I do appreciate my son's honesty, however, sometimes it doesn't seem to be on the right side as he would report a 'bad' deed done by his brothers instead. Should i praise him or should i reprimand him for carrying tales? However, I do appreciate what he did, as least i know what is going on btwn them. But at the same time, I don't want to give him d impression that its alright to carry tales. What should i do? Pls. advise. Thanks ya!

ChiefKiasu:

Thanks for the good advice. I do practice what you mentioned for honesty, but it hasn't been working lately. Also, not sure if the SG dramas are really good as examples - there's quite a bit of sexuality and violence themes in those lately. But I thought the Sunday morning/noon productions like \"I not stupid\" and kids-related productions are very good.

I still think real life interaction with actual people who are less fortunate than himself would be a better trigger to make him become more responsible for himself. I'm not thinking of a course or a module.

Also, he has been wanting to join the boys brigade or scouts. I have resisted because I thought that is really \"going through the motion\", but that may not be fair as I'm not too familiar with what actually goes on in those organizations. It's just that I've been skeptical (from young) that organisations that make kids pay big bucks for \"dressing up\" in spanking neat uniforms actually take doing charity seriously.

I hv been experiencing night terror from my 2yo toddler since he was 1.5yr +. It occurs almost every fortnightly. Apart from night terror, on other nights, he doesn't sleep thru' also.


Most of d nights, he wud cry in his sleep or make some grouchy noises & when i tried to smoothe him, he wud juz flare up & sometimes d crying wud get out of ctrl. There r times when i tried leaving him alone, he wud start kicking me to get my attention (we share d same bed).

Since then, his disruptive sleep's pattern has becomes a routine. (He naps for 1~1.5hrs everyday & usually falls asleep around 9.30~10pm.)

It was so disruptive that my hb & i had 2 sleep in separate rms so dat he can get enuf rest. It had also put a strain on our relationship too.

I understd dat bb over 1yr of age shd b able to sleep thru' d night but mine doesn't seem to be! I had been reading up articles on solving night terror & tried applying it but doesn't seem to help much. It is very bad for my toddler's health who tends to wake up so frequently @ night. Also very bad 4 everyone's in d family too!


D next morning, i was dead tired that i can't barely get up to prepare breakfast for my pri sch going kids or even c them off to sch. I felt so bad so about it!

Luckily, i got a gd domestic helper to oversee d kids' breakfast & send them to sch.

I'm desperately, hoping some kind souls cud offer their advises.

Many many great thanks!

Initially, i let them use toothpaste when they knows how to spit it out.


However, i realised the toothpaste which r meant for kids r too sweet for their tooth; those that comes with flavours eg. strawberry, orange etc.

There was 1 occasion when i saw some ants lingering around d the toothpaste. Unconvinced that it was d toothpaste so i did an experiment by leaving some toothpaste around. When i came back to check, they were filled with ants! From then onwards, i stop letting them use kids’ toothpaste until they reached P1, then i start them on with adults’ toothpaste instead.