Does type of housing really matters?
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MMM:
:celebrate::lol: My mum always say when you meet someone, they will not ask you how much $ do you have, what car do you drive, what house do you stay???
They will ask \"How many children do you have?\" So she said that's the real wealth.
MMM, unfortunately, materialistic Singaporeans ask \"Which company are you working for now?\", \"Where do you live?\" \"Where do your kids go to school?\" \"what do you do on weekends?\"
and have totally MISSED THE POINT! -
MMM:
wah...then i must hv come fm a \"wealthy family\" lor...cos my late Father fm China had 1 family in China & 2 families in S'pore.mummy of 2:
Afterall, housing is visible and can easily be found out, but you can't go around asking how much people have in the bank
:lol: My mum always say when you meet someone, they will not ask you how much $ do you have, what car do you drive, what house do you stay???
They will ask \"How many children do you have?\" So she said that's the real wealth. -
CookiesMonster:
i think both of u lose sleep with telemarketers callg to get u to sign up or upgrade credit cards :D[/quote]I leave all those finance decisions to DH, cos I'm really bad with figures and terribly unorganized. So yes, DH gets alot of silly marketing calls.
That is unfortuantely quite real - the perception that private housing is better than HDB. I suppose it's easy to generalise in this way. Afterall, housing is visible and can easily be found out, but you can't go around asking how much people have in the bankmummy of 2:
[quote=\"winth\"]My SIL who bought a condo in Hougang already told her mother not to break her cutlery (anyone who has broken cutlery before, please teach me how it is done) cos they were real expensive. And that it's really so difficult to book a BBQ pit in their condo, cos it's so full up and they needed to go on waiting list, blah blah... And if we wanted free swimming, we could always go swimming in her condo blah blah stuff.
I dunno, I think people really think living in private housing is real darn superior.
We drove a van for the past 7 years cos we were just happy with our mode of transport and dun see the need to get a car. And she looked down on my husband (her big brother), thinking that her then bf is much superior cos they were looking at condos... for their first house. I think it was only last year when her now DH got into the same industry as DH, now she knows the real difference between her DH's post and her brother's rank.
It was only when we changed our car and type of housing last year that shut her mouth up and basically that was bec we find it more worth it as the prices were good. And we are like, what cutlery? What condo? What car? Let's have a nice BBQ at my porch anytime u want it. That really shut her up for good. People already compare within a family, so we can't just blame the children, it's always the parents who expose them to such upbringing.
We deprive our boys since young and give them very little toys. We do splurge on quality things that can be really expensive when we see a need. So somehow, DS1 believes in 'delayed reward system' where he doesn't mind saving up and studying/completing my homework as early as he possibly could so that he can play in the later part of the day. We let him choose what he wants to buy with a limited amount of pocket money so that he still has a choice, but not to the far extent that he could afford the expensive food in the canteen. He gets to choose if he wants to use up his $1 or buy an 80c noodle and save his 20c up. He has nothing extra to get him drinks, so he only drink from his water bottle. Till now, that kinda works for him, and his little piggy bank gets 20c perk everyday after his school and he's real proud now that it's his money.
He attends a neighbour school too, I think that did help too cos we don't have to fight off snobbish parents who usually have snobbish children. I remember last time I was at Shichida when DS2 that a parent was telling a teacher about a $20/30 haircut for his toddler. I was like... :!: siao ar, he just cut up his own $20/30.
I prefer to teach my kids to appreciate what he has, and how fortunate he is. We always tell him he is lucky that we buy so many toys for him, and that there are poor children who do not have any. He will sometimes say that he wants to give away some toys to these poor children, and I'm really happy to hear that.
We are not super-rich but we are happy with our lifestyle - live in HDB, no car, holidays in the region (Indonesia, Thailand) and no need to lose sleep at night over money. -
Andaiz:
So true.... until someone they know dropped DEAD suddenly then it will wake them up. Or when they decided to take it easy & try to connect with their kids but it is too late.MMM, unfortunately, materialistic Singaporeans ask \"Which company are you working for now?\", \"Where do you live?\" \"Where do your kids go to school?\" \"what do you do on weekends?\"
and have totally MISSED THE POINT! -
[quote=\"CookiesMonster}
i think both of u lose sleep with telemarketers callg to get u to sign up or upgrade credit cards siboh :D[/quote]
No lar, such calls never last more than 30 sec cos i just tell them \"sorry not interested\". Dun waste their time lar, so that they can call the next person on the list :lol: -
CookiesMonster:
Totally agree...and it seems that people are dying younger, even with the advance in medical sciene. I wonder if it's becos of lifestyle and stress.
So true.... until someone they know dropped DEAD suddenly then it will wake them up. Or when they decided to take it easy & try to connect with their kids but it is too late.Andaiz:
MMM, unfortunately, materialistic Singaporeans ask \"Which company are you working for now?\", \"Where do you live?\" \"Where do your kids go to school?\" \"what do you do on weekends?\"
and have totally MISSED THE POINT!
We always make it a point to spend time with the kids. You can always chase the next promotion or increment, but you can't bring all that money to the grave with you. Time with the kids, once gone, cannot be bought. When you finally earn enough to spend more time at home, you may find the kids have their own lives, which sadly, does not include you. -
Andaiz:
And where did you go for your holidays .... these days, take a few days' leave = overseas vacation
:celebrate:MMM:
:lol: My mum always say when you meet someone, they will not ask you how much $ do you have, what car do you drive, what house do you stay???
They will ask \"How many children do you have?\" So she said that's the real wealth.
MMM, unfortunately, materialistic Singaporeans ask \"Which company are you working for now?\", \"Where do you live?\" \"Where do your kids go to school?\" \"what do you do on weekends?\"
and have totally MISSED THE POINT! -
mummy of 2:
yeah, i think pple here r droppg dead v fast like hseflies due to the lifestyle or lack of it. most workg frens i know clock in long hrs at work. they are walkg pharmacy cos they carry medicines for gastric, high BP, insomnia, panic attacks, UTI, constipation & what not in their bags.
Totally agree...and it seems that people are dying younger, even with the advance in medical sciene. I wonder if it's becos of lifestyle and stress.
We always make it a point to spend time with the kids. You can always chase the next promotion or increment, but you can't bring all that money to the grave with you. Time with the kids, once gone, cannot be bought. When you finally earn enough to spend more time at home, you may find the kids have their own lives, which sadly, does not include you.
alas...advice are meant to be heard not taken. -
Actually, I'm one of those that spoil market by buying quality toys for my kids. And I tend to go quite crazy with toys and books. :oops: Clothes I get ok stuff (not market lelong goods, but certainly not polo/gucci). All this not to look good - rather it's something I can trust not to poison my kids.
And I have brought my kids to holidays in europe - but that's cos there's no one in SG to take care of them, AND we go on the cheap (find cheap accomodation etc).
Not sure how this would then come across, but then, life is too short to wonder how other pp look at me lah. Eat, live, enjoy....I just make sure I can afford it.
oh oh...regarding stories of pp who live simply, there was once a story in papers about investment. This guy stays in clementi hdb flat, drives a really old Jap car...and has 10MN in investments :!: :!: ....sigh.....dunno how to enjoy life? It's good to love to make money I guess (at least for his descendants). -
tankee:
i dread holidays...the night before the start of it, i always don't sleep cos i scared nvr packed enuff or scared missing the flight.
And where did you go for your holidays .... these days, take a few days' leave = overseas vacation
true holidays to me \"means vegetate at home & not at any airport sedating myself before flight take-off\"
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