Just would like to share more. This whole issue started from nursurey. He had a very impatient teacher. When she compliant to me during the parent teacher meeting session, I tried to let her understand the suitation. But she refused to listen and kept telling me I had to cane my ds. In-fact my ds is not like that, he had learnt a lot of bad behaviour from classmates. I had called the principal and requested to change class but she refused. I tried to work with the teacher she said she had to rushed home to cook dinner after school. She had no time for us. I really wanted to change school at that time. But as both my teenage dd had gone the same school so we decided to stay for another year. In K1, we are lucky to have a very good teacher. I had talked to her and she listened. We don’t have big problem at all. he was still active in class but under control by the teacher. In-fact during the school outing we don’t even have to pay extra attention to him like before. my ds was well behave in the group never run away and caused trouble. This was peaceful till some way in K2, he started all the bad behaviour again. I had talked to the teacher, she had alot of discipline methods seen good. But still something is wrong. My ds had behaved in the first school outing during the starting of the year, but very very badly behaved in the 2nd school outing. He will hug the K1 teacher but not the K2 teacher. Ask him he cannot explaint. So teacher still play a very very big role in school.

Thanks for all your comments.


I do agree that teacher parents have to work together to correct the child behaviour in school. But not all teacher willing to do that for long term. Some are very nice that they will call you every now and then, some just find a lot of work have to be involved. So depend on your luck what kind of teacher your child get. I may get help from other channel. :thankyou:

deminc,


Tks for understand me. pls excuse for my poor english, as I was chinese educated.

smurf,

Do you realise that your ds1 had 100% attention before your ds2 arrived. My dd1 had 2yrs 10mths 100% attention and love from us, but our dd2 had to share with her sis start from she was born. Thus, there is a 2nd child syndrome exist. If you understand this, you will be able to understand your ds2. Start from constant hug and kiss to both you dd and this will slowly tell your ds2 that mummy love me. What I did for my children when they were very young, hug or kiss them when the tantrum just started and told them to stop. This work well. Then you can ask the why. Discipline with love is more effective.

Just to share, as mentioned before I didn’t has a good relation with my dd2 now right. After writing to you it waken me up. I had tried talk to her patiently and tell her how I care in these few days. The suitation improved alot. Ofcourse she is old enough to understand. Your dd2 need time and assurance from you. If the parent didn’t handle the suitation well the 2nd child syndrome can be very serious.

Sorry, just joined. I was guessing some other terms all of you using too.


My dd2 is at the teenage stage which is most rebellious. In-fact my dd1 was very sweet and nice, I just need to say ‘where is my good girl or show me my good girl’. She would do the thing I said. Of-course somethimes she was not happy, she would say ‘no more good girl’. But I still be able to get her do what I said. During her 15, I had only a few very minor conflicts with her. Now she is 17, she will talk to us very nicely with respect. Everyone is different, some just need more attention and love like my dd2.

I just read your post. My ds2 when she was 2 she used to threw tantrum and liked to cry alot; it can last very very long. No one can stop her. finally I tried to wispher into her ear calmly and softly, she stopped. from there on I know we can force her, we need to tell her calmly with lot of patience and love. Even till now she will be 15 this year still the same. As I have a ds3 on P1 now with behaviour problem, at time I so stress that I cannot control myself and you will see that me and ds2 will also have problem. This is because I didn't talk to her calmly and patiently. She think that I no longer love her.


I know not easy especially with others stress. \"jia you\" :rahrah:

Thanks tamarind it is very informative. My boy in P1 now. I do let him bring book and activity book to occupy him but only work for short period. He still prefer to create his own 'fun'. The teacher has just started to let him teach the weaker students. I don't know how long this will last. :roll:

Thanks for both replys. My boy will do all kinds of things to attract attention or to disrupt the class daily. The reason he gave to us was that he felt bored and these actions were fun to him. I had explained to him these behaviours are not accepted, and made him apologise to the teacher. But later he will come up with new ways to attract attention again. Pls advise.

:? I have a bright boy but has behaviour problems. I always get complaints from teacher. I talked to my friend some of the complaints. She told me that oh you have to be very thick skin and always apologise to the teacher. It sound very negative, do any one has the same kind of problems and how you handle.


P.S the teacher will received complaints daily from students and parents and she will feedback those very serious one.