ImMeeMee:

specialboymum:

Hello mummies, been a while since I last check in to this thread.


I saw the video too. Feel sad for the young man. Like many of you, I can't help but worry for my kid as he grow up. I don't know whether that young man has ASD or not, however It is quite for common for people on the spectrum to have issues with self confidence and hence lack of the courage to fend for themselves. I'm beginning to see the lack of self confidence in my boy too as he is developing the self awareness.
Sigh! That is the challenging part of raising up special need kids, beside the need to work hard to help them to cope academically, we still need to do more to ensure they are equip with sufficient life skill and social skill

specialboymum

Is your child in P2 this year? Have you heard anything about AED support that will end by the time the child finishes P2?

The AED team in my boy's school told me they will support our kids until they finished primary school. They will also be responsible to liaise with the AED in the secondary school our kids go to, to ensure the continuity of support.
But I think if the school thinks your kid is well settled and doesn't need extra settle, they may reduce the support, so as to spare the resource on other kids. As you probably know, the resources for AED is really limited in most school.

Hi mummies,


I’m looking for a chinese tutor who has experience or doesn’t mind teaching special needs kids. Please pm me if you have any good recommendation.

My boy is slipping in his school work and is doing quite badly for his chinese. While I know we have the choice to request for withdrawal from chinese, I would like to give it one more try, also give him the chance to learn the language

Hello mummies, been a while since I last check in to this thread.


I saw the video too. Feel sad for the young man. Like many of you, I can’t help but worry for my kid as he grow up. I don’t know whether that young man has ASD or not, however It is quite for common for people on the spectrum to have issues with self confidence and hence lack of the courage to fend for themselves. I’m beginning to see the lack of self confidence in my boy too as he is developing the self awareness.
Sigh! That is the challenging part of raising up special need kids, beside the need to work hard to help them to cope academically, we still need to do more to ensure they are equip with sufficient life skill and social skill

nugget:

sembgal:

If you are referring to preschools, they are more flexible and will allow 1 ASD child with the maid in the class. But not many parents will share with you which schools take in ASD children as one class the most they allow 1 special needs child to blend in with the rest of the children for social interaction.

I am talking about primary school. Would they allow maids/parents to stand in as shadow teachers?

You need to check with the schools, some may allow while some others may not. My boy's school principal wasn't keen when we requested to bring in shadow teacher. However, he assured us the school allied educators will provide support, which they did despite their limited resource.

ImMeeMee:

nugget:

Actually I have a very selfish thinking but I am not too sure if its allowed. If come May after IQ assessment and if KKH really suggest pathlight to me, I might just go ahead and enroll first.


At the sametime, i will let son go into the mainstream P1 that I have PV in to see how well he can adapt. Hopefully by the time when Pathlight have a vacancy (say 6months - 1.5 years), then I see if I should let son go into PL.

I guess I am one of the kiasu parents, covering all grounds for my son.

Nugget, during school placement talks, I have heard of recommendations for parents to register for mainstream while awaiting special schools admission. The rationale is so that the child has a place in some school by the age of 7 yo. Our law requires compulsory education by the age of 7 yo unless there is special request subjec to MOE's approval. So I dont think its out of the norm.

Hmm.. I didn't know that. I thought the compulsory education act excludes special needs children...gee..so all these while, my worries for school not accepting him is not necessary at all

mashy:

specialboymum:

Hi ImMeeMee


Is your girl going P1 next year? Maybe it may be a good idea to start contacting Pathlight. Before they except your enrolment, they will need to do another round of assessment (in other word, the psy's assessment report is only reference). Also be mentally prepared for the long queue.

We submitted our son's enrolment to Pathlight through KKH CDU in June, we only get the appointment for assessment towards december (though there were also some hiccups in between like KKH forgot to submit the original diagnosis report of my son's condition). Pathlight also told us to expect at least 9 months-1.5 years of wait if my son pass their assessment, as they were already 50% over capacity. We panicked as we were worried what is he going to do during the 1.5 years wait? So we sent him to mainstream. It was difficult at start but now we think it isn't a bad idea to be in mainstream so as to learn integrating with his normal peers

Anyway, I don't know what is the situation in Pathlight now- I heard that they open up more vacancy... but I still think it is good to be prepared earlier and also good to have a plan B

So if pathlight offers u the place now, will u still take it up? Or your son has coped well in mainstream much better than expected?

We didn't go for the assessment. I didn't know what got into me at that time, I told the PL's administrator that I got my son a placement in mainstream as a back up plan, and after a short chat with her on the over capacity situation in PL, I somehow feel that it is not right for me to hold on to enrollment, so we withdraw. Well, I got scolding for being stupid by my folks after that. :oops:

So far, he is doing pretty ok, making significant improvement, though we need to spend more effort to guide him. Unless we come to stage when we see the need to consider special school, I think we will not rock the boat for now.

Hi ImMeeMee


Is your girl going P1 next year? Maybe it may be a good idea to start contacting Pathlight. Before they except your enrolment, they will need to do another round of assessment (in other word, the psy’s assessment report is only reference). Also be mentally prepared for the long queue.

We submitted our son’s enrolment to Pathlight through KKH CDU in June, we only get the appointment for assessment towards december (though there were also some hiccups in between like KKH forgot to submit the original diagnosis report of my son’s condition). Pathlight also told us to expect at least 9 months-1.5 years of wait if my son pass their assessment, as they were already 50% over capacity. We panicked as we were worried what is he going to do during the 1.5 years wait? So we sent him to mainstream. It was difficult at start but now we think it isn’t a bad idea to be in mainstream so as to learn integrating with his normal peers

Anyway, I don’t know what is the situation in Pathlight now- I heard that they open up more vacancy… but I still think it is good to be prepared earlier and also good to have a plan B

luvmum:

Dear Mummies,


My special needs child is due to enter mainstream P1 next year. I am contemplating to exempt him from Mother Tongue. In terms of his MT, he is able to speak and read pretty well but it's the writing part that is a real challenge and nightmare for him. He takes a long time in mastering the strokes and certain letters he just could not write it out. Since he has learning difficulties, I am thinking of allowing him to just concentrate on English and Maths as I believed there is no luxury of time for him to spend 4-5 days just mastering the stroke well as seen in my elder girl's educational demands. The weekly 听写 is too much for him and most of the words are too difficult for him even at p1 level.

What is the implication behind this exemption and can I apply before his entry to P1? I see a portion of the application form that requires his MT teacher to write her comments. Seem to be that it is only possible after he enters P1 and with his MT teacher's recommendation. Pl enlighten me.

Thank you.

Hi Luvmum,

You would need a letter from the doctor to recommend exemption from mother tongue, but that still doesn't guarantee the exemption. The school will still need to assess and grant approval.

I have raised up this matter with the child psychologist at IMH CGC. His recommendation is not to seek exemption at such early stage. We can review the needs again when he is in primary 3 or 4 and if he showed that he really cannot cope. The main implication is that it will be reflected on his certificate when he finished his PSLE or O level etc. He may need to have to explain why is it so in future and we are not sure if it will affect his chances to apply or get what he wants to achieve in future because of this little 'blemish'.
Of course, it wouldn't look good either if he gets a F for mother tongue or worse, the results for other subjects being affected because of the struggle with mother tongue..

My suggestion is not to make the decision so soon, just let him try (anyway most schools don't have exams for primary 1) and observe how he cope before making final decision.

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Yes, lets hope for our kids continuous improvement.

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mashy:

nugget:

Thanks mummies for your support. Whenever my thoughts are shaken, you girls help me to straighten it out :snuggles:


Yes Double E, I totally agree with you. Sometimes the threapist tell me son cannot do this, dunno that... My Hb will say to me \"of cos he dunno, if he knows all these, why do we come here for. \"

Hahaha, ya lor. So far my boy's therapists haven't said such a thing. Just that he hasn't met the age appropriate milestones or just slower.

My boy's therapists give different opinions, some say I should pull him back or place him in special school because he isn't up to the level required for primary school, his language skill is only at kindergarten level blah blah (honestly, I see a couple of pathlight kids in my boy's speech therapy class do better than him). While some other, including the psychiatrist at IMH said better don't rock the boat since the school isn't complaining much nowadays and he didn't fail any of the subjects.