullies rather than protecting them by putting them into safer places.
Bullies are everywhere. We cant protect our child (ASD or NT) from them forever. I am now teaching all my kids to fend themselves again bully instead.
Cos recently they got laugh at for doing some silly actions in public. My ASD kid wasnt bothered by it at all. But my NT boy was very offended and embarrassed and he doesn't know how to react so he said \"I am angry with you!\" and pout and crossed his arms. ...
So I think NT or ASD.. they need to know how to handle bullies.
agreed! -
Mummies ,does ur kids keep laughing n laughing n out of control…
Why n how shd I calm him down? -
There is a ST article today about local researchers going to do indepth study on Autism and hopefully can develop new drugs for it. But I think by the time they succeed, our kids will be in their teens or adulthood.
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I tend to believe that everything exists in a balance.
Within the community of parents with special needs children, there are those of us who recognize our child’s special needs, do all we can to help our child and try our best not to do things at the expense of other people. We do not expect that the society goes all out to accomodate our special needs, and we do not abuse privileges extended to us. Then there are those who may still be in denial and refuse to believe or acknowledge that the child has learning disabilities, and insists that the child continues to function the same as like any other NT child, at the expense of the child and at the inconvenience of other people around.
Within the society at large, its the same. There are members who empathize with the situation that parents with special needs children face, and go the extra mile to help us out. There are no extra commercial gains, just kind acts coming from the heart. There are also members of the public who do not understand our situation, and judge us for what we may or may not be.
On a personal front, and being a parent of a special needs child, I say this:
To parents of special needs children, it can be tough and scary, and we may need to face certain fears that we have never faced before. At times our actions can be irrational out of fear and utmost sadness, but its good to bear in mind that we have equal responsiblity on our part towards our children and the society at large.
To society at large and for those who understand and help us, we truly appreciate your kindness from the bottom of our hearts. And for those who do not yet understand our situation, we appeal that you give us a chance and do not judge us too quickly.