if i am a mil,
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No mil is perfect but we are married to our husband not our mil. No husband is perfect too. If we divorce our current husband, the next one will also have weaknesses. Anyway, we are also not perfect.
Talking about 1 big and 1 small ba zhan, at least you got ba zhan to eat. My mother gave birds nest to mil. Mil cooked the birds nest and give 1 bowl to DH and 1 bowl to DS. None for me although the birds nest is from my mum. Sigh… As long as my husband treats me well and no EMA, it is enough for me. -
true…that’s exactly what i always console myself when i get pissed off.
The thing is my dh doesn’t really me well leh…Again,like what u mentioned,no one is perfect.I don’t expect him to be perfect.But he too overwhelmed wf his role as a son,seriously neglect or totally hv neglect his role as husband or father.
Imagine,he has to entertain his mother’s call when i was in middle of labour contraction…
No,i didn’t eat the ba zhan,neither did my dh. I gave all to my colleagues… -
Aiyoh…don’t make me worry about son being bullied into doing housework. I believe housework and child-rearing should be fair…even if wife is not working, husband should not be pushing everything to her. Lets not talk too far…still have O levels, college/poly, NS and pref Uni to go.
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vinegar:
Bully? Ya, hubby n I always talk about this. What if the DIL bullies our son(s)?janet_lee88:
when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.
what if u find out ur DIL bullies ur son? making him doing all hseworks n running errands...possible not to interfere?
Close 2 eyes lor. It is up to the man to stand up for his own rights. If he cant tolerate, he shld talk to the wife. Not his parents talk to his wife. -
Jennifer:
If parents gotta come forward, then really a mommy's boy - confirmed and double confirmed!Bully? Ya, hubby n I always talk about this. What if the DIL bullies our son(s)?
Close 2 eyes lor. It is up to the man to stand up for his own rights. If he cant tolerate, he shld talk to the wife. Not his parents talk to his wife. -
if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?
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DH’s SIL likes to ask my DH to do things for her.She won’t ask her husband(DH’s elder brother).Her excuse? her hubby in high level job while my DH is not.
there were countless time i’ve to stand up for my DH…i really tired…
i am struggling hard to manage everything for the family,while he is busy wf his parents,SIL…etc…They’ve maid to manage everything for them,while i’ve zero help.Yet,they still not satisfy n keep taking advantage fr. my submissive DH. -
vinegar:
In your case, I think the fault lies more with your DH than with your MIL & SIL. If fact, a lot of issues that seemingly reasonable women have with their ILs are a result of the husbands inability to manage his relationship with his family.DH's SIL likes to ask my DH to do things for her.She won't ask her husband(DH's elder brother).Her excuse? her hubby in high level job while my DH is not.
there were countless time i've to stand up for my DH....i really tired...
i am struggling hard to manage everything for the family,while he is busy wf his parents,SIL..etc...They've maid to manage everything for them,while i've zero help.Yet,they still not satisfy n keep taking advantage fr. my submissive DH. -
janet_lee88:
when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.
curious though... what is meant by 'fair'?
what's fair to me might not be fair to others...
i am sure that my dh's parents think they have been 'fair' to me...
but i really think it's not fair at all
:siam:
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nightlone:
reminds me of the radio joke:janet_lee88:
when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.
curious though... what is meant by 'fair'?
what's fair to me might not be fair to others...
i am sure that my dh's parents think they have been 'fair' to me...
but i really think it's not fair at all :siam:
aunt A: my dd married well, the husband does everything, she does not hv to do anything.
aunt B: congrats. Is your son married?
aunt A (sobbing): aiyo, he suay lor. The wife does not know anything, he has to do everything.
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