hi friends , any nice destinations( local/ overseas) for rekindle husband/wife relationship?

Dear friends, just to check it out, what are the "must-see" & "must-eat" places at Macau? only hv two days stay in Macau.

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Sensitive (but Essential) Topics to Discussed with Your Teenager


Most people will agree that nowadays the teenagers are different from the past – they are more exposed (due to the various media) and more matured (I have doubts about the level of maturity but nonetheless, they are more matured than we are at that age). Given that there are many cases of “folly” acts that have hurt people or family, there is a need to educate and nurture these teenagers with such knowledge. However, teens being teens, they do not like to listen to lectures, especially from parents. So how do we approach such sensitive topics such as BGR or suicide?

I would suggest that you can consider starting with newspaper discussion or referring to someone you know. When the family is having dinner or sitting together for a relaxing night, talk about what you have read on the papers. Make sure you / your spouse is able to talk about it leisurely as a “outsider” with objective view and no emotional involvement (especially no scolding or linking to your teenager’s own action), and to present a more neutral stand taking into consideration the potential drive behind the act.

For example, take the case of the Secondary 4 boy who “smuggled” a handphone into the “O” Level exam hall and took a picture of the front page of the subject paper. He posted that on his Facebook and dared others to do the same. New started spreading about his act and MOE investigated into it. Ended up he got “Ungraded” for his “O” Level.

You can talk about what you read in the paper and discuss the following:
1.\tWhy the Secondary 4 boy did that? – just a prank, for fun, to show-off, etc.
2.\tWhy did MOE take such a strong view on this? – set as an example
3.\tWhat are the consequences? – no “O” Level certificate
4.\tPrice he paid for it? – how serious is it compared with his initial thought of just a prank
5.\tWhat can be done next? – he can retake his “O” Level
6.\tDid he learn his lesson? - actually no, he went ahead with another boosting online which again nearly got him into trouble

For a start, you may want to consider discussing some less sensitive topics, such as:
1.\tAnimal abuse
2.\tMaid abuse
3.\tFood scare
4.\tPoverty in some areas

Then you may proceed to sensitive topics you will want to discuss after you get more at ease with such discussion:
1.\tGang activity
2.\tDrug abuse
3.\tPornography
4.\tUnderage sex
5.\tDumping babies
6.\tSuicide
7.\tBGR

The topics are just some suggestion and it is not an exhaustive list. There is no specific sequence and certain topics can be linked – it’s really up to you.

Some “do-not” that you should take note in such discussion:
-\tno criticism
-\teveryone should be able to voice their opinion freely
-\tdo not judge your teen by his opinion
-\tpresent different viewpoints and need to be perceived to be fair (even if you may have very strong opinion against it)
-\tdo not be emotional
-\tdo not link these discussion to your teenager’s action

Some highlights you can also take note to incorporate into the discussion:
-\twhat drives the act (this will highlight the emotion or pain which the teen may be able to relate)
-\twhat are the consequences?
-\tis it a worthwhile price to pay for such an act?
-\twhat can be done instead?
-\tgiven this situation now, what can the next step / way forward?

By opening a channel of discussion as such, you can hear your teenager’s viewpoint, and hopefully win his / her trust in discussing their concerns with you. All the best in parenting your teen(s).

When is the appropriate age to teach sex to children? nowdays, child matures very early. Who shd teach, mum or dad?
:please: :please:

Dear parents, when is the time you let your child sleep in separate room? can a three yr old child sleep alone well / safely at night?


Currently, child sleep together in same bed. didn’t hv the luxury to enjoy "precious moments" with hubby…

Any advice/ tips/ remedy/ experience, for discussion/ sharing

Thank you

Dear mothers, could abstinence be the best solution if don’t use ligation? can it be done?

tanlengleng:

ZacK:

Anyway bet durex and okamoto... I would go for the latter cos they are touted to be \"next to nothing\". Anyway just a personal preference

Hubby says okamoto seems to be smaller & tighter then durex,
any man can advise on this?
He says it's uncomfortable for him...

Yup, Okamoto seem too tight for me, Durex much comfortable. The safest way is \"don't do it\" : p

My spouse & myself hv not been performing our "obligatory duties" since last yr. is it "abnormal or unhealthy" in a relationship?

Hi, does anybody knows whether Anderson Pri Sch need to ballot for Phase 2B?

(based on past records). or all students who registered under Phase 2B are successfully enrolled? it seem Anderson is quite popular.