Does type of housing really matters?

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mathsparks:

these kids are only in p1, I thot they only become snobbish in Sec1..


scary indeed and when you think that the kids must have gotten the idea form their parents.

brace yourself, cookiemonster. coz I doubt the qns will end there..next they'll be asking what make of cars their parents drive, what jobs their dads have and so on...

true but guess this is norm amongst kids. just that if our kids happened to go to \"90210 beverly hills\" in spore, the yardstick wld be different.

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True friends won’t bother about who your parents are, how much they earn or what type of car they drive, much less the type of houses they live in!


In school, it’s all about your results and your behaviour/personal growth.

I think you did a good job explaining to your girl that it’s not that you cannot afford but choose to sacrifice a condo/landed property for more time spent with her.

Tell her to work hard to prove to those people that staying in a big house or expensive house does not mean they’ll always be successful. That will be the best way your girl can prove her worth to herself and everyone else, plus make daddy & mummy very proud.


Actually, my parents & I also have the same concern. Hb & I are not big earners. Our income is comfortable for us with 1 child now and we are staying in a 4 room flat. My boy will attend NYPS when he goes to P1 cos it’s my hb’s alma mater and the other schools around our area (Punggol) are rather difficult to get into. My parents are considering moving to Bukit Timah for their grandson’s sake. Hb & I have decided not to move at all, even if we could afford it next time. If we are going to move just to ‘match the social status’, what impression will we be giving our son?

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westmom:

Well i did hear from my fren whose kid was in the lower primary school then (in so called elite school) that her child dared not invite friends to their hdb home. Apparently some of her classmates look down on hdb kids....oh gosh...this is more common than you think. Oh dear ..i fear for the future generation that will be so class conscious...

somehow i believe as parents, we also contributed to the social divide mentality that our kids exhibit.

thus, when DH was posted to overseas couple of yrs ago, we tagged along to expose them to the living conditions abroad. we hv stayed in different type of housing & when we came back we felt that ultimately HDB is still the way to go in order to spend more time with the kids.

we, at 1 pt or another in time also do experienced such issues. i strongly remembered my previous reporting officer upgraded fm HDB to landed property with a hefty grant fm parent's & in-law's assistance. i was like :!: when she told me she did it to keep up with the \"Joneses\".

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Blobbi:

This is quite shocking and sad. Maybe she's in a girl's school, and girls are more aware of such things at an earlier age? In any case, so young become snob liao, sigh.


I always tell my son it's not his money, and that what we have is due to the hard work of his parents. He has to go earn it himself or he'll have nothing to rely on when he grows up.

yup, that's what i told my DS & DD too.

we told them we will support them till tertiary schooling. after that, they are on their own.

[starlight1968sg]

I agreed with mrswongtuition.


Whether we (parents) live in a hdb flat or condo, does it make a difference in parenting?

No offence to those live in private properties!

If all the classmates have been to USA or Europe for holidays, are we going to match this area too?

What sort of upbringing are we giving to our future generation?

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NicHei:

haiz..... parents got to do with all these kids attitute. Cannot imagine the behaviour and attitute of these kids when they grow up

agree 101%

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MMM:

:shock:


Do let us know if your kid's school is in the prime area to solicit such a response.

My kids' school is located in the housing estate area. So quite a number of their friends stay in HDB and such questions never arise.

But if the kids really behave that way. That is really sad. It probably reflects the kind of parents they have....

i think this doesn't happened only to sch in prime area. neighbourhood sch also hv. just that whether kids remember to share with their parents.

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VitoRelax:

Which school your DD is in ?

Cannot be the whole school, every student lives in private property, right ?

Anyway, there is nothing to ashamed of to be living in HDB !!

:imsorry: can't reveal for sensitivity issue

yeah, there's nothing shameful in living in HDB especially when it is much easier to maintain :lol:

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Heard also stories where kids trade stories of what cars their parents drive etc. Actually I feel sorry for those parents who start shunning those who live in HDB flat - so shallow.


I live in HDB flat and am very proud that gahmen pay for the painting of exterior and much other things. I don't fancy getting into a huge debt just to stay in a gated community; neither do I want to keep such a big portion of money in bricks and mortar. Want to compare bank accounts?? (just being rude lah, sorry).

Honestly, it's probably insecure people that will do such 'wu liao' comparison. Someone may wear Armani, drive Lexus....but have debts up to his throat; while someone wearing 'panda brand' could have huge amounts in assets...take heed, he who loves to compare.

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ks2me:

My kid mentioned they also liked to talk about where they travelled during school holidays.. I told her not to indulge in such talks too much cos there could be years we might not travel at all during school holidays.

hmm.......my kids are requested not to tag along for holidays especially where it involves cooping up in shopping malls. so what i did was to send them for holiday programs organised by CC during the last break. unfortunately during the last wk we had to drag them off for a \"commercial bldg\" holiday.