Hiaweh:

I m having some problems with my current maid. She's been with us for 10 months. I let her have a hp since she came here for her to contact her family in Indo. She's a fresh maid, married with 2 teenage kids. In the beginning she was ok with not using the hp during work which is one of our house rules.


But 2 weeks ago, I caught her using the toilet more often n when I caught her that she's using hp in the toilet I lectured her but didn't take her phone fm her. A few days later I caught her again using her hp when she was playing with my son in the room. This time I confiscated her phone.

My dh told her that we will confiscate her phone for 2 weeks. N today when all of us were out n she was alone at home, she used my house phone to call her \"cousin\". When I tried to call the house, the phone is always engaged. When I got home I checked the call history on my phone n I found that her \"cousin\"s no was the last dialed no.

What should I do with this kind of maid, always doing things behind our back even after being reprimanded so many times? This is a small matter but it proves that she has a very questionable character.

Nowadays not easy to control handphone usage.

As for me, I allowed my Indon maid to use her handphone even on daily basis. I gave her instruction to use the phone only after 9.30 pm and let us know first so that we will not disturb her during her conversation with her family.

This will minimise our frustration having to know that she secretly using her handphone in the toilet.

carolsoh:

Hi all,


Could you all advice me, those with kids that now at Primary school and also at morning session. Usuall what time will your maid wake up? Does your maid cook lunch and dinner?

Hi,

My Indonesian maid went to bed at 10.30 pm and woke up daily at 5.30 am. She will start to do the housework after 8 am, cook lunch and other household chores. I have 3 schoolgoing children.

I choosed maid based on their look too, but luck play a very big part after that.

This Rosinta is from Philipines or Indonesia?

I have ever done mine before for my maid from Indonesia. I go to their embassy very early in the morning because there will be long queue before the official office house and they restrict only certain numbers of visitors. They need to take their passport photo there.


Best is to call their embassy first for any new procedure.

Mine supposed to reach home at 8pm but sometime go beyond the timing. She will gave excused here and there, but what can I do. I have learned to close both eyes. We need them more than they need us.

My ex-transfer maid make arrangement with my neighbour’s maid to go marketing together. No wonder she took some times for marketing every week.

Kertan:

The govt has encouraged us to have more kids, encouraging women to return to the workforce, encouraging more foreign workers into Singapore to work thus making the work life more competitive for working mums.


And now with the weekly off days implemented, which has brought problems after problems to the local families. When will all these stop? I have a hopeless mil who loves herself more than anyone else, so depending on maids after maids to look after the kids. Sometimes I find that I am the joke amongst the problems.

Have been depending on maids to look after my kids whilst I work, and I never fail to feel sad that I could not be the one to accompany them in their growing years.

I feel the same too.

All my three kids were taken care by maid during their growing up years. I feel sad too not having a chance to be a fulltime mother. The hard truth of living in Singapore. However, I am contented they are healthy and happy.

The weekly off days is a killer to us. My maid got herself pregnant during one of her off days. Already sent her back home and now struggling coaching a new one. Life is really hard but we still need to go on.

kittyki:

I ask my maid to use cif and clorox for cleaning toilet. And I caught her using my shower gel to wash my toilet so happen that time i was home. She still lied to me when I asked. Super pissed off. Cant imagine what she do when nobody is at home everyday when both my hb and I went working.

Most maid are great in lying to save themselves. I learned to close both eyes now after having 11 maids. I ever caught my maid using my daily toothbrush to clean the edge of the toilet bowl. This despite proper coaching by me.

Just a secret, they will do funny funny things when we not around. The truth hurt.