Does type of housing really matters?

[VitoRelax]

CookiesMonster:

Hi, this is the 2nd wk for my DD in P1 & sch mates hv asked her where & what type of accommodation she stays in. She gets the cold shoulder after telling them that she stays in a HDB.


I reminded & explained to her that we came close to buying pte property 2x while hse hunting but eventually settle for a HDB so that it wld be near her sch & we can afford to hv a single income.

But her concerns are that her sch mates are shunning her. Does anyone here hv encountered this & what is yr solutions to this? Can share

Many thanks & bless u.

Which school your DD is in ?

Cannot be the whole school, every student lives in private property, right ?

Anyway, there is nothing to ashamed of to be living in HDB !!

[corneyAmber]

My kid mentioned they also liked to talk about where they travelled during school holidays… I told her not to indulge in such talks too much cos there could be years we might not travel at all during school holidays.

[VitoRelax]

Jennifer:

There are many big cars parked in HDB carparks. Plus these group of pple have smaller exposure to housing loans. In fact, these group of pple could be richer than those living in prime districts paying hefty housing loans and need to be on dual income arrangement.


Tell your dd these and to ignore those ignorant pple. JMHO

Precisely, what is the point living in Private property with both mum & dad working but kids brought up by maids. Kids will grow up with maid's value, notwithstanding the amount of money the parents have.

Isn't it better if the kid is brought up by full-time mummy even though in HDB ? This way the kid will grow up inheriting the mummy's values ...

That said, I have also seen super rich families with super humble character ...

[tamarind]

CookiesMonster:

Hi, this is the 2nd wk for my DD in P1 & sch mates hv asked her where & what type of accommodation she stays in. She gets the cold shoulder after telling them that she stays in a HDB.


I reminded & explained to her that we came close to buying pte property 2x while hse hunting but eventually settle for a HDB so that it wld be near her sch & we can afford to hv a single income.

But her concerns are that her sch mates are shunning her. Does anyone here hv encountered this & what is yr solutions to this? Can share

Many thanks & bless u.

This is the main reason why I want to put my kids in a neighbourhood school, where most kids stay in HDB.

There is no end to comparison. Even if you say you live in a bungalow, someone else will say that they live in an even bigger bungalow. Besides comparing houses, they will also compare cars, clothes, shoes, etc, etc. This is something that I really detest.

I want my kids to grow up knowing what is hardship, so that they know how to work hard to get what they want. My boy asked me why his cousin's house has 3 storeys, and our flat is so small. I told him that if he studies hard, when he grows up, he can buy an even bigger house for mommy He immediately agrees

[Joy]

I dont see such norm in my girl’s school even she is from one of the elite school.


Its more so the parents that looks down, not the kid.

[Blobbi]

This is quite shocking and sad. Maybe she’s in a girl’s school, and girls are more aware of such things at an earlier age? In any case, so young become snob liao, sigh.


I always tell my son it’s not his money, and that what we have is due to the hard work of his parents. He has to go earn it himself or he’ll have nothing to rely on when he grows up.

[csc]

I observe that girls tend to be more sensitive towards such comments. Boys are non-chalant about them.


Last year, I stole a look at my son's class list and was amazed to know that 75% of his classmates live in landed property and condominiums - of which some names are reflected in the Monopoly game - Singapore version.

And he has been around to his classmates' houses while doing his projects. One day he commented that our house (about 2000 square feet) is actually very small, u know. (without batting an eyelid) I was like , huh?

Nevertheless, his classmates had been to our humble abode to do projects as well.

Also , some of his friends had professional chauffeurs waiting for them and fetching them after school. My hubby got angry one day when his son treated him like Ahmad. :lol:

Regardless of all these factors, my son has made all kind of friends from different social background - in fact, a lot of them are very humble and fun people to be with. He has no problem integrating with them.

He is having the time of his life there. :lol:

Just believe in ourselves and know that our worth and esteem is not measured by what we have but by what we are.

[pecalis]

VitoRelax:

Precisely, what is the point living in Private property with both mum & dad working but kids brought up by maids. Kids will grow up with maid's value, notwithstanding the amount of money the parents have.

Isn't it better if the kid is brought up by full-time mummy even though in HDB ? This way the kid will grow up inheriting the mummy's values ...

That said, I have also seen super rich families with super humble character ...

Totally agree

Let me share my DD1's experience. My SIL brought her to Disney on Ice many yrs back and a girl asked her father why that girl (pointing to my DD1) is not wearing princess dress and a tiara. The man replied - \"oh, she's poor!\" My SIL was so fuming mad but she didn't confront him since he was just having a conversation with his own daughter.

When she was in lower pri, she happily and cheerfully told some bus mates that daddy cut her hair for her. The rude shock she had was - you mean you are so poor to afford a hair cut outside? She just didn't know how to respond. We taught her some funny answers and laughed it off - like to pay $20 to have your hairstyle? No thanks

Only last yr, at P5, DD1's classmate realised she didn't attend any tuition (except for Ch enrichment) - commented that she should not be in the best class. I assured DD1 that she is smart and don't need any extra tuition, anyway, help is always available from the adults in the house

She also noticed her classmates use printing paper for rough work and she asked them don't they recycle paper? Again, it was commented that she must be poor.

Finally, when they saw her mobile, they said it was so lame - must be very cheap! She could only answer that the phone is only for practical use - for communication with mummy. But of course, when she came home, she asked for a better phone. I told her my phone is even cheaper!

I always assured my children that we are not poor, neither are we very rich. However, we are blessed enough to have mummy stay home to look after them without having to worry about our finances. I drive them to sch in the morning, but I also train them to take bus home on their own if needed (around 2x a wk). We are living in a terrace house - my in-laws', but our home is a 5-rm flat in Punggol Also told my kids that we could have been richer, but we choose the present lifestyle so we could be with them and watch them grow up, instead of having them to be raised by maids.

My DS (P4) commented that those kids with lots of gadgets like PSP, it's prob because both parents are working and a way of compensating their children for not being able to spend more time with them

[CookiesMonster]

tankee:

P1 ???? scarier ... :shock: :shock:


I seriously doubt 7 yr old kids can be so materialistic and snoobish. perhaps she is being too sensitive?

:lol: wish she was but unfortunately she isn't. i happened to pick it up during 1 of our chat while walkg home.

btw, i don't think she is the only one. i've spoken to some parents fm other class & once they know the type of housing, they also kept conversation shd we happened to meet to a \"Hi & Bye\".

[CookiesMonster]

sleepy:

All her classmates shunned her or just a handful? Ignore those few & make friends with the rest. There are afterall 29 possible friends in each P1 class.


By the way, her primary school in district 9, 10?

think it is just a handful as there are some who stayed in hdb. told her that after awhile the type of housing won't really matter much as real friends don't mind abt such stuff.

nope, just a sch which is smacked in btw HDB, pte condos & landed property.