helplessmum3:

Mummies, is it ok to give fish oil at night ?

I think it is ok to give at anytime.

I give him fish oil at night before bedtime. Several reports show that the DHA in fish oil help to inhibit cortisol, which is a stress hormone. In other words, I hope it can help him to sleep better lah.

In the morning, I added a teaspoon of flaxseed into his rice porridge breakfast. Flaxseed also got omega 3 and vitamin Bs for energy.

Hi Nugget,


My view is just go with what your heart tell you. I think you are mentally prepared for all the challenges you may face, so just go for it. After a year dealing with my kid’s teacher, I gathered they would not mind special needs kid in their class, as long as we show that we are all ready to cooperate and provide additional support to help our child in their learning, instead of relying totally on the teachers.

Just to share with you a comment I heard from another parent whose kid is in rainbow. She said that the special school will not agree that our kids are suitable for mainstream unless they prove to be more normal than normal kids.

jme:

Specialboymum,


New beginnings Epsom salts cream. It is paraben free

Thanks. Can't find this brand in shops here. I have place order directly from New Beginning website.

helplessmum3:

At the Facebook \"the new age parent \"


Some one post offensive remark on autism ..

This is not unusual. I saw similar insensitive remarks in some other threads in this forum too. It only shows the lack of awareness on autism among the general public.

I admit I often feel hurt when people say not so nice things about our kids, even if it is from young children. There are couple of occasions when I heard other kids pointed at my son and said \"he got mental problem\"- I was crying in my heart already, but what can we do? confront them, tell them to apologize, accept that their thinking is wrong and in future, they are only allow to use nice words even when they see kids behaving the way they don't agree on?

As much as I wish the NT world can understand and accept our kids, I gathered that we can't really expect people to make the effort to understand autism, especially when they didn't have the chance to get involved with any person with autism throughout their life. Take for ourselves? How many of us make the effort to read up on autism before our child is diagnosed or suspected with the condition?

So now, I'm trying to tell myself, not to get upset with unpleasant comments and don't have the expectation that people will be kind to our kids. I will just focus on doing my part to bring him up properly, help him to learn integrating with the NT so that people are more willing to accept him

Hello mummies,


Anybody use magnesium sulfate cream (epsom salt cream) on your kids?
I have been using kirkman’s cream (ordered from iherb) but realise it contains propyl paraben.

Anybody know where can i find alternative that is propyl paraben free? Is it available in Singapore?
I have been trying to search for such products, so far I can only find epsom bath salt in the shops, which to me is not practical

Thanks mummies for your feedback. Yah…it was scary, I could feel my heart sank when I received the call…Thanks goodness he is ok, and he didn’t run off the school compound.


I’ll try what ImMeeMee suggested i.e to teach him to calm himself down by counting. I have also spoken to his OT who also suggested something similar. I also took the opportunity to remind him in case of situation like this, he should go to general office to seek for help.

Actually, the school bus have our numbers. The bus driver was a little blur that day, he wasn’t aware that my boy didn’t board the bus till the bus reached his usual drop off point when he notice nobody was getting off the bus (my boy is the only one who alight at that point). It seems like a chain of unfortunate events happening on that day.

I guess the driver and school teachers will be a bit more diligent and will keep closer look out on him from now, though I felt a bit paiseh to trouble them.

Hello mummies,


Need your advice, especially those who have experience dealing with your kids sensory issue. Is there any way to teach our kids self calming technique, so that they will better regulate themselves when they are faced with "crisis"or unexpected events.

Yesterday during the last period in school, some of his classmates left earlier for CCA. I think it was the first day of CCA so the kids naturally get excited. I think all the excitement and commotion around got my boy really confused. He dashed off the classroom. Nobody knew where he ran to. It didn’t help when the last period teacher in charge is a relief teacher who isn’t aware of the class situation and my boy’s condition. Also one of the boys who always hold his hand to bring him to the bus waiting area stayed back for CCA.
He missed his school bus. When we realize he didn’t take his school bus, we quickly call the school, luckily, one of the boys found him and brought him to the office to wait for us to pick him up.

His form teacher called and reassure me that it won’t happen again. Actually, I am not faulting the school. In a mainstream setting, I cannot expect them to keep an eye on my boy all the time. However, I would like to find out if there is a way I can teach him to calm himself down, and take better approach in handling situation like this. As he grows up, he will be faced with many kind of crisis and events. It is impossible for me to pre-empt every thing that may happen to him, and to write social stories on. Also, we cannot assume somebody will always be there to manage him, so it will be best if he could learn to manage himself.

nugget:

Double E,


He is already toilet train and is using toilet already.

I am so scare he regresses. Cos he poo in the underwear, not stain.. He did that in Dec when they are changing class. Past few weeks keep staining his underwear and yesterday poo in underwear again.

Must find those social stories. Maybe will help him remember.

Perhaps you would like to find out what is bothering him that prevent him from going to toilet.

My boy has similar problem. We later found out there are 2 issues. Firstly, He is afraid of going into a busy toilet, secondly, he dare not inform his teacher when he needs to go, so he tried to hold himself until he couldn't control anymore.. He had a few accidents in class. For first issue, we just keep encourage and reassure him that it is ok to go into a busy toilet.. when he finally did, we cheered for him and praise him for good job. Same thing in school, the teacher kept encouraging him to speak out. His AED also help to prepare a laminated note \"Can I go to toilet?\" to help him...

mashy:

specialboymum:

Hello mummies,


It has been a while since I last posted.
I would like to wish everybody a happy new year, hope we keep this online support group going and may our special kids be better than yesterday.

For mummies at the cross road..don't worry about if the decision you make is right or not. Whether to defer, to go on to P1, be it mainstream or special..just tell yourselves, whatever decision you make is the best decision at the point of time.

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Not sure if you recall our earlier discussion on discharge from KKH CDU. I have managed to get CDU to refer my boy to IMH CGC. After talking to few people, we think it may be good to continue follow up by CGC, even we don't need any of their service now. As our kids grow up, we will be facing with different set of problems, particularly socially... at least there is somewhere to go to get help or at least they can provide recommendation

My boy still not discharged from CDU leh. So funny hor. We are meeting the dr in Nov again end of this year. We will just do an annual review every year.

Did you mention before that your boy is year end child? If he was still 6 during the last appointment with them, they probably won't discharge you yet.

CGC will see our child from 7 all the way to 18 or 21 (I can't remember). I was told that we should anticipate new set of problems especially when they reach adolescent, when there is more demand on social skil.. It may be more complex than what we faced now.. CGC could arrange for counseling by psychologist etc.

Hello mummies,


It has been a while since I last posted.
I would like to wish everybody a happy new year, hope we keep this online support group going and may our special kids be better than yesterday.

For mummies at the cross road…don’t worry about if the decision you make is right or not. Whether to defer, to go on to P1, be it mainstream or special…just tell yourselves, whatever decision you make is the best decision at the point of time.

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Not sure if you recall our earlier discussion on discharge from KKH CDU. I have managed to get CDU to refer my boy to IMH CGC. After talking to few people, we think it may be good to continue follow up by CGC, even we don’t need any of their service now. As our kids grow up, we will be facing with different set of problems, particularly socially… at least there is somewhere to go to get help or at least they can provide recommendation