Spouse or Kids? Which comes first?

[buds]

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

[schweppes]

buds:

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

And when they go boomz, make sure you check that your credit cardz are still inside your walletz.

[buds]

It is very right to take care of oneself first before others…

I thought i took care of myself well, but i guess not enuff…
So, i hope to take care of myself more now… then i hope
i would be a better wife to my husband & a better mommy
to my two girls. Unless if it is already too late…

[autumnbronze]

buds:

Unless if it is already too late..

Hey buds,

Don't be hard on yourself okie ....

From your posts in the forum, you are really one helluva wife, mother and DIL - and I mean it in the VERY positive sense :ugogirl: :hugs: :hugs:

[autumnbronze]

Well ...


I will be joining DH for a biz trip soon.

Initially, my DS was okie and said that he would stay with grdparents. Lately, he actually asked whether \"xxx come with mummi and daddi\", then later progressed to \"mummi don't go.\"

Haiz, as my DH had specifically asked me to join him, I said yes. Somemore his bday ard the corner. Thought better go and celebrate with him. All that discussion abt vulnerability and temptation in the other thread making me go :!:, :scared: and :|.

Better be safe than sorri.

And in times like these, I am so ever GRATEFUL that my DS is able to thrive in an environment where is he showered with unconditional love (ie ILs), which allows me to be away from him with a peace of mind.

So in this particular case, its the spouse that came first

[buds]

I wish you well, autumnbronze.

It will be a well deserved trip
for you both. :hugs:

[foreverj]

wow, dh-freehold, kids-leasehold. this is the first time i hear this but how apt!


to a great extent, in the first few years of the kids entering the family, couple time is a rarity almost a luxury for husband and wife. but for our case, as dd grows older, becomes easier cos she can sleep thru the night and we can have time to ourselves. although dd is with us everywhere, we kinda enjoy that cos already dh works damn long hours. where got time to we go out and leave her with other people? then she wil see her father once a week? (cos she seldom see dh on weekdays already)

in a way, we see it as, once dd grows up and enters the teen years, we doubt she wil want to go out with us anymore. so y not cherish the time we have with her? :love:

[autumnbronze]

buds:

I wish you well, autumnbronze.

It will be a well deserved trip
for you both. :hugs:

Thanks buds, :hugs: to you too.

[autumnbronze]

autumnbronze:

Well ...


I will be joining DH for a biz trip soon.

Initially, my DS was okie and said that he would stay with grdparents. Lately, he actually asked whether \"xxx come with mummi and daddi\", then later progressed to \"mummi don't go.\"

Haiz, as my DH had specifically asked me to join him, I said yes. Somemore his bday ard the corner. Thought better go and celebrate with him. All that discussion abt vulnerability and temptation in the other thread making me go :!:, :scared: and :|.

Better be safe than sorri.

And in times like these, I am so ever GRATEFUL that my DS is able to thrive in an environment where is he showered with unconditional love (ie ILs), which allows me to be away from him with a peace of mind.

So in this particular case, its the spouse that came first

Just need to share this little episode ....

I had gone to drop DS at PILs to stay over during my trip overseas with DH.

The scene as I walked away from my DS was heart-wrenching. He sensed that I was leaving and started crying pitifully, despite the fact that we had prepared him for it ....

What made it worse was the fact that he did not call out for DH, only for me .... with his arms outstretched.

I left with a heavy heart. Told my DH hope we are doing the right thing leaving him in this state

A few minutes later, I called PIL. He had stopped crying. The extended family had all tried their best to calm him down successfully

Once again, I am so GRATEFUL to have them ard and thank my DH for always advising me not to take things to heart, but just focus on their love towards their grandson whenever I disagreed with their mindset with regards to upbringing of DS