All About Autism
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Mum2dan
Try wee Care. They’ve got a number of outlets across sg. But I think the best one is at tanglin coz you get to stand outside the class and observe your child. Has your child been diagnosed yet? You remind me of myself when I first thought my son is on the spectrum. -
specialboymum:
Thanks for information specialboymum.
The AED team in my boy's school told me they will support our kids until they finished primary school. They will also be responsible to liaise with the AED in the secondary school our kids go to, to ensure the continuity of support.
But I think if the school thinks your kid is well settled and doesn't need extra settle, they may reduce the support, so as to spare the resource on other kids. As you probably know, the resources for AED is really limited in most school.
I recall talking to some AEDs where they shared experience of supporting higher primary level as well. Just that I just got some correspondence about this from school. Will seek clarification from them. -
Double E, Blokus: Thanks. Hv called weecare but there’s no holiday program and the term classes are all full. My son has to be put on waiting list. The next term will only starts on second week of July. Meantime, hope to find other social class or holiday. Am still searching. Hope mummies who know abt other social class can recommend me.
No we did not Hv him diagnose yet. Coz he doesn’t seems to Hv problem in daily life. But he does behaved differently in class and outside when there’s kids around. This term, the sch teacher feedback that he walked around in class and doesn’t interact with other kids. At times, he doesn’t listen to teachers. The teachers are concern on the social part. We are too. At home, we find that his behaviour changes too. Will see how it goes in the school till next year. If needed we will go for a diagnosis next year to get accommodation in mainstream school. Will it be too late by then? Btw, he’s in K1 this year. -
Thanks for your encouraging words ImMeeMee, we are all taking it one step at time.
I hope you have already done your submission as PL's registration for next year is 31st May. Because preparing for enrollment was such a lengthly process. You need to submit med/psy/school reports outlined in the SPED application. The total submission for my xiao bao ran to 71 pages! Also, I simultenously applied for pri 1 deferrment with MOE as results of enrolment will only be known around Nov as historically experienced by their current school principal
While KKH assured me we could register anytime, think the deadline was so that PL's assessors could schedule appointments for the second half of the year for placement and applying after the deadline would have to wait till these are cleared. We aren't even aiming for pri 1 but the foundation course to prepare him for pri 1.
Seperation anxiety will always be there and we just have to manage, no choice. Da Bao doesn't even like to wear different clothes or shoes from his bro. And of course there is the social aspect, scared that they don't have friends or acting up in class. But totally agree on development part. We have to let go sometimes huh
Always feel ASD kids quite pitiful; having to go through so much at a young age and being judged and ostracised from others. We seldom go out because there had been occasions where we been kicked out places i.e. restaurants for rowdiness. Heard from my friend who owns an indoor playground that parents don't like their kids to associate with ASD kids for fear of being hit by them. So chum and as a parent also very heartpain. *sigh :sad: -
Hey Belachanbabe, I am moving with the same plan.
Have submitted our application to PL, and got approval from MOE on the deferment. I am also hopeful that my doter gets into the P1 foundation class, rather than the P1 standard at PL next year.
What is your backup plan if *touch wood* he cant get into PL next year, since you have foregone the P1 registration this year? For me, I will continue to let her attend her current EIPIC school if she cant get into PL next year. But I think she is ready to proceed to the next phase, so the only stumbling block now is the school screening and whether the school has a place for us. Waiting time is sure long.
We always keep a sharp eye on my doter when we are out of the house, as much as possible we try not to create any inconvenience to other people. But I guess its a lot more challenging to manage two kids on the spectrum at the same time. Not easy.
I think a lot of mummies here feel the same way that our kids are being judged too young. But this is the system that we exist in. As much as possible hubs and me try to normalize things for her, and I am grateful that she has two older sisters to help her out in many areas. Its no longer too much of the label, but rather what we can do to help her function in daily life. She's teacheable, just that we need more time and different techniques.
I don't know whether it applies to you, but I have slowly come to a stage where living with ASD is something that is beginning to be embedded into our baseline. I am no longer as hostile to ASD as before. -
Hi I’m new here…
Just wondering if anyone has heard of Deep Pressure Therapy or tried any weighted products? -
Anyone see the news ?
Single. Mom murdered her special needs son ?? -
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ImMeeMee:
My boy will also continue at the same EIPIC school if he can't get a place at PL. Trying my darnest not to worry about the what-ifs now.
helplessmum3:
Sad case. Probably easy for rest of us to condemn her actions BUT we really don't know what she went through. Single mum, depressed, no support, no $$ and daily grind can easily drive someone to desperation. If I didn't have family support and constant prayer, might be in the same boat too -
I perfectly can relates to the situation she is at…
Definitely not easy …the facts that she is able to withstand until 9 years already very strong …
Only if she know this forum …which help me …
If not I really don’t know where am I now … -
Her child might not be ASD. Could be something else…
Its really a tragic that such a thing happen. May the child rest in peace. -
Yes, very very sad.
She is so young, only 31 years old, so young.
Depression drove her to this.
I really pity the dead child’s grandma.
If the mother is convicted of murder, who will take care of the pitiful aged grandma ? -
Sg mommy,
Normally What are the charges like, at Novena medical centre ? -
Son had jaundice, failed liver operation, still on pram at 9 years old. http://news.omy.sg/News/Local-News/Mei-Shao-Fu-Tui-Er-Xia-Lou-Ming-Bei-Kong-Mou-Sha-171165#prettyPhoto
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phtthp:
Taking care of a child like this takes a lot of patience and strength and I am so sad it ended up like this. Wonder if she had enough support. So sad.Yes, very very sad.
She is so young, only 31 years old, so young.
Depression drove her to this.
I really pity the dead child's grandma.
If the mother is convicted of murder, who will take care of the pitiful aged grandma ? -
Double E:
Hello Double E and all mummies here!Happy Monday everyone.
Just a quick question. If you are offered a new job with a 20% increment but you will need to travel out of Singapore frequently, work late nights and sometimes weekends, will you take up the job given that you have a special needs kid to coach and take care? How prepared are u to sacrifice the time? With the 20% increment, you can probably save more money to send your son to more therapies.
A long time no \"see\", now that I am on leave I have time to go through all the postings in the month of May and am really tempted to reply to some of them so here goes!
My answer to your question? A very definite NO. For the amount of flexibility you have and especially you are already a FTWM (which means whatever time left is really precious for you to spend time with your kids!).
Also forgive me for saying this but to be able to afford SGD2,500 of educational and therapies a month between you and hubby, I would say you do not need the additional 20% pay increment at the expense of all the flexibility that you now have.
Yes, 7 years is a long time and granted work would be a bit jaded. But it also means you can perform your job with (possibly) one-eye closed .
Finished work and then zoom home!
Why I say this? Because I am in the same boat as you. Already worked for 6+ years in my current job. Currently I would say I have work-life balance ie. no need OT and no need to travel. At this stage, the ambition and the \"itch\" is biting. I too found myself thinking if there is a better offer to come along, I would jump ship! But it is also a real possibility that I might not be able to fit so well into another organisation anymore and after a short while may have to quit.
Which would be even worst because then becomes zero-pay! :sick: :moneyflies:
My boy going P1 next year and his needs is taking up a lot of our time as it is already. Cannot afford to pursue career, not even higher pay to \"fund\" more therapies.
I have already told my peers work-life balance is very important to me since I have two pre-schoolers. I may have to speak to my bosses very soon about job and pay expectations. My struggle is how to tell them without giving them the wrong impression that I am going to \"backslide\" in my work....
All the best!
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nugget:
Hi nugget,Ironic isn't it.
Some mothers give up their jobs to tend to their kids full time.
Some mothers are getting away from their kids so they can provide the kids so much more.
But at the end of the day.. its all about the kids isn't it.
Yes and no. For me (FTWM), it is also about supporting my parents, paying for their medical bills and sharing the load with my husband to pay for our kids. Not cheap, whether we are talking about therapies or tuition or even the daily provisions.
A lot of reasons why we work or do not work but I would think without the money worries, life would be more stable for me. I am not sure if I quit my job, I would really be in a condition good enough to provide all the dream support to my boy (or I may just fall into depression which I had once when I was in-between jobs).
Maybe, maybe not. I would prefer not to test it out at this point in time!
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nugget:
Agree, nugget.ImMeeMee,
Just to share, I have recently attended a course at pathlight. I met this parent whose dd is already P4 there. She lives in Jurong (if I recalled correctly).
SHe told me she first put her dd into mainstream too.. But shortly after, her dd get bullied and was crying. She in the end sign up for pathlight.
She said pathlight helped her dd a lot. Its a very good school. Class room size is about 20 students but will have at least 2-4 teachers helping out.
Some are assistance teachers, some are special needs teachers to help to deal with sensory etc issues. Her dd is very well supported.
During the break, I went to the canteen and toilets.. I like the school environment too. There are lots of signs and picture display everywhere to help the students.
They are also very high tech. Teachers are using iMacs and IPads to conduct their lessons. I am super impressed.
If my son really cant adapt into mainstream. I will enroll him for pathlight next year.
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phtthp:
Hi phtthp,Or perhaps the right qn to ask is :-
if there is bullying inside Pathlight, then how do the teachers inside there rectify the problem ?
I attended a talk at PL before and the lady told us that in PL, the teachers are trained to handle such situations. It can be anything ie. meltdowns, or special quirks or sensitive issues with any kids and they could be triggered by various reasons. Solutions they have is to say, for eg, give them two choices of \"time-out\" ie. do they want a three-minute time-out (outside the classroom) or do they want a five-minute time-out?
Reason why they ask such a question is that for ASD kids, give them a choice so that they feel they are in control and hence has a calming effect.
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Hi Buds,
Thanks for sharing! Yes, I found that love works, especially during those really bad bouts of whining and crying non-stop from my boy. During these times, I had to calm down myself first and then speak to my boy, hug him, tell him mummy loves you, then go into an aircon room, make him lie down down on the bed and then rub and massage him all over, sang to him until he calmed down completely. After he calmed down then I will talk to him soothingly, stand from his point of view and verbalize what had happened to him, that mummy understand why he was crying and fussy and why mummy was also angry with him etc. Talking to my boy calmly has a soothing effort on him as well.
Because of his speech difficulties, he could not communicate fully what frustrated him so we really need to take special effort to try to understand him.
A good hug, rub and massage really works with my boy!